How to Overcome Self Doubt

Self doubt happens when you have little belief in yourself. There is an inner lack of faith and confidence. You are not able to claim your own accomplishments, even when due. You feel like an imposter, a fraud and a cheat. You deem yourself as unworthy of any kind of praise, accolades or validation; although you are deserving.

It does not matter that others may think highly of you. What counts is the perception and evaluation of your own capability. You very much doubt in your own ability or power to garner required resources or support.
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Self-Love Secrets eBook Is Finally Here

Self-Love Secrets Book is finally Here! It’s been a long wait after months of writing….at least from my perspective 🙂 Well, let me give you a brief introduction….

Do You Love Yourself Unconditionally?

What keeps you awake at night?

– Is it the incessant worry that plagues you?
– Is it the fear that you will never be rich, successful or powerful?
– Is it the thing about the past that you cannot forgive yourself on?
– Is it the fear that you will lose face in front of others?
– Is it repeated blame, shame or frustration?
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Key to Self-Love Affirmations

If you are in the habit of saying negative things to yourself, then you will need to change your self-talk. Obviously, if you love yourself enough, you would not be constantly criticizing yourself. Instead, you will be encouraging and supportive of the self. And using affirmations is a great way to start rewiring your habitual talk-patterns.

Negative and Limiting Self-Talk

Through studies, it has already been found that we make 300-400 evaluations per day. About 70-85% of these evaluations are negative. When we dissect the content of the things we say, it can be easy to observe that we make a lot of negative comments about others or external things.
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Launch News: Self-Love Secrets eBook

I would like to announce the coming launch of my digital book, Self Love Secrets. The launch is slated to be on October 25, 2011. I am so excited! Click here for a peek into the website >>>

It has been quite a few months since I first announced that I would be writing a book on Self-Love. Well, it took me longer than I expected. I have to admit that I had no clear idea back then what I was going to write. I soon found out that it was not as simple as compiling a bunch of tips.
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Body Image: Take A Look In the Mirror

Body image is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror.

Fat. Thin. Big. Small. Wide. Narrow. Tall. Short. Flat. Sharp. Curvy. Flabby. Nose. Feet. Eyes. Arms. Tummy. Chin. Butt. Thighs. Acne. Stretch marks. Blemish. Mole. Skin. Birthmark.

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Are you focused on the best parts of the reflection of your body or does your mind zoom in on the parts that are imperfect? Do you see the reflection of someone smiling or frowning back at you? Are you happy with the way you look? (For a list of related questions, you may want to consider taking a Self-Love Quiz, if you have not already done so.)
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Get The Free Self-Love Story Bloggers eBook

Self-Love Story Bloggers eBook is compilation of articles by 17 personal development bloggers on their journey into self-love and the lessons that they have learned. It comprises of 60 pages of heart-felt content. You can download your free copy by clicking here. If you are already a subscriber to my newsletter, you will already be receiving it in your inbox – you don’t have to opt-in again.
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21 Makeover Tips To Lift Your Energy

You are hoping for a makeover. You would like to change your vibes. Life has been quite a drag for some time. So it only makes sense that if you are hoping to have different results, you cannot keep doing the same things.

A true makeover goes beyond revamping your wardrobe. It is more than fixing a bad hair day. A true makeover is holistic, incorporating the mind-body-spirit. Your energy shifts as a result. It activates the Law of Attraction in your favor, where you are more likely to attract positive outcomes.
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The Practice of Self-Compassion

Practising self compassion may be something that you are not used to.

After all, you could be having h the habit of beating yourself up all your life. In your experience, you have found harsh criticisms extremely useful as a motivator for actions. It is how you have made yourself get out of bed every morning.

You may perceive self compassion as being indulgent. You would not dream of giving excuses for your wretched state. You see self-compassion as disempowering. Hence, taking a tough stance towards the self is important.
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Self Love Series: Installing Love on the Human Computer

A customer ran into some computer problems and called the help desk for assistance. Here was how the conversation went….

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

(Picture of my daughter, Hui)

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?
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Self Love Series: 101 Loving Yourself Quotes

Loving yourself quotes are sayings to inspire you for practising greater self-love.

From brilliant poets to inspirational writers and the great sages of all time, each had espoused one and the same: love within yourself leads you to love for all. Self-love is the secret to living fully. Through healthy self-love, you lay the foundation to creating your best life!

(Love who you are. Love yourself through self acceptance, forgiveness and esteem. My collage illustrates Loving Yourself Quote #62 below.)

The following are 101 loving yourself quotes. I have also classified the quotes according to the sub-categories of self-love, where possible. Pick one each day to contemplate over its meaning. Enjoy!
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