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Resolving Conflicts: Peace or Drama?

Peace Or Drama?

Most of us condemn those who choose war over peace, violence over compassion. But what about us? How are we like in our daily lives?

peace or war
(photo by Jayel Aheram)

If you have been experiencing much conflict in your relationships with others, then it is that while you say you value peace, your actions may well be demonstrating otherwise.

Your actions are the doing of the ego. Your ego is addicted to drama. There is a surge of negative energy that feeds your anger, frustration and hostility. Once started, it is hard to stop the gathering momentum of this energy.

Your survival is at stake, when your ego feels threatened. You need to move into the position of defense if an attack is no longer possible. You feel justified in your actions. If war is what your thoughts are saying, war is what you will get.

You are now a war general planning your moves. You have a war to fight. You need to be right!

So is it really Peace that you are after?

Being Right

Being right strengthens the ego. You experience a sense of superiority. It can be subtle at times. It happens when you believe that you are fighting for a just cause. But being right is about identifying with a mental state – an opinion, a judgment, a story, a perspective. When you are right, it also means that someone else is wrong. If the other person feels challenged by your insistence of being right, it becomes the fight of the egos.

You may again insist that you are right because of the facts. But facts can also be a matter of perception. They can also get clouded with other considerations. Egos are great at distorting information to satisfy the selfish needs of oneself. What you perceive as facts may well be an illusion.

“I am right; you are wrong” is a common belief that causes separation. It is the thought that causes the divide among nations, religions and cultures. No good has ever come from the adoption of this belief.

Your Grievances with Others

Over time, resentment becomes grievance. It is a strong negative emotion connected to an event kept alive by the retelling of the story in your head. The grievance is invariably about what “someone did to me”. You cannot let go of its grip over you.

You also look for instances that strengthen the same story. Each instance is a validation of “I am right” thought pattern. Your grievance is long-suffering. You now play the victim role. The heavier the baggage of past hurts, the more dramatic your role is.

Life Is a Mirror

What you get out of life pretty much mirrors your thoughts. Hence, the egoic patterns that you react most strongly to in others are probably the same patterns that you are also displaying. So if you want to learn more about how you have been reacting to life, look at your enemies. What about them that particularly upsets or frustrates you? Is it their need for control or power? Is it their insincerity or selfishness? Is it their greed?

More often than not, your egoic behavior is not obvious to you. They are usually presented or expressed in a different form. However essentially the basic emotion, fear or thought pattern is the same. What you see in others is a reflection of you. According to the Law of Attraction, you have also attracted what lie within your thoughts.

The same patterns in behavior can also be found in your home, workplace or community simultaneously, or they may be recur over and over again through the years. You may wonder why you find yourself continually stuck in the same dramas or nightmares.

The answer is that life draws to you the same learning experiences in various forms until you have learned them. Just like taking a test or examination, you do not graduate until you have passed it. You are in pain and suffering, while you remain in darkness.

Do you choose to see the Light?

Make Peace With the Present Moment

One problem or challenge ends; another arises. Such is the nature of life. They are learning experiences meant to help your soul grow. In a way, your conflicts with others is not really about others.

It is about your relationship with the Now. When you are in resistance with the Now, you will find yourself experiencing conflict in everything (be it an event or relationship with others) that you encounter. You are basically not at peace in the moment. Nothing goes right!

The questions to ask yourself when you are experiencing dysfunctional relationships: What is my relationship with the Now? Fighting? In resistance? What am I aligned to? Oneness? Or Separation? What am I choosing in my present experience: Peace or Drama?

Upon awareness, you realize that you have a choice. You can end the conflict that you are in. You decide if you want to make peace or war right this instant. You move in alignment with whatever comes up in the Now. Your state of Being changes. You experience a change in paradigm. A sense of calmness follows. A letting go. Others respond more positively. Your relationships improve with the making of a new friend – Now.

And since life is made up of moments, by making peace with each successive moment, you are also making Peace with Life.

Inner Reflections

When time slowed to a halt for me to investigate into my own undoing, I suddenly resonated deeply what Eckhart Tolle was trying to say. The nature of conflict with others really lies with the conflict we have ourselves with the flow of life. Make Peace!

Share Your Thoughts

How do you successfully resolve your conflicts with others? Are you at peace with life? Share your tips, thoughts and/or comments!

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Lisa (mommymystic) - April 23, 2009

Evelyn, This has been a big theme in my journey, as I think anger born from a sense of ‘being wronged’ was a big pattern of mine when I entered adulthood. I have worked at untangling the ego threads underlying this, and it is much better now, but still when I am under stress or challenged in some way, anger is the most likely negative tendency to enter my awareness. And it is interesting how easy it is to profess peace/compassion while doing it in a self-righteous/dogmatic way that actually puts out and attracts anger rather than peace! I think for me working at understanding others, rather than trying to ‘push’ myself into an emotional feeling of compassion, has been the key to working through this. Thanks for another insightful post.

Evelyn - April 23, 2009

Lisa,

It’s interesting what you said about professing peace/compassion while going about it all wrong and then attracting the very thing that incites anger. For a while, I’ve also been wondering what am I missing. I realize that if I need to make peace with whatever that is dysfunctional or in conflict now, in order to experience beautiful relationships.

Good for you in trying to understanding others. Yes…compassion is a feeling that arises naturally. There is no need for “push”.

I’m now using my angst, complaints or whatever that I say of others to look inside myself. Hopefully, like what Eckhart says, awareness dissolves the ego.

All the best to you as always,
Evelyn

Jay Schryer - April 23, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

Thanks fior this post. This is something that I’ve been trying to work through for the past few months, since my last relationship ended. While trying to process things, and see where I went wrong, I’ve found myself slipping into “victim mode” again and again.

Whenever I find myself playing the victim, I force myself to take a step back, and ask myself : “Why did I bring this problem into my life? What am I trying to teach myself?” Sometimes, that’s all I need to clear my negative thoughts and move on. Other times, it takes more work before I’m ready to forgive.

In the end, I think forgiveness is the key. Not only do you have to forgive others, but you have to forgive yourself, too.

Zoe - April 23, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

It’s interesting to think about my thought processes in these situations. As hard as it sometimes seems, I try to ask myself, “Is this really where I want to focus my energy?” And in many cases, I realize that any negative energy I have comes from anticipating — not from what actually is. Luckily, I’m an optimistic person most of the time, so it’s easier to snap out of negative directions.

Thanks for your insights!

Lance - April 23, 2009

Hi Evelyn,
The idea of choice is what’s jumping out at me here. And as much as I know this – the idea that between stimulus and response, we have the choice of how to respond (from Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, which I think applies to what you’re saying as well). In that moment of choice, what am I choosing? Is it a response based upon understanding and peace – or one of putting up shields, and creating a confrontational situation? And the other thought I’m having is about understanding others. Great stuff to think about Evelyn!

Dot - April 23, 2009

There are some sound psychological concepts in this article. For example, often when we can’t figure out why something makes us so angry, it can be a trait of our own that we are in denial about, because we dislike that trait so much, we can’t admit that we have it.

One of the best and hardest lessons I’ve learned in therapy is to let go of all-or-nothing thinking. I used to speak in terms of “I hate that” or “I love this,” instead of “I dislike that” and “I enjoy this.” If something wasn’t perfect, it was awful.

Nothing is ever all bad; nobody is ever totallly wrong. When you can remember to see that all of life is shades of gray, not black-and-white, then you can accept that each of you in the argument is probably partly right and partly wrong. Acknowledging what’s right in the other person’s argument often helps them back down from their own all-or-nothing thinking and encourages dialogue and compromise.

I also think that, as you say in different words, as long as we think violently, we’ll have wars. Those Americans who want to “bomb them back to the Stone Age” or “let’s kill them all and let God sort them out” are creating the potential for war.

Nadia-Happy Lotus - April 23, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

You are right…it all boils down to the fact that we have the power to choose what we want. If we want peace, we have to be peace. It is so simple yet we humans complicate things for no reason. This post will serve as a reminder that we each have the power to create the reality that we wish. 🙂

Anita - April 23, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

Just want to take the time to say — Great article! This is my first time here. I found your site through my cousin. I’ve enjoyed reading your posts, and taking the quiz. Really loved the mind movie — very creative & good music too. This looks like a great site! You now have one more reader.

Jenny Mannion - April 23, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

Wow you are talented – very thought provoking and beautiful post.

When I began blogging about natural healing I felt I was at war with BIG Pharma. I was so upset that for years I had been told to take drugs and no one ever mentioned the possibility of me healing myself. When I approached it that way it caused anger in myself and resistance and anger from readers. In shifting to coming from a place of peace and love and writing about healing EVERYTHING changed.

I agree we are mirrors and BOY have I seen this CLEARLY in my own life. I choose to approach life from peace and love. Usually my son is the only one who can ruffle my feathers and I am working on my patience with a 9 year old boy – because I know it is I who am allowing myself to become ruffled! 😉 I am generally at peace which is the opposite of how I was for so long and to say life flows easily and beautifully now is a HUGE understatement! 🙂

Thanks Evelyn — so important and a lovely job of writing.

Love, xo
Jenny

Louis - April 24, 2009

Thank you very much for the post Evelyn. I’ve been experiencing lots of drama these past months. This was a very enlightening post. Let’s all make peace!

Vered - MomGrind - April 24, 2009

I usually avoid conflict and drama simply because it’s not worth it. It’s a waste of precious time and energy. I do think that avoiding conflict at all costs is a mistake – sometimes we need to be assertive and stand for what’s important to us.

Victor Tan - April 24, 2009

Thanks Evelyn for the sharing..:)

I had many arguments in the past few weeks and after reading your post, on close reflection, I guess that there is a part of me that wants “drama”, and of course that stupid ego of mine…

I always told my friends that whenever we experience a “strong” emotion (like love, hate, lust etc), we should try our best to “separate” ourselves from the emotion, to literally “feel” and realise that the emotions are actually not “me”, and we have the choice not to be controlled and “engulfed” in it. Simple mindfulness, FEEL, HEAR, SEE to BE in the present and moment is the key to realising this…. but I guess I am not applying it.. haiz

Positively Present - April 24, 2009

I love what you said about life being a mirror and making peace with the present moment. Both of these statements are so true nad we would be wise to listen to your words.

Great post!

http://positivelypresent.typepad.com

Marelisa - April 24, 2009

Hi Evelyn: I think you make a very good point here. People who experience a lot of conflict in their life need to ask themselves: how am I contributing to this? At the very least you can choose to remain internally at peace regardless of what might be going on around you.

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching - April 24, 2009

Thanks for this post. One thing I’ve found in my meditation practice is that my body has a specific way that it feels when I am getting into conflict mode — there’s a tightness between my shoulder blades and a sort of “sour” feeling (that’s the best words can do I think). When I breathe deeply into that area and loosen it up, the conflict-ridden thoughts also tend to quiet down.

Daphne @ Joyful Days - April 24, 2009

“You also look for instances that strengthen the same story. Each instance is a validation of “I am right” thought pattern.”

This is so true in my experience and from observing others. We see only what we want to see, and choose to give more attention and energy to facts that build up our story, while ignoring facts that suggest the story is overly dramatic or even untrue.

I like this series of posts on the ego, Evelyn. I find that often my ego chooses drama over peace as well. Thanks for the insight!

Evelyn - April 24, 2009

@Jay, you are only a victim when you make yourself out to be one. I’m glad that you realize that. Going through a relationship breakup is hard. I’ve been through some myself in the past and it was never easy! It’s wonderful that you realize forgiveness is key whether to self or others! Take care!

@Dot, the article may sound simplistic or conceptual but for myself, I realize that I don’t derive value from any more self analysis at this stage. It’s also when I started to pick up Eckhart Tolle’s book again and read it for the third or forth time, in addition to listening to his audios, that I began to see what he was trying to say. In fact, the suggestion of choosing peace in a given moment of conflict, has helped me experientially.

On some occasions, I can find myself acknowledging the other person’s point of view or his/her side of the story but at the same time, unwilling to back down. It’s the “yes, you may be right but I am also right”. In that moment of unawareness, by having this stance I have allowed a conflict to continue.

Yes, I am also saying that while we claim that we want peace overall, we may not be practicing enough of it in our daily lives. Myself included!

Evelyn - April 24, 2009

@Nadia, I laughed when I read your comment. Eckhart said the same thing too! We analyze way too much. After all that analysis, we are still having issues and problems. We may still be carrying our negative baggage. Yes, if we start from the very basic, if we choose peace, we will have peace.

@Anita, welcome to my site. Hmmm….I’m wondering who your cousin is. I’m going over to your site soon. I’m happy to know that you’ve enjoyed the posts here.

Evelyn - April 24, 2009

Jenny,

I am in every way as talented as you are! Don’t forget we are all One 🙂

I’m glad to know how your negative experiences have taught you some valuable lessons. Without them, you wouldn’t be sharing the beautiful messages you have today for others to learn from.

Oh yes, it is hardest with family. I am rarely in conflict with others. But our family members are the ones who challenge us to better ourselves in every way!

All the best to you,
Evelyn

Evelyn - April 24, 2009

@Louis, hope my post was useful for you. Take care!

@Vered, I think it is not about avoiding conflict but choosing wise responses rather than reacting and reacting.

@Victor, it may not be quite easy to apply but practice makes perfect 🙂 Awareness helps! I think you’ve got it there!

@Positively Present, thank you for your feedback!

Evelyn - April 24, 2009

@Marelisa, the tendency is to blame others but in reality, each of us do contribute to the conflict that we are experiencing. Aye to internal peace!

@Chris, hmmm….good point about listening to the body’s response as well! I can relate to the “sour” feeling. I think I call it “sick”.

@Daphne, our egos are masters at selective perception! Glad that you are liking the series. They are written from personal experiencing, suffering, meditation, study and observations of self and others.

Liara Covert - April 24, 2009

This post certainly offers universal themes human beings can relate to.
Hidden anger is something often unnoticed or disregarded. A person can believe he successfully keeps negative energy ‘in check.’ Yet, this is not the same as choosing to feel, explore unacknowledged feelings and learn to deal with them. The thing is, people do not always know why they feel as they do. As you learn how it feels to be more honest with yourself, it becomes easier to sort through the anger. As Jenny Mannion says, one can transmute negativity into love and forgiveness. The result is an incredible lightness of being, the core feeling of soul love.

J.D. Meier - April 24, 2009

I find the key in any conflict is asking yourself what you want to accomplish.

Once you have that map, it gets easier. Otherwise, it’s all too easy to react in the moment.

Jonathan | EnlightenYourDay.com - April 25, 2009

Inspiring Post Evelyn. I really see AMM evolving into something spectacular. I loved the idea “Life Is a Mirror. What you get out of life pretty much mirrors your thoughts.” Very true.

I started to find more peace in my life when I gave up my need to be right. This quote also taught me that in some conflicts, its better to discard then to argue.

“Where is the peace in more is better? This idea keeps us exclusively in the physical domain. You can replace the more is better belief with an inner serenity that doesn’t need more to be acceptable. There is no peace in more is better, and if it doesn’t being peace to your life, then it’s something you want to discard.” Wayne Dyer

Cheers

Jonathan

Hilda - April 25, 2009

Hi Evelyn,

It’s really interesting how strong our desire to be right can be, and we can get so caught up in it that we’re completely blinded to how miserable it can make us. Sadly I don’t do it often enough, but when I do manage to catch myself in the act of feeling righteous and hard done by, I now ask myself “do I want to be right or be happy?” That never fails to shift my perspective and I easily let go of the need to be right then. I remember that I can choose peace instead 🙂

Thanks for this powerful reminder!

Jannie Funster - April 25, 2009

As Liara Covert points out, you can let negative events unfold without them affecting your own peace. It’s how you look at things.

A bit not letting myself be at each this very moment, because I’m thinking of all the things I “should” be doing, rather than enjoying blogging, but that will pass too. And very soon.

Evelyn - April 25, 2009

@Liara, well said. You’ve helped me with an added perspective. Yes, in that moment of conflict, with a brewing drama going on, it is hard to determine right away the reasons for the anger. A step back offers me the opportunity to decide how I would like to choose my present experience. Most certainly, it becomes much easier to transmute negativity into love and forgiveness!

@J.D., oh yes…as I have just written in response to Liara, I totally agree!

@Jonathan, thanks for your compliments! You said “I started to find more peace in my life when I gave up my need to be right. This quote also taught me that in some conflicts, its better to discard then to argue.” How wise you are! It is not that we become weaklings or don’t feel the need to make a stand for ourselves, it is choosing a wise response for the moment of now. There are always gentler ways to present to the other party if we have a different perspective of things. And it need not always be during a time when emotions run high. Thanks for sharing the quote from Wayne Dyer! Love his work too!

Evelyn - April 25, 2009

@Hilda, I I learned this important phrase during my stock investing days “when emotions run high, intelligence comes down”. We can get so caught up with the drama that we forget that it actually does not make us happier. It’s nice to know that both of us are hoping to choose peace!

@Jannie, I know…I know…I wonder about the same too: Have I gone crazy? Why am I spending my time blogging and on the web when I can be relaxing or doing something else?

Dragos Roua - April 25, 2009

Evelyn,

Thanks or this post. You are so right and I resonated with what you said 100%. It was only lately, after I bumped into my thirties that I start to understand some of the patterns of my life. The biggest the conflict I had with some people, the biggest the lesson. The biggest the deceit I had in personal relationships, the higher the freedom feeling that followed. Making peace is hard because you feel you lose something. But being in the present moment you can’t really lose anything, because all you have is the present moment.

Everything around us is a reflection of ourselves. Honesty and courage is what make this picture a little brighter.

Mike Foster - April 25, 2009

It is a constant battle for me to keep my emotions in check, especially while dealing with situations that challenge and annoy. I really like what you said here: Life Is a Mirror. We more often than not get back what we give. I say, Kill ’em with kindness.

peace,
mike
livelife365

Evelyn - April 25, 2009

@Dragos, you made a great point with “The biggest the conflict I had with some people, the biggest the lesson.” I certainly see that happening for me; except that in my unconscious state, I call these conflicts “sufferings” rather than lessons. I also like what you’ve beautifully articulated “Making peace is hard because you feel you lose something. But being in the present moment you can’t really lose anything, because all you have is the present moment.” Thanks for reinforcing the same message, which I need to be aware of!

@Mike, you are soooo funny with “kill em with kindness”! Take care and have an awesome weekend!

Laurie | Express Yourself to Success - April 26, 2009

This has been a very useful post for me. I’m facing a potential argument with one of my colleagues that’s been on my mind for several days now. By the end of your post I was able to figure out what I need to do and part of that is to be in the Now when this impending discussion happens. And, like magic, my dread of the situation is gone! I needed to read this today. Thank you!

Evelyn - April 26, 2009

Laurie,

Thank for your feedback! I am so glad to know that my post has practical applications for someone else other than for myself. Tips are most useful when they can be directly acted upon. Perhaps to most, Eckhart Tolle’s teachings are at best conceptual. However, I have found that when I investigated and applied what he was trying to teach, his suggestions go beyond just textbook teachings.

What I have also gained from this process is that there can only be so much we can gather from text. Experiential learning is key! The understanding is very much deeper. We also appreciate the true beauty of the lessons.

I’m glad that your dread has “magically” disappeared. Hopefully, you are now on a clean slate in renewing your friendship with your colleague.

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Stacey / Create a Balance - April 26, 2009

I often hear people say that happiness is contagious. This post is reminding me (at the perfect time) that the ego is contagious too. When someone speaks to me from the ego it is very easy for my ego to jump into the conversation to react. The secret for me is to build space between hearing someone’s ego and responding to give myself time for observation and awareness. This is so difficult to do in the heat of the moment.

Davina - April 27, 2009

Hi Evelyn. I’ve enjoyed reading all the comments. It’s great to see how many doors one blog post can open. What Dot said about how all of life is shades of grey resonated with me big time, as well as J.S. Meier’s point that the key in any conflict is asking yourself what you want to accomplish.

Evelyn - April 27, 2009

@Stacey, I like the way you’ve articulated about building space and giving time for observation. Yes, it is habitual that we react emotionally rather than taking a step back. Hopefully, in time, we can learn to respond with wisdom and compassion, rather than getting emotionally attached to the moment.

@Davina, I learn a fair bit with every post. Blog comments are gems. After all, they come from a bunch of highly committed and evolved folks, like yourself 🙂

David Cain - April 27, 2009

Great post, Evelyn. Trying to make others wrong is such an insidious habit. I was not even aware how much I did it until I read The Power of Now. Of course, I still do it, but much less.

I think ‘being right’ and ‘making others wrong’ is still the main engine that drives politics everywhere.

Peace or drama; when you put it like that way, it’s an easy choice.

Victor Tan - April 29, 2009

Dear Evelyn,

I have a question, but that is based on your latest Akashic Record post ( I can’t post there). You mentioned something I find extremely interesting, the “fifth dimension” (the Spirituality).

We understand from the laws of the Universe in Scientific perspective, that the Universe follows the Space-Time law, and there are 4 dimensions. Length, Width, Height, and TIME. Everything is relative to each other, and the dimension of the Space-Time is warped and curved, likened to a Cone. This was FIRST visualized by Prof Albert Einstein, which he published in his Special Theory of Relativity where he linked Space-Time with matter and Energy, and that EVERY object in this Universe can be represented by 4 numbers which define one unique position in the Universe.

I understand you have a special power that enables you to view one’s soul records, and I thought that since you mentioned about the “5th” Dimension, I like to hear from you more about this ? In your visualization, how is the 5th Dimension related to the 4 Dimensions explained in Science? Is the Akashic Records or the Akashic World in the 5th Dimension? How does it look like? Is there matter/energy inside?

Thanks and I look forward to hearing your views!

Regards
Victor

Evelyn - April 29, 2009

@David, I know…I know…we are all “guilty” of the same thought pattern. Making ourselves right strengths the sense of self. But this is false ego! I’ve asked myself what I’ve gained by doing that. The answer was – as you said – obvious i.e. more drama, less peace.

@Victor, I must confess that I am not very good in Science. It’s funny how coincidental things are. I just wrote a short clip yesterday about not knowing that much about all the technical explanations. Still, I have some knowledge on the topic of dimensions. However, going to it is going to take me hours to write. Perhaps I would share in a later post, when I also gather more insights. Let me answer one question that you have first – yes, the Akashic Records lie in the fifth dimensional field.

Victor Tan - April 29, 2009

Thanks Evelyn! 🙂

I look forward as always to new revolutionary insights from you! :):):)

Hope you don’t mind I make too much noises here can le..:P

Evelyn - April 29, 2009

Hello Victor,

No worries. I’m glad to have the opportunity to clarify in the email to you that I really do not see myself having “special” powers. As mentioned, spiritual or psychic abilities are not to be worshiped. We all have access to the same source, so in a way all of us are intuitive. What I do through my writings is to share, guide or facilitate.

Take care,
Evelyn

John - April 30, 2009

Insightful post. Thanks for the different perspectives.

Anita's Cousin - April 30, 2009

Hi Evelyn,
I am Anita’s cousin:-) I discovered your site by searching “help in troubled times” and getting the link for 7 steps to surviving tough times. I cannot even begin to explain the journey I have been on for the past 13 months, well, really 26 months-ultimately 17 years! Most recently I have been involved in a very bitter custody dispute. The allegations made and accusations shook me to my core and instead of reacting like a victim, I got sick and tired and decided to go on the offense. I have ultimately paid a higher personal price for this choice. I was left feeling out of touch, like I did not even know myself. I resented being forced into this position, not accepting that I chose this position. Reading this post about choosing peace or drama helped me to confront that the very things that angered and terrified me about my “enemy” existed in me as well-scary! Your posts have been thought provoking and insightful. Thank you for putting this out there and sharing -it has been invaluable. After reading this post I decided to end the war and almost as soon as I made this decision, was rewarded with kind, reasonable and respectful communication from my “enemy.” I am not sure if it can be trusted, but have decided that as long as I am at peace with my choices, the rest will fall into place. There is a christian saying that goes like this: God will change your mind before he changes your circumstances. A person very close to me told me this around the time I discovered your site and I just could not wrap my mind around this or the things you were saying about attracting what we want in our lives. I felt attacked and my EGO was in overdrive. Now I have been blessed by learning through personal experience….it really works! I am so thankful. Thank you:-)

TerryLynn - May 7, 2009

Understanding and forgiveness & consciousness is a must! We are all mirror images of each other. It seems so easy to accept happiness over anger, happiness comes so natural without any effort of consciousness. We’re all running on automatic pilot majority of the time. If we start focusing on observing our every moment with full attention in a mature way, it begins to open easier for us. Hanging around un-consious people helps to focus on where your mind is, in the moment/now. Don’t avoid them. Reverse your steps in learning. Start with negativity energies then work your way back to peace of mind and letting go with every thought.
I keep reminding this light being, I am blessed with all these other blessed beings, they are great teachers! 😉

Evelyn - May 7, 2009

@John, you are welcome 🙂

@Anita’s cousin, welcome to my site. I am glad that my post resonated well with you. Thank you for letting me know how it provoked more thought. Yes, you do have a choice in changing your reality. You need to be watchful over your ego. It often does not help in your selection of what will be wise. I’m happy to know that you are now seeing the light and viewing your learning experiences positively!

@TerryLynn, for a while, I had to avoid a lot of negative and unconscious people. I was not strong or having enough insight to handle the negative energy. I now choose who to “hang” around with. I work with what I can, at any point in time. You are right that negative influences provide us opportunities for learning and letting go of what is not helpful!

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