The Fragility of Life

Chinese New Year lasts for 15 days but Kay did not see it to the last. (Read my previous post here.) He just passed away at 4pm today. My husband and I did what we could to help him in terms of distance healing but I guess it was not to be. In the last one week, we even got hold of a monk, who spent 17 years of his life meditating in the deep forest of Thailand, to do some energy healing on Kay. Alas…Kay had already gone through 11 sessions of chemotherapy by the time we learnt about his cancer slightly more than a week ago and any help in energy healing, according to the monk, is at best limited.

This is the second death that I am encountering these few days. An uncle of mine passed away 2 days ago, his funeral is today. He died due to complications in the liver, at the age of 50+. Still a good many years to go, if not for having gotten ill.

I might have not been close to Kay and my uncle, but their passing away puts me in a contemplative mood about the fragility of life. As it is often said, the only thing that is certain in life is death. We must therefore, cherish the good things we are enjoying and live life to the fullest.

Kay was only 43 (same age as my husband) when he passed away. He might have had a lot of things that he was looking forward to; but from what I knew, he was already in a career that he loved and had a fulfilling relationship with his wife.

I also started thinking about my life, as I am writing this post. Boy am I glad to have the chance to take stock of mine sometime last year. Without which, I would not have gone on to intensive therapy in emotional self healing and to doing meditation everyday. I would not have looked at life so differently from what I have been seeing all these years. In deep appreciation for my family and abundance is where I am everyday now. I would also not have realised that I could potentially be putting my writing skills to good use by sharing my own experience and inspiring others to take charge of their lives, through this blog.

Incidentally, I’m in the midst of selling away two of my money making sites, so that I can focus more of my energies in my own personal development. I’ve got my doubts sometimes about running and writing for this self help site; not sure if it is going to have an audience of readers or if it is going to generate traffic. But my new dream and purpose is keeping me alive and I have decided to give it a go, come what may.

So to all you out there, who’s daring to make a change. Here’s one saying to remind you to love and live life….

“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”
— Ashley Smith

To all those who have helped sent positive loving energy for Kay, as a result of my previous post, the above flower image, with a saying from one of the sutras, is something I did for you. I’ve felt touched by your kindness and love to a stranger. On behalf of Kay and myself, I thank you…..

“If you touch one thing with deep awareness, you touch everything.”
— Thich Nhat Hanh

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Ranjit Menon - February 20, 2008

Hello Evelyn;

It’s very sad to learn about your friend, Kay. But I want to let you know that though I may not have replied all that often, I have always found your daily links and efforts to keep information to be a positive blessing in my life. It’s true that you don’t miss something till it is really gone away. That is so true in my case too, as I am fighting the battle between what I really WANT to do in life as opposed to what I FEEL what is the best thing. As you notice too, the latter is more easier to choose. One should just slow down and accept that, because the greatest realization in this limited lifespan is the right feeling of mortality and why it makes life even more beautiful.

Hoping for your healing.

Brenda Skidmore - February 20, 2008

Evelyn;

I just read your post today. I want to encourage to keep doing what you are doing. You go girl! I love reading about your thoughts. We have a lot in common, as I am doing much the same thing you are doing. I must keep my day job to pay the bills, but I put a lot of time, effort, and thought into my web business venture. It is a place where I go to share with others the many different ways (or techniques) there are to self-healing.

I went way past my comfort zone, over 2 years ago, when I decided I had to try and do this. I helped myself so much, that I felt it was my way of contributing, by using my writing skills.

Something I learned recently from reading a book, and using an accompanying audio that was given to me as a gift, and titled, “Sound Health Sound Wealth” by Luanne Oakes, PH.D., is that it is human nature to want to resist positive change. We resist it within ourselves, and while making these changes others will often resist the changes we are trying to make for ourselves. By nature, we feel more security and comfort inside what we already know, and fear what we do not. When these new and positive changes are noticed by others, they want to preserve the old relationship ‘sameness’ of what we used to be, to hold tightly to the ‘status quo’.

This is why we should take this as a positive sign that we are, indeed, doing the right thing. We will get through the changes just fine, and if others truly love us they will , eventually, see that it is all for the higher good of everyone. If they can not accept the changes within us, then we are better off without the energy leaks that cause us to feel bad.

Brenda Skidmore
Missouri, USA

My Water 4 Life

Dr James D Swann DD - February 20, 2008

Evelyn my dear,
Sadly I write from hearing the news about Kay.
Sometimes we wonder why such a young life is taken, before his time.
Yet, maybe he had fulfilled his mission here and was called to a higher plain of ascension.
Only Creator knows what’s best for us in the end, even though we resist.
As you say, we have to cherish what we have here in this moment of time and be grateful.
Peace and Blessings on you and those close to him, as well as his wife and family.
James

pearl - February 20, 2008

Hi Evelyn

Im sorry to hear about the sad events and can relate as I myself experienced these same emotions recently at the death of one of my very good friends, another friend’s sister and yet another friend’s father! its amazing how the adage ‘life is short’ really starts to make sense in these times but how quickly we become busy with everyday routine again and forget it… so its important to enjoy every single moment and be happy. Wishing you lots of peace and blessings.

The Story Lady - February 20, 2008

Thank you for sharing this and I am sorry for your los. Even knowing death is part of life and accepting that, we still miss those about whom we care. I’m a Reiki Master Teacher, so anytime you need distance healing sent for yourself or a loved one, please ask me.
The Story Lady
(Stumble group)

Evelyn - February 21, 2008

Thank you Ranjit, Brenda, James, Pearl and The Story Lady, for your thoughtful and kind comments. I will be taking some time to ponder over what you have written. For some reasons, it’s been a teary day for me.

Here’s my small attempt in a poem dedication to Kay, a fighter pilot, who used to fly with my husband….

Like a bird, he soars
Free from the pain, at last.
In flight, he will always be
Amongst the clouds
A pilot of the skies.

With much love,
Evelyn

Suzie Cheel - February 21, 2008

My thoughts are with you, life is so fragile

The second time this week I am struck with the importance of living for today as we don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

May the angels be with

Darlene Norris - February 21, 2008

Yes, life is fragile. My husband has serious health issues and wound up in the ER several times last year. I realize that any of these episodes could end badly, although I try to stay in the thought that he’s going to be with me for many more years. He’s also in chronic pain most of the time, so sometimes it’s hard for him to remain positive.

I try to encourage him to live for now and take each day as it comes. We bought an RV last year and went travelling for five months, and plan to do it again this year. Seize the day!

Brennan Kingsland - February 21, 2008

Thank you for your beautiful site and your sharing. I feel you are wise to focus on growing the inner self. Too many people come to the end of their lives without having really experienced any of it.

As a hospice nurse, it has been my privilege to assist those I can. What a precious gift life is. Why do so many squander it? I guess they’re saving up lessons for another time.

My condolences to you and your husband on your recent losses, but in my heart I know the ones who have passed-over are happy and you will see them again.

It’s a never-ending circle.
Brennan

Susan - February 25, 2008

Which version of The Secret have you seen? Did you see the first one with Abraham channeled by Esther Hicks, who tells you HOW to create your own reality?? Wonderful, wonderful stuff!! http://www.abraham-hicks.com, http://www.theabeforum.com. All is well.

susan the joyseeker

Evelyn - February 25, 2008

Hello Darlene, I will be sending your husband some healing energy. You are so right. It’s important to seize the day!

Susan, are you referring to the “Secret Behind The Secret”? Yes, I’ve watched it. I’ve gained a great deal from Abraham’s teachings.

Thanks to all who have shared and letting me know that I am on the right path.

With much love and appreciation,
Evelyn

The Fragility of Life

Evelyn

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