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The Masquerade Play Of Life

Masks are often used in masquerade parties. They are costume accessories that disguise one’s true appearance. In today’s post, I am using the metaphor of the masks as facade devices. You use masks to hide your true self. You find comfort and solace in that the world does not know who you really are. There can be also a different mask that you wear for various groups of people. After all, you have important public images or persona to uphold.

Here is what could be happening. You make it a point to look happy, despite feeling lousy. You put on a loving front to your colleagues and friends but in the same breath, complain about them behind their backs.

You pretend that you are the expert in a niche that you have little knowledge in. Your facebook profile shows you as a social butterfly. It is important to be in the “in” group. You make believe that everything is going fine when inside you are really crumbling.

“The play is done; the curtain drops,
Slow falling to the prompter’s bell
A moment yet the actor stops
And looks around to say farewell.
It is an irksome word and task:
And when he’s laughed and said his say,
He shows, as he removes the mask,
A face that’s anything but gay.”

— William Makepeace Thackeray quotes (Indian born English Author and Novelist of ‘Vanity Fair’, 1811-1863)

The Masquerade Play Of Life

Masks may add a touch of frivolity, as we know them to be. They have also been used across several religions, cultures and lifetimes already.

 

We may well be participating in the Masquerade Play of Life ourselves. We are spirits assuming different roles on Earth, the third dimensional stage.

In the play, masks are used for all kinds of reasons. They are used in courtship, where putting on our best front can mean the conquest of a lover; getting our first big break into a new career; clinch a contract; for empowerment, etc.

In some cases, masks can serve useful purposes but in others, they cause harm especially if they are being used deceptively.

“In wise love each defines the secret self of the other, and refusing to believe in the mere daily self, creates a mirror where the lover or the beloved sees an image to copy in daily life; for love also creates the Mask.”
— William Butler Yeats quotes (Irish prose Writer, Dramatist and Poet. Nobel Prize for Literature in 1923. 1865-1939)

Your Cultivated Mask Disguises Your Fears

You have every appearance of being perfect, together, sane, beautiful, loving, compassionate, wealthy and happy. What would others think if they know the truth? You wonder, shuddering at the thought of being “found out”!

“A cultivated style would be like a mask. Everybody knows it’s a mask, and sooner or later you must show yourself — or at least, you show yourself as someone who could not afford to show himself, and so created something to hide behind.”
— Katherine Anne Porter

Your concern is one of non-acceptance. You are worried that others will not like you if they get to know how broken, vulnerable or weak you are. Since society determines worth based on external appearances, it is important that you put on a socially acceptable image.

In secret, you may be running a program of self loathing. You are highly critical and judge yourself harshest of all. There is little self love. You suspect that there is a lot about yourself that others will not find likable. Hence, it is important that you find means to hide your so-called weaknesses from others.

In the process, you choose to wear a mask of pride, strength, dignity, and joy to cover up for your insecurities. The worse you feel about yourself, the more you need to pad yourself up. Only the awakened can see through your inauthenticity.

Masks are really the work of the ego. Your basic fear is that you are not enough. Your ego loves masterpieces. It chooses to add layerings of color, features and textures to make you appear more interesting. These add-ons serve to distract the attention of others. The more your ego weaves them into your various relationships with others, the harder it is for others know who you really are.

Core Problem Arising From Wearing Masks

Problems arise when you are unable to recognize your core essence. The layers of mask have become so thick that you do not realize that your persona is not who you really are deep down inside. The role played out through the mask and who you really are merges into one. The ego becomes you and you become the ego.

“Sometimes people carry to such perfection the mask they have assumed that in due course they actually become the person they seem.”
— William Somerset Maugham quotes (English short-story Writer, Novelist and Playwright, 1874-1965)

The risk is a disconnection. You lose your sense to feel. You are spiritually blocked. The loss in freedom to feel is death itself. You are unable to experience who you really are. When you do not know yourself truly, there cannot be any clarity of your purpose. Your life is pretty much meaningless.

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask.”
—- Jim Morrison quotes (American Poet and Singer. 1943-1971)

Benefits of Unmasking Yourself

Awareness arise when you have an inkling that you are not truly happy. Some of us may be so identified with our unhappy state for such a long time that we are not even aware that we are in fact very miserable. Eckhart Tolle describes this stream of unconscious thoughts as “background unhappiness”.

You may begin to look for answers but alas your search is in all the wrong places. You cannot find peace. You realize that by appearing well, functional or even happy, you have not truly been authentic.

“He who wears a mask cannot see within himself.”
— Unknown

Awakening happens when you find from within. You begin on a journey of self discovery. It is traumatic at first – the losing of the mask. It means having to confront your worst fears. It may mean having to dig into a shameful past to reveal its hidden secrets. It may mean dis-empowering yourself.

At times, you contemplate putting on a brake in your search. You fear that by shedding the mask, you lose your identity. The identity that you have spent time nurturing all these years. What is there left anymore, you ask? Will you be able to recognize yourself? Will your loved ones still cherish you for who you really are?

There is no turning back however once the seeds are planted towards this journey. Soon, the pull of the need to know yourself proves stronger.

Like a grey cloud, the mask lifts.

You experience Clarity.

You realize that there is nothing to fear from what is left behind.

What remains is merely Awakened Consciousness – Your True Essence.

(Inspiration for this post: Akashic Record readings can help to remove blockages that have obscured you from knowing who you really are at source. You cannot be fully aligned to abundance, unless you know your true Self. It is possible that you have identified with your mask for so long and often over lifetimes. Illusion lifts to unveil a soul that has always been there. It is consciousness, waiting to be discovered at the core. )


Share Your Thoughts

Do you agree that you are in some kind of a “stage play” in your physical human role? What empowering messages have you come to know by the losing of your mask, if any? Do share your thoughts, comments and/or suggestions.

Love and abundance always,

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Man - April 13, 2009

Dear Evelyn,
This a a core step of moving towards optimal health, essentially spiritual. I can keep myself physically healthy but to be wholesome and cope with negative emotions on a daily basis I have to unmask myself form all my defense mechanisms that may have become second nature to me. Sure I am using them as a facade to protect myself and to look good on the exterior.
I am practicing the 12 step program where the 4th and 7th step entails that I with rigorous honesty look at my strengths and weaknesses and own them up myself or the a trusted friend. Well there are other tools in it such as the serenity prayer and a higher power. Gradually if i worked on it, it will work. It is rather courageous to unmask which may test ones humility. I am not consistent when metaphorically trying to peel away the layers of an union to get to the deepest part of it which of course will require you or a trusted person and the higher power’s support. I dont write frequently but as i am doing this i do feel that my unmasking has created unhappiness. I need a start where the healing process has a chamce to begin…
Thanks

Metaphysical Junkie - April 13, 2009

As far as wearing masks in social situations, in “A New Earth” Eckhart Tolle explains how people adopt a new “self” based upon their perceptions of what they think other people might be thinking. In other words, there are subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) differences in how we act towards different people: how we act towards our next door neighbor is not the same as how we act towards our best friend, etc. There are different degrees of this. Sometimes people try so hard to fit in that they come off as awkward or fake. (Of course, Tolle is not the first to come up with this concept…I just happen to be listening to his audio CD right now.) 🙂

I know for myself, especially as someone who grew up with Social Anxiety Disorder, the solution is to realize that we are all one. As spiritual beings, we are on the same level and there is no such thing as someone being “higher” or “lesser” than anyone else. It helps to remember that we are all from the same source and that we share this in our core being. This eliminates the need to be anything other than our true self.

Nadia - Happy Lotus - April 13, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

Wonderful post! There was a time in my life when I was very unhappy and had no idea who I was and what I wanted. At that time in my life, I used to feel like I had to put an act in order to make it through my day. It was draining and not fun at all.

Now that my life is so different because I know who I am and I am happy, there is no pressure to put on an act. I feel free to be me without worries. I think we put on masks out of insecurity and a desire to appear perfect. However, in reality, none of us are perfect!

Daphne @ Joyful Days - April 13, 2009

Evelyn,

I love the Jim Morrison quote: The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. When I was younger, I found I would always try to appear cool and in control. I think age helps in self-acceptance, simply because the older I grow, the less I care what others think, and so have less need to put on a mask. Very insightful post.

kirwin - April 13, 2009

Hmmm…the Law of Attraction must be at work here…

Your post is a theme that seems to be showing up a lot lately in my life. Your post, other blog posts, and in a blog interview over the weekend! Maybe my blog is making me more consciously aware the importance of finding my inner passion as well as the importance of pursuing it, despite what others may think. I don’t think I wear a lot of masks, but they are there, covering up and protecting my vulnerable parts. I’m working on dropping them a little, bit by bit.

Pentad - April 13, 2009

Awesome post! This is one of my favorite “subjects” (for lack of a better word). I’m more on the end of quite a few years work on myself regarding this. Everything you wrote is so true. I remember a lot of grieving in the first few phases of stripping that mask…it was so strange feeling lost and lonely, when I thought I should be jumping for joy for jumping into the process. I remember a mentor telling me it would be okay, because I was grieving losing parts of a “defined self” that I had lived with for so many years, and even though these aspects were not really helping me at all. In my field of work we call it the “shadow self”, and it can feel like a best friend, because it is also a defence and protection from “feeling vulnerable” in times of trouble.

Anyhow…NOW, the problems I’ve been encountering lately are a bit different, and that is the reactions of others around me adorned their personal masks, as I spontaneously feel and act on bouts of joy, happiness inside, and compassion……..there are many that feel it must be fake, because who ever really feels THAT happy? hahaha…Well, I do! Then they try to clutch and hold me back in the realm of mainstream, and there are so many ways in which it can be attempted. So, I hold back at certain times so as not to disrupt those around me too much….yet, that doesn’t always feel too good either. Could you write about this aspect of it as well with some advice or help? as a continuation of this post?

Thank you for a neat post!

Tenshi Reply:

That seems to be the trouble, the moment other people brings their masks of perceptions, ideals, beliefs, and judgments to your newly blossoming Awareness, it can empower your own Shadow Self to re-emerge to protect and defend. Thus, you find your Authentic Consciousness slipping back behind a new mask. The mask of, “I’m a Spiritual Seeker of Truth, but how do I deal with all these other people?!?” The only remedy is, continue to stay Aware and Present, and a good sense of humor. Isn’t it silly that all these masks and illusions around you believe that they are real? It’s hilarious!! Live, Laugh, Love. =)

All the best,
Tenshi

Natural - April 13, 2009

this was a great post because i think on some level we all wear masks they help us make it through the day. i sometimes smile when i don’t feel like it.

like the above commenter said, if i do wear a mask, i view it as a protection – it keeps people out. i’m in defense mode i guess. i don’t want to bear my soul to the world.

no matter what mask we put on – or choose not to put on- i don’t think we can ever hide from ourselves. for some reason, i think we know when we are not be true to ourselves.

Davina - April 13, 2009

Hi Evelyn. I enjoyed this post. As an entrepreneur I am challenged with wearing the “appropriate” mask. If I am having a bad day, it is important to put that aside when working with a coaching client. It’s about self-management and clearing the way to be present with them. However, I wear masks at other times too. It’s a subconscious way to protect that vulnerability. What is interesting is I imagine that whatever type of mask we are wearing, we attract those type of people wearing similar masks and we do the “dance” together.

J.D. Meier - April 14, 2009

I think the general pattern is people tend to try to fit in to feel connected.

I think the success pattern is to find your fit and be consistent with your values.

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

@Man, having been through “unmasking” myself, I definitely know how difficult and humbling the process can initially be. I write this post, based on my own personal experiences as well. Now looking back, I wouldn’t want the process any other way. The benefits have been great! I encourage you to have the strength to know who you are at deep down inside.

@Metaphysical junkie, thanks for sharing Eckhart Tolle’s teachings. How coincidental! I have also been listening to some of his audios.

In addition, I applaud you for your courage in sharing about your Social Anxiety Disorder . I think a lot of us benefit from the same awareness as well – We are all One. You are right. There is no need for separation in that sense. We can be our true selves!

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

@Nadia, your earlier experiences are not uncommon. Good for you about being happy and free. I’m sure that you’d agree with me that there can be much beauty even in imperfection. As such and in short, everything is in divine perfection.

@Daphne, I definitely don’t strive to be cool anymore…LOL! Cool used to mean hanging out in pubs for me. Geez….I’m glad that I got knocked some sense. Yes, aging has its advantages. I’m enjoying more inner happiness, peace and freedom than ever before!

David Cain - April 14, 2009

Hi Evelyn!

Do you agree that you are in some kind of a “stage play” in your physical human role?

Oh, for sure. In fact, I think everyone wears some kind of masks, sometimes, and I don’t think they’re all bad. For example, I think it is often worthwhile to refrain from revealing your negative mood to others, because it will probably only make both of you feel worse. It’s a mask, but it serves a positive purpose.

What empowering messages have you come to know by the losing of your mask, if any?

I used to really hate my fears, and try to get rid of them because I thought they were worthless. But now I recognize them as powerful hints about what I value, and what specifically I fear about being myself. Sometimes just identifying a fear can dissolve it, and allow you to be more upfront. I wear fewer masks these days, but I can’t pretend I don’t have any.

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching - April 14, 2009

Thanks for this post Evelyn. I have found thinking about the question of “what do I want to make sure people don’t know about me?” to offer me a lot of useful knowledge. Until I gave that question some serious thought (I realized I didn’t want people to see me as powerless) I wasn’t consciously aware of the answer. And with that realization I was able to drop some of the behaviors I was using to look perfect to people, like I was accomplishing so much and had no problems, that were actually hurting my ability to connect with people.

Lisa (mommymystic) - April 14, 2009

Evelyn, wonderful post. I love the metaphor of masks for the different roles we play, that our egos are built on. I think some of the roles I was personally trapped in, particularly when I was younger, was that of the ‘good girl’ and ‘the achiever’, which kept me working for others approval and external status. My own spiritual journey has helped me break through those masks, and other subtler ones, and the process continues. Now I see there are many ‘roles’ I play – mom, writer, wife, friend, PTO member, etc. – but I don’t see any of them as who I am, and I try to express who I really am authentically through those roles, which of course is easier said than done! But thanks again for a very thought-provoking post.

Vered - MomGrind - April 14, 2009

I do wear a mask, like most. I remove it only when surrounded by the people I trust – my husband, my parents, my children and a handful of close friends. I don’t think I’ll ever feel comfortable removing my mask in front of others.

Dot - April 14, 2009

Hi Evelyn, Did you and Akemi get your Akashic Record training from the same person? You are the only two people I have ever heard use the expression “facade device.” At any rate, this p0st is interesting. In the business world, at least the one I’m in, a mask is essential. You are expected to be cheerful and calm, not whatever you really feel.

In private life, removing the mask is more difficult for some than for others. For instance, discussing my childhood physical and emotional abuse with two of my closest friends turned out to be an alienating experience because neither of them really believed me. I think there has to be a lot of thought put into what to reveal and to whom.

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

Kirwin,

I’m not surprised if you find the law of attraction at work here…LOL!! I haven’t read the rest of the articles though. In any case, I think it is a great idea about working on dropping your masks one by one and gradually. Do what you can at each stage. In time, you’ll be blooming like a flower in all its magnificence!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Jake | Revive Your Life - April 14, 2009

Evelyn,

This was a great post! Ego can be such a powerful force that is very hard to overcome. I love how you said “your basic fear is that you are not enough…your ego loves masterpieces.” That is so true.

I’ve worked hard on being “myself” in all aspects of my life, but I do find it quite difficult not to feel as if I need to be different in the various settings of my life. I think this is an area that takes serious work and determination to find peace – the societal message consistently tells us that the ego is of the utmost importance.

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

Pentad,

Thank you for the wonderful testimony on what I’ve written. Oh yes, those who go through the healing process will know the tears, agony and how humbling it can be alright!! It was so hard that I wanted to stop halfway. It’s great that it is now over! I wouldn’t be this happy myself if I have not worked through mine. I’m glad to know that we’ve shared similar experiences.

I can most certainly identify with being in a more positive state of Being. However, I have not been facing the same issues as you in terms of friends. I think it may be because I hardly have the time to meet up with my old friends. I have also made an intention to “attract” new like-minded friends who are on the same spiritual and personal development journey as me.

So it is that I have been making more friends who are lightworkers or do volunteer work at charitable organizations. I feel inspired by them mostly. They are the ones who from sharing stories of their work also help to “remind” me how blessed I am.

I am also careful of who I surround myself with. If I happen to spend time with some friends who are highly negative, I make sure that I spend as much time cleansing my energy after meeting them. I also send them prayers of healing intent before I go to bed.

I’m not sure what I have been doing so far forms great suggestions. Most certainly, I agree that it’s hard to act as if you are in misery when you are indeed feeling joyous! It just does not make sense to bring your vibes down.

I think it’ll be great that you continue to use your positive state to spread messages of love and light around the world. Many are in need of the spark of hope and inspiration from you!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

@Natural, yes…masks can serve a useful purpose but we should have the ability to take them off when we want to. I agree to what you said “for some reason, i think we know when we are not be true to ourselves”. The thing is to do something about it if we experience a sense of separation.

@Davina, I love your statement “whatever type of mask we are wearing, we attract those type of people wearing similar masks and we do the ‘dance’ together”. So if we want to attract people who are authentic and true, we should really be wearing the same masks or none at all.

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

@J.D. Meier, I’m not sure what you mean by “finding my fit”. Can you explain? I’d like to think that it is not about finding but BEing who I really am and expressing my values and gifts. Others will naturally be attracted and connected if they are of the same resonance or looking to be inspired. Hmmm…I am wondering if we are using different words to express the same thoughts?

@David, great…it seems that we share the same thoughts!! As mentioned to Natural and a few other bloggers, masks can serve useful purposes but it’s really about whether we have the ability to take them off. Also, if we have a niggling feeling that we are inauthentic (which metaphorically means that we have identified overly with some of our masks), we get nudged into taking action.

Thanks for sharing your empowering message. Indications of fear help to highlight areas for us to work on. I can’t say that I have worked on all of mine completely but like you, I’m experiencing less and less fear these days.

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

@Chris, I think that as personal development writers and coaches, we have more vested interest in appearing “perfect”. But it will be naive for anyone to imagine that we don’t experience difficulties ourselves. Thanks for sharing about your question. It’s a great one to ponder over!

@Lisa, a lot of us are brought up to live up to the “good girl” and the “achiever” expectation. We were never taught about “being happy” or “authentic”. It’s fantastic that your spiritual journey has helped you to understand more about masks and your roles in life. I wish you continued peace, harmony and greater wisdom!

@Vered, no one says that you have to completely remove your mask in front of others. Masks can serve a good purpose, if used appropriately. The most important is to be authentic, which I think you already are.

Evelyn - April 14, 2009

Dot,

Yes, we did get the basic training from the same coach some time back. I’m currently in the midst of Level 3, the newest program being released.

My approach is to turn some of the “spiritual woo-woo stuff” to more layman language. The terminology used can be pretty complex to those who are new. Who can really understand what are “facade devices”, “etheric implants” or “draconin beings”? For a person who has never tried soul cleansings or akashic record readings before, it can be too much to absorb in one go.

My preference is to make things more practical and applicable to the general public. It will be great to be able to be dwelling into the woo woo stuff all day. I don’t deny that they make fascinating topics! However, what most of us desire is to make our life experience here on Earth a fulfilling and happy one. It is about the Here and Now. Spending too much time predicting what is going to happen in year 2012 and obsessing over such stuff is about living in the future.

It is a good idea to strike a balance between the conscious, subconscious and superconscious parts of ourselves. Only when there is complete harmony, do we thrive best.

I’m sorry that your experiences on sharing about your abuse with two friends did not end well. Thanks for the insightful point about choosing who to remove our masks to!!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Tess The Bold Life - April 14, 2009

What a fatastic metaphor. The photos are wonderful. Being the middle of 1o kids growing up it came naturally to be myself. If I wore a mask I would have never been noticed. I was a troubled kid who lived out loud from the get go.

As I grew older I discovered it was too much for many people. And my energy was flying in too many directions at once.

In my 30’s I began learning how to reign in my big energy to be more effective. Like Daphne says I think it’s easier and easier the older one gets.

Now that’s an insight, there is something good about getting older. LOL

Positively Present - April 15, 2009

This is a great post. I’ve never thought about wearing a mask before, but we all do it in some way or another. I love the quote “He who wears a mask cannot see within himself.” When you think about it, that is SO true.

Thanks for making me think about such an interesting topic. My mind feels very stimulated right now!

Miguel de Luis - April 15, 2009

Sometimes masks are imposed on us. You are a teacher, a priest, a doctor, people expect you to behave in certain ways. At least around, here in Spain it is so. If you don’t act according to their expectations then they will pay you “pay” somehow. No, they aren’t going to throw you into a river, but you’ll notice they don’t like that.

And then you get the mask and as you get used to it, you feel it comfortable.

Kikolani - April 15, 2009

I think that, while we may be able to pull off wearing masks for our employers and casual acquaintances, it is necessary to remove those masks with those we spend our time with the most, particularly in love. Ultimately, if someone says they love us, then they should accept and love us even more when we let down our guard and show our true selves underneath the mask.

~ Kristi

Marelisa - April 15, 2009

Hi Evelyn: Ah yes, I saw your reference to Tolle’s background unhappiness. I think most people have put so much time and effort into the masks they’ve created for themselves that they’ve completely lost touch with who they really are. And so much time and energy has to be poured into keeping up the false pretense. I read a quote by Carlos Castañeda once that said that if people just stopped pretending to be things they’re not they would discover an enormous reserve of energy.

Evelyn - April 15, 2009

@Tess, what a relief…LOL!! I am glad that you are putting your big energy with focused intention and to good use!

@Positively Present, I am happy to know that this post stimulated more thought. It is intended to. I don’t have all the answers.

@Miguel, hmmm…..getting too comfortable will pose a problem, won’t it?

@Kristi, hmmm…the question is also if we even dare remove the mask to ourselves? Well, based on my previous experience, I didn’t. I wanted to change my mind half way. I put up a big struggle!!

@Marelisa, agreed about the energy!! Once the energy is freed up, people can channel to more creative ways of expressing themselves and their true nature fully!

Patricia - April 15, 2009

Evelyn,
I am working on soul cleansing right now…I noticed that after the death of my mother, I had to work on my life differently and change masks to cope. It was a time of many mask changes in order to search for the self in this new definition.
My friend just lost his wife after a long illness, to keep his family fed he must get up everyday and put on his mask and work. This is good in many ways, but then the drinking mask comes on at night…
People sometime don’t know they control the masks that they wear…
or how to adjust them…many people do not wish to know
Very good post and lovely picture choices…Bravo!

Eric D. Greene - April 16, 2009

“Masks are really the work of the ego” – so true!

I like your writing… found you through Kikolani’s website btw. I’m adding you to my RSS feed! 🙂
-Eric

Evelyn - April 16, 2009

@Patricia, thanks for sharing your personal experiences. We have a choice indeed on how we wish to make use of our masks. You are right. Many people do not wish to know that they can have a choice. They are fearful of confronting their worst fears.

@Eric, welcome to my site. Thanks for the subscription. I’m glad to know that you have found my post helpful!

Stacey / Create a Balance - April 16, 2009

Your writing is simply beautiful today Evelyn. I hope no one mistakes my appearance as being perfect, together, and sane. I hope there are holes in my mask(s) that let light in and let my light shine out. I hope I am “found out”. Sure, being found out is scary, but it is when I feel fully alive.

Robin - April 17, 2009

What a great article, Evelyn – and what great images!

Personally, I think I have gone through a process of learning to wear masks to cope with being in the world, then dropping them in an attempt to be more authentic, to learning to wear then selectively when needing to deal with certain people. And today I work towards having little to do with anyone I might need to put that mask on for e.g. I don’t have an employer I need to please, or if I did, it wouldn’t be someone who I couldn’t be authentic with.

I guess the important thing is to be aware that we are not the mask we wear.

Evelyn - April 17, 2009

@Stacey, thank you for your nice feedback. Except for enlightened Beings, I think no one will expect a person to be “perfect, together and sane”. I’m imperfect in a lot of ways too but the question is how close am I to being fully authentic.

@Robin, you’ve provided me a great insight into what I’ve been doing too. Like you, I’ve been spending less time with people with whom I need to put on a mask; that is far removed from who I really am. I’m glad that the only “boss” I need to answer to now is my Higher or Better Self.

Dot - April 18, 2009

I agree that working with the here and now is more important to most people than theorizing about 2012. I like the term mask far more than facade device. We would say facade, but not facade device. In my reading that I blogged about, I was told that my soul was wearing masks, and that they’ve been removed. However, I also wear masks. I not only wear a mask that tries to convince the world that everything’s fine, but at times I also wear a mask of the poor victim who has been through so much. I have a little knowledge of what is behind those masks, but not enough.

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Evelyn - April 20, 2009

Hello Dot,

Noted about the word that should be used for facade, rather than facade device; for easy understanding. I’m glad that “masks” was used to help you understand things better in your reading. In akashic record readings, we were taught with the word “shell” or “facade device”.

Discovering who-is behind the masks is, for most of us, not a one-time event. It is a journey. It may also well be that one fine day on a park, like in Eckhart Tolle’s experience, you have a major breakthrough and can suddenly see your true self in total clarity.

I wish you much peace, love and light!

Evelyn

Chania Girl - April 22, 2009

While I was reading this post, I kept thinking about a Twilight Zone episode I saw years ago. In it the main characters were all forced to wear hideous masks (I think in order to receive some part of a dead man’s inheritance?). All of the characters were loathe to take on their masks at first but also greedy enough to give in. At the end of the episode, they are finally allowed to remove their masks and, as each one peels it off, the face that greets him in the mirror is identical to the grotesque mask he wore.

I agree that the masks we wear frequently hide our true selves and can become a barrier behind which we hide. But what of this idea that the mask we wear may also shape who we are over time?

I wonder, Is it wrong that I put on a smile today even though I’m feeling really blue? Won’t wearing this smile potentially help “turn my frown upside down”? Where is the happy medium?

Thank you for sharing this post. It definitely got me thinking. Any thoughts?

Evelyn - April 22, 2009

Hello Chania Girl,

Thank you for visiting my blog.

Wearing masks can sometimes be helpful as you have shared. In my post, I wrote that it only becomes a problem when you are overly identified with a persona that is very separate from who you are deep down inside. The risk is inauthenticity. You may also lose your ability to feel, to be intimately connected with who you are.

If you have every awareness that you are wearing a mask and that you have a choice in wearing it or not, or when to take it off, then there is no issue at all.

Love and light,
Evelyn

Monica - April 23, 2009

This is a very thought provoking post Evelyn and I love how you communicated it so simply.
I’m not sure if this is a mask in the way that you speak of but I know I am more reserved with people I have just met. I am not “myself” until I tend to know them a little better. I assume it has to do with acceptance as opposed to rejection, or to not put people off by being too “me” I believe this was a big contributing factor in my social anxiety years ago.
I write this and it sounds silly to not be me all the time!
I know it will take more awareness in the moment to drop the mask. I also laugh at myself more. Not taking myself so seriously helps me to loosen up and be myself.
Thanks for this article, I’ll be watching for my masks more closely!

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kelly - March 26, 2010

Been doing some work with masks and there metaphors and found this article enriching. Discovering what they are and what they mean to me. I feel as if I have just started my journey to noticing the underlying patterns that we make and what occurs during the process of wearing the mask.
I look forward to taking off the mask and learning when to keep it on!

Charlie - December 7, 2010

Hi Evelyn and others,

This post was helpful to me, so I think that I owe it to the community to respond. I feel like not responding would be a kind of protective mask of myself, because when I receive something positive I feel like I owe something in return.

It’s difficult to respond, though, because of the particular mask that this post has made me realize that I’ve been wearing. I’ll get to what this particular mask is in a moment, but I have something to add to this. I notice now that it’s difficult for me to reveal these details, and I think that this is an okay thing: but it’s something that I would normally mask in some way. There’s no need to mask it. It’s okay to merely say that I’m not comfortable sharing all of these details with, in this instance, an Internet community. Instead of masking it somehow, it’s okay to instead just say that I’m uncomfortable sharing these things: so to add to your post, I’d say that being selective with whom we trust with our true selves is not necessarily a mask. Yet if we’re not comfortable enough with who we are to share these things, it is instead a confession of insecurity.

Needless to say, I’m willing to confess to that insecurity. It’s something I’m working on and doing a fine job confronting.

To return to my initial paragraph and the main discussion of this post, I’ll tell you that this post helped me to realize that I mask my sexual insecurity. Instead of being honest in situations in which sexuality comes up, I hide behind sexual jokes and a mask of masculinity. Although I have some masculine tendencies, I’m not a very masculine guy, yet I hide behind this mask. I begin to wonder to what extent this mask has hidden from me who I really am.

I don’t feel that it’s helpful to the discussion to go into these details, but wanted to share my example of a particular mask that I’ve found in hopes that it would be helpful to others in looking for their masks. I found this particular mask by looking at my friends and with whom I most feel like myself. I realized that I’m more honest with a particular friend than anyone else, looked at the ways I’m dishonest with him, and found this masculine facade.

Obviously I need to look at it and my impulses more carefully: finding this mask is the easy part. Breaking this mask down is the hard part. But I thought I would share my discovery and thank you all for your writing. Evelyn, your initial post was very helpful, but your comments below as well as those of all contributors helped as well. Thanks, everyone, for sharing.

-Charlie

Evelyn Reply:

Hello Charlie,

Thank you for sharing about your thoughts. I would like to think that we all have our insecurities. I certainly have my own. We also have varying degrees of comfort with different groups of people. And even if we should decide to unveil our true selves, we can do it gradually and up to our own comfort levels.

You are wise in your insight: “finding this mask is the easy part. Breaking this mask down is the hard part.” I applaud you in your efforts towards greater authenticity. What we need to start with is self acceptance. With acceptance and forgiveness can we truly own ourselves.

All the best to your journey,
Evelyn

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