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How to Love: 7 Quotes by Thich Nhat Hanh
How to love is a small but beautiful book by Zen Buddhist Master, Thich Nhat Hanh. It is the third title in the Mindfulness Essentials Series of how-to books. As always, he writes in simple language to explain profound insights from the practice of Buddhism, mindfulness and meditation.
I like that we are taught not just on the importance of self-love, but also how we can love another more fully. The teachings are poignant and persuasive: “to love without knowing how to love, wounds the ones we love.” We are invited to open our hearts in a meditative way.
How to Love is in 4 essentials: you can only love another when you feel true love for yourself; love is understanding; understanding brings compassion; and deep listening and loving speech are key ways of showing your love.
I had felt drawn to reading How to Love as learning to love is the fundamental of all relationships. Whether it is the relationship we have with ourselves, with our partners, success or even money, it rests on love. If we want to find greater meaning or improve on the quality of our living, learning How to Love is essential.
Here are 7 quotes in How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh….
“Every one of us is trying to find our true home. Some of us are still searching. Our true home is inside, but it’s also in our loved ones around us. When you’re in a loving relationship, you and the other person can be a true home for each other.”
“Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person. Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love.”
“The essence of loving kindness is being able to offer happiness. You can be the sunshine for another person. You can’t offer happiness until you have it for yourself. So build a home inside by accepting yourself and learning to love and heal yourself.”
“In a deep relationship, there’s no longer a boundary between you and the other person. You are her and she is you. Your suffering is her suffering. Your understanding of your own suffering helps your loved one to suffer less.”
“You are part of the universe; you are made of stars. When you look at your loved one, you see that he is also made of stars and carries eternity inside. Looking in this way, we naturally feel reverence. True love cannot be without trust and respect for oneself and for the other person.”
“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen.”
“Love is a living, breathing thing. There is no need to force it to grow in a particular direction. If we start by being easy and gentle with ourselves, we will find it is just there inside of us, solid and healing.”
How to Love: Go on a Journey
How to love has turned out to be quite a journey for me.
I learned it with self-love, from writing a book on Self-Love, creating a self-love healing meditation program, improving my relationship with my husband and children, making the choice to do what I love and loving what I do and also, transforming the relationship I have with money.
My lessons have been in many forms and ways and I am still learning How to Love more every single day. The moment I woke up to true love was the moment I began to know who I am.
This post is sent with love from my heart to yours.
Love always,
Evelyn Lim
P.S. Recommended Resources:
1. How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh
2. Self-Love Secrets
P.S.S. Share Your Thoughts and Comments on How to Love below.
Tapping Script for Self-Love: Overcome Self-Rejection
“The greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity or power but self-rejection.” Henri Nouwen, Catholic priest, professor, writer and theologian.
Are there parts about yourself that you reject?
When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you find it hard to get past your imperfection or flaw?
Is this imperfection or flaw the reason why it is difficult to love and embrace yourself fully?
You may be hoping to be better, smarter, richer, taller or more successful. Whatever it is, there could be something about yourself that you are not happy with yourself. On the extreme, it can be a case of self-rejection.
Why Love Yourself Unconditionally: In A Note
“One Big Reason Why many women have challenges leading a balanced, fulfilled and radiant existence is a lack of self-love.” #evelynlimcoach
While rummaging through my journal notebooks, I came upon what I had written two years ago. And so, I decided to post it…..
Can’t help but feel empty, wounded and discontented?
At some level, you have the awareness that there is something inherently missing; although you may not consciously know what your core issue is or where your real problem lies.
Even as you occupy your life with an endlessstream of activities, the hole inside remains.
The hole could be affecting every aspect of your life; from family, work, relationships, play etc.
And so it is that you have never been fully present.
You are there for everyone else…..EXCEPT YOURSELF.
Over time, the gaping hole manifests into deepresentment…and ultimately, a pervasive sense of unrealized potential and disempowerment.
How to Address The Emotional Causes to Skin Problems
Emotional causes to skin problems can be something that you want to look into, if your issues are persistent. While using steroids may alleviate your itch-scratch-itch symptoms, they are not cures. Also, long time reliance on drug medications can result in a “thinning” of your skin layer.
I know enough about dealing with skin healing issues myself. After all, I have had bad eczema outbreaks for many years until a few years ago. Recently, from working with clients, I noticed that there is a distinct relationship between those who are particularly energetically sensitive at the soul-level with also having a skin problem.
Skin disorders are like no other. Just as stress can result in skin problems, skin disorders can also cause tremendous stress. In cases of severe skin issues, those afflicted can become depressed. While it seems shallow, let’s admit that appearances do have an impact on first impressions. It can also affect our ability to find a mate, land that all-important interview or secure our next promotion.
Self-Love Meditation: Nourish Your Heart Space
Exhausted from giving and giving and not feeling loved and supported in return?
Feeling blocked in the heart?
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. Lucille Ball
Well, come join me for a Self-Love Meditation held at Basic Essence Holistic Wellness Centre, in a relaxing evening that will help you nourish your heart space with unconditional love. Release disruptions that are in your way to total well-being. Embrace yourself in the mind, body and soul.
Your Invite to my Self-Love Meditation Event
Take the opportunity to reconnect with your sacred home, that which you already are and have always been. Be reminded that you are love, loved and lovable in every aspect of your being. Enter into the realm of the harmonic healing of your heart.
Check out my Self-Love Meditation Event and Confirm Your Attention Now
Hope to see you soon!
Blessings,
21 Soulful Ways to Celebrate Self-Love on Valentine’s Day
“It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.” Bryan Katie
Dear Conscious Female Readers,
Valentine’s Day is an occasion that couples celebrate romantic love. However, it would be nice to make it a day for self-love too. After all, didn’t Whitney Houston once sing, “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all“?
Self-love is to be cultivated, whether you are single or attached with a partner. If you are married for years, it’s great to be able to share the day with a loved one and also allocate time to nurturing your soul. But what if you are single, looking for love and feeling down about being without a date to spend February 14? With no dinner invitation or activities planned, you may be inclined to believe that you are the loneliest person on the planet. Thus, instead of anticipating that you can have a great time on your own, you are already stuck in misery and self-rejection.
Enneagram Type 9: Positive Affirmations for Path of Growth
Overview of the Enneagram Type 9: The Peacemaker, Mediator, Spiritual Seeker
If you are an Enneagram Type 9, you are about harmony. You are peace-loving, trusting, easy-going and even-tempered. Your mantra is to go with the flow. Sitting on the crown of the Enneagram, you hold spiritual instincts. What is ironical is that despite your orientation to spirituality, you are potentially the most grounded in the physical world.
You exude a positive energy. What appeals is the pleasant side of life. You enjoy being stress-free and desire life to be effortless. Being optimistic, you carry the faith that things will somehow work out on its own. Your belief is that everything will be okay should everyone stay cool and collected and no one rocks the boat.
“If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry.” — 14th Dalai Lama
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Abundance Alchemy Program Review: Manifest with Ease
When you finally let go of your emotional attachment, you open the space for miracles to physically manifest!
Listen in as Kristin Astourian reviewed my Abundance Alchemy Program in the video below. She also shared her thoughts on the key to manifestation and how the Universe has responded by sending her a surprise money bonus 🙂
Kristin Astourian holds a professional job and is also a singer-cum-song writer based in Austin, Texas. Her dream is to creatively express her soul at the physical level. You can find her works at http://www.chumsmusic.com.
I feel blessed to have the opportunity to connect with talented and creative artistes such as her. She has been amazing to work with! I am extremely thrilled for Kristin and continue to root for her success!!!
To dreams coming true,
Abundance Alchemy Life Coach
P.S. Contact me if you need coaching assistance in making energy shifts for a success breakthrough.
50 Shades of Fear
I thought it would be interesting to share my perspective on 50 shades of fear. Clients had been coming to me with their issues which are rooted in various forms of fear. In case you are wondering, I did not read the book 50 Shades of Grey nor have watched the movie. However, I would like to borrow the theme of 50 shades.
As we already know, fear can manifest at different levels and degrees of negative emotions; which is influenced by the story that our minds tell. Our fears make up the stories we tell ourselves.
For instance, fear can be in the form of worry….or in more severe cases, it can grow into depression. Fear can also be in the form of nervousness or a diagnosed panic disorder. We can also express fear in the form of blame or if we feel it strongly, we become antagonistic. Obvious symptoms can range from breaking out in cold sweat, turning ashen white, or the racing of our hearts. Whether a niggling sense of anxiety or intense anger, all are signs of fear.
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Self-Care Healing: Give Yourself Permission
“Self-care is not self-indulgence. It is essential for your well-being. With self-care, you give yourself the sacred permission to be well.”
I had a bad fall last week. It resulted in multiple visits to the clinic for X-rays, reviews and check up. It was not the physical injury that shook me most, but the emotional trauma. For a while, I was also angry with myself for being so careless.
To begin with, I was frustrated over having to spend unnecessary money, time and attention. I did not like the idea of having to reschedule all my appointments and having to delay my work plans. I started off by lying in bed, caught in self-pity. My inner critic went: so much for being advocate of self-care and an author of a Self-Love book!
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