Key to Self-Love Affirmations
If you are in the habit of saying negative things to yourself, then you will need to change your self-talk. Obviously, if you love yourself enough, you would not be constantly criticizing yourself. Instead, you will be encouraging and supportive of the self. And using affirmations is a great way to start rewiring your habitual talk-patterns.
Negative and Limiting Self-Talk
Through studies, it has already been found that we make 300-400 evaluations per day. About 70-85% of these evaluations are negative. When we dissect the content of the things we say, it can be easy to observe that we make a lot of negative comments about others or external things.
However, by tuning in closely, you are likely to discover that you have also been using the same judgment on yourself. Thus, you have been applying the same standards, guidelines or criteria to make assessments on yourself; such as between “right” and “wrong” or “good” and “bad” or “unacceptable” and “acceptable”. Should you delve more deeply, you may well discover that underneath these assessments is a conclusion on whether you are worthy of being loved or not.
It is hard to feel good about yourself if you are constantly beating yourself up. While being harsh is used by most of us to motivate ourselves for personal improvement, problems arise when we are not aware of how much our own judgments have been eroding our spirit. In my Self-Love Secrets book, I shared that studies have shown how self-compassion (and not criticism) have resulted in improved productivity and happiness levels instead.
Change Your Self-Talk
To make a change, switch to using kind, loving and inspiring words. In fact, whether you are saying something about yourself or to others, you use the same positive language. Thus, you build congruency. Just remember: a harmful word can create emotional havoc whereas a loving word can create miracles. The same principles apply both internally and externally.
Because you are in the physical, you need to also make a physical change. Words and actions seal the energy for a complete shift. And the more you affirm yourself in the new path or behavior, the more the new energies take hold. There is congruency at every level and throughout.
Self-Love Affirmations
My book, Self Love Secrets, comes with an additional report on 101 Self-Love Affirmations. The report provides a guide on what you can say to yourself. You can either pick some affirmations to work with or using the guide, craft some on your own.
For added inspiration, I have introduced music and turned a couple of the Self-Love affirmations into a video. Some of the nature shots are taken at the Singapore Botanic Gardens, the national park near my home. Here is a look…enjoy!
Holistic Approach to Self-Love
Don’t be mistaken. Changing self-talk alone is not going to do the trick for greater self-love. Loving yourself has to be a mind-body-spirit approach. Changing self-talk is to address difficulties with self-love at the mental or even the emotional level. As Albert Einstein once said, “You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.”
Hence, if you are hoping to learn more, be sure to keep a lookout for the online launch of Self-Love Secrets on October 25, 2011. There will be an early bird discount during the first three days.
Details and Launch of Self-Love Secrets eBook
Opening Launch For Early Bird Discount: October 25, 2011 Tuesday
Singapore 19:00 SGT UTC+8 hours
USA – NY 7:00 EDT UTC-4 hours
Closing Day for Early Bird Discount: October 28, 2011 Friday
Singapore 23:59 SGT UTC+8 hours
USA – NY 11:59 EDT UTC-4 hours
Please note that the downloadable version is being published first. There may be plans for a print version later, but these cannot be fully confirmed at this point in time.
Contest Details
Don’t forget to join the online contest over on my Facebook Page. I will be giving away two lucky draw prizes. The winners will receive a free copy of my book. To qualify, you will have to go onto my Facebook Page and click on the share button for any of the tips or other postings. Obviously, the more times you share, the greater your chance.
The contest ends on October 24, one day before launch. The details are:
Contest Ends October 24
Singapore 19:00 SGT UTC+8 hours
USA – NY 7:00 EDT UTC-4 hours
I will be informing the contest winners via email over at facebook. So remember to check your inbox!!
See You Next Week
Well, as it often happens, unexpected things can crop up just prior to a major event. So I will be busy looking into last-minute items for the rest of this week. Have fun in the meantime!!
Hope to see you back here next week!!
Shine from the soul,
Author. Adventurer. Life Coach. More About Me.
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Evelyn Reply:
October 19th, 2011 at 1:29 pm
Hi Marc,
Great question. Indicatively, I am just thinking that it helps to tilt to at least a 70/30 or even a 80/20 positive-negative split.
Self-love is essentially a journey. It involves mindfulness and a holistic approach, with also a spiritual perspective.
I find that the more days you spend feeling positive, the more you can say that you have actually made a shift. After all, enlightenment is a continuous and deep awareness of who you really are. In absolute 100% self-love alignment, it won’t be the case that some days you feel positive about yourself and some days you don’t.
Shine from the soul,
Evelyn
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