Category Archives for "Self Love"
How to love yourself
How to Mend a Broken Heart and Move On
“It’s not hard to move on, it’s just hard to leave behind what you’re not supposed to bring along.” – Unknown
“Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something that is broken. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better.” – Unknown
You are in excruciating pain. Your heart has been broken into a million pieces. As a result, you have been walking around, with a gaping wound. Like a broken recorder, your mind keeps replaying what has recently happened in a mental movie over and over again. It plays one of the following:
– You have been dumped by supposedly “the love of your life”…ouch! Your lover just cited some vague excuse about the two of you being incompatible. You tried to win him or her back but to no avail.
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Free Teleclass: Heal Yourself with Self-Love
“Learning to love yourself; It is the greatest love of all.” – Lyrics from the song, “The Greatest Love of All”.
On Valentine’s Day, let’s not just celebrate romantic love but love for yourself. Thus, whether or not you have got someone to share a candlelight dinner with, don’t forget to celebrate the person that you are. After all, as the lyrics to the song popularized by Whitney Houston goes, “the greatest love of all” is unconditional love for the self.
To practice unconditional self-love, you must first overcome your psychological challenges. You may have the habit of criticizing yourself. Or you may have the habit of putting your own needs last. Or, you already know that your low self-confidence stems from believing that you are not lovable. In order to experience more love, success and abundance in life, you will need to shift from feeling depressed, miserable and horrible about yourself.
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Release Fear To Reawaken Into Love
“Release the fear in your mind and reawaken to the love inside your heart.” – Self-Love Secrets: How to Love Yourself Unconditionally
Release the Fear in Your Mind
Fear corrupts the mind like a virus. It lays siege on your thought patterns. It infiltrates insidiously into some of your worst nightmares, causing you to wake up in terror in the middle of the night.
Many people use the words “mind” and “brain” to mean the same thing. Well, they are not. The mind is not the same as your brain.
Just as well, I was helping my children with some science over the weekend. My children learned this from their textbooks: The brain is a biochemical organ in the human body. As I was writing this post, I realized that what I have forgotten to point out to them is the truth that I have discovered outside their books. And so, I hope to share the rest of what I have written in this article later with them.
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How to Beat the Blues of Melancholy
“It’s a brooding melancholy that haunts me.” – David Guterson
Melancholy gnaws at us in an incessant stream of negative self-talk. We are not happy because of something we perceive about ourselves or our lives. Our unhappiness builds up. After some time, we could also be masked from knowing even what our true issues are really about. We do not feel tip top because “something just does not feel right”.
Back years ago, I did not notice the presence of melancholy because it would usually lurk in the background. It hung like a veil with a dreary undertone. Consequently, I experienced a lethargy that drained me of energy.
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Increasing Gratitude and Awareness of Abundance in Your Life: The Benefits and How-To
“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune in to.” Wayne Dyer
This guest article is submitted by Michele.
One of the greatest gifts I have given to myself is the conscious awareness of the beauty and abundance in my life. All this awareness led to an increased level of gratitude. I think this is a natural progression. I think gratitude and awareness of abundance are inextricably linked.
By definition, abundance means plentiful. But it also means fullness: a fullness of spirit that overflows. Gratitude is this fullness. And that which overflows is easy to give away.
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10 Depression Symptoms: Warning Signs to Look Out For
Depression symptoms are more intense than just fleeting moments of sadness. It is human to feel blue every now and then but when it comes to depression, you are in a vibrationally low state of being for an extended period. Over time, you could identify yourself with your depression symptoms so much that living with them feels normal.
Being depressed creates energy leakage. When severe, you can possibly lose the ability to function and to perform the most routine of tasks. You would rather confine yourself in your cave.
When sinking into despair becomes severe, it can turn into clinical depression. In extreme cases, depression can drive a person to suicide. This was what happened to my friend, Arch.
“Depression is the inability to construct a future.” – Rollo May
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How to Get Over the Fear of Aging
“I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and… I believe in miracles.” – Audrey Hepburn
We live in a society that values looks and youth. And so as we mature past our 30s, then 40s and 50s, we can start to face the fear of aging. I believe that females feel the fear even more. The fear of aging can be like a looming dark cloud that drives us to irrational behavior such as undergoing multiple plastic surgery jobs to tighten sagging skin.
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How to be Zen – Part B
“A calm mind is not disturbed by the waves of thoughts.” – Remez Sasson
How to Overcome the Fear of Failure
Does the fear of failure stop you from venturing forth?
The fear of failure often strikes with terror. A shiver goes down your spine. You break out in profuse sweat. Your imagination goes on the overdrive. Whether the trial you are undergoing is a big or small one, you feel faint from the thought of being seen as a failure in life.
The fear of failure may not all that negative. For instance, it can spur you to overcome your barriers and conquer new heights. I believe it was how I have studied and passed my examinations relatively well while in school. However, in the recent years, I realised that being motivated by fear may not exactly be the best way to go about living. I have also found that my children do not respond too well when fear is being used to get them to study or to instil some of discipline. With awareness, I intend to be mindful about not using fear on them.
How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
Is the fear of rejection stopping you from being free to pursue what you want?
Well, it is one fear that strikes many of us. The perception of having been rejected can cut like a stab in the heart. In an instant, you can feel as if you are drained of all blood. Dizziness ensues and you hang on to dear life, gasping for air.
“There is going to be a hundred thousand doors slammed in your face before one opens, so feel ok about taking rejection.” – Heather Matarazzo
I don’t know of anyone who has the privilege of going through life without ever experiencing the fear of rejection at least once. I have certainly been rejected many times. In a few of the situations, back when I was in my early 20s, I had thought that I would not be able to survive past the rejection. With despair, I would drown my sorrow via drinking and clubbing several times a week. Fortunately, these days, I have found better ways to deal with the fear of rejection.
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