How to Heal Your Invisible Childhood Wounds

We may not realise at first that we have been carrying childhood wounds, so any talk about healing will be considered moot.

Childhood wounds are, after all, invisible to us.

And if we can’t see them through our naked eye, why does it matter whether we are carrying them or not?

Well, it may well explain contributing reasons behind our current day issues like

•  anxiety
• depression
• constant insecurity
• low self-esteem
• inability to find loving relationships
• inability to have better success,
• etc

In other words, just because we can’t visually see our wounds does not mean that they don’t exist.

As I understand, according to Sigmund Freud, they are hidden in the deep recesses of our psyche, buried deep in the unconscious. We repress our pain, hurt and anger in these wounds. Because they are yet to be resolved, they can blindside us. It is why we are often in self-sabotage.

Thus, if we don’t heal our past wounds, they can bleed into everything that we do or encounter today.

“We have to listen to the child we once were, the child who still exists inside us. That child understands magic moments. We can stifle its cries, but we cannot silence its voice.The child we once were is still there.” Paul Coelho

Neglecting Our Childhood Wounds

The wounds that we carry are often related to our childhood.

Anxiety originating from traumatic experiences in our past is hidden from consciousness, and can cause problems during adulthood (in the form of neuroses). Hence, if we are interested to work on addressing anxiety, depression or our problems today at root cause, it is vital that we dig deeper into our unconscious so that we can find our inner child and to resolve her needs.

Most of us would dismiss our negative childhood experiences as anything major since it wasn’t as if we went through anything life-threatening.

Even if there was a traumatic episode, we have been taught not to make things a big deal.

Nor do we want to be accused of dwelling in the past or blame our parents for the lack of a happy childhood.

We have been taught to be strong, positive and optimistic with messages like “don’t cry”, “suck it up” or “don’t be a weakling”.

What we may not realise is that positive psychology can work against us if we keep bypassing our emotions!

Just because we have applied a band-aid so that we appear well on the outside, does not mean that there is no injury on the inside.

It would serve anyone to know that emotional neglect, where no physical abuse is made, can also inflict invisible wounds.

Wounds form because there are unresolved issues that our inner child is holding on to. Hence, if we find ourselves in repeated patterns of self-sabotage or a constant feeling of anxiety, depression or emptiness, we need to dig deeper. We will need to bring the unconscious to the conscious.

3 Steps in Healing Our Invisible Childhood Wounds

Since our inner child lies in the unconscious, we will need to meet her there.

We will need to trace back to the root event or cause to find out where she is hurting or having unresolved needs. 

As I call it, we work on Self-Love Healing in an energetic, integrative and wholistic way.

I’d like to propose that we work on healing in 3 ways…
(1) Emotional. We reconnect with our inner child at the subconscious, apply healing salve to the wounds with Love and help her to release repressed emotions with EFT tapping. 
(2) Mental. We reparent our inner child with positive beliefs, support and guidance. 
(3) Spiritual. We complete the integration by rewriting the entire vibrational story from the inside-out with quantum work in the matrix energy field. 

When we include all 3 steps, we are able to send a positive effect that ripples across all aspects and areas of our life today. By releasing ourselves from the past, we have the freedom to make a different choice in the way forward. Our health, relationships and well-bing improves, consequently. 

“The inner child lives within all of us, it’s the part of us that feels emotions and is playful, intuitive, and creative. Usually hidden under our grown-up persons, the Inner Child holds the key to intimacy in relationships, physical and emotional we-being, recovery from addictions, and the creativity and wisdom of our inner selves.” Lucia Capacchione 

Need more help? Interested to work on Self-Love Inner Child healing? Learn how to reparent yourself in my starter course. Or, apply for a discovery call to find out more about working together in 1:1 personal sessions. 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Self-Love Healing Therapist 
Accredited EFT & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner