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How to Love Life Fully
Do you know how to love life fully?
Well, for a period in time, I was asking myself this very question.
I put myself on a search.
The journey felt incidentally harder perhaps because of the internal struggle that I was going through during that period.
Yet, no matter how and where I search, I could not get complete answers.
Which led me to the realisation that I the answers I sought are not out there.
They pretty much lie from within.
The answers came from a wise part of the self….
How to Raise Client Attraction For The Business that You Love
If you are struggling with client attraction despite implementing all the marketing strategies,
If you tend to attract client relationships that are toxic,
If you are already feeling jaded in your existing client relationships,
If there is just too much struggle in your client relationships or attracting ideal clients, you may wish to tap into my tips on the Heart of Client Attraction.
View the video on Client Attraction that I have recorded…
Here’s a synopsis of what I had to share in my video on client attraction…
Client attraction can be more challenging when you are not passionate, do not enjoy what you are doing or do not feel inspired to give your best.
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How to Love: 7 Quotes by Thich Nhat Hanh
How to love is a small but beautiful book by Zen Buddhist Master, Thich Nhat Hanh. It is the third title in the Mindfulness Essentials Series of how-to books. As always, he writes in simple language to explain profound insights from the practice of Buddhism, mindfulness and meditation.
I like that we are taught not just on the importance of self-love, but also how we can love another more fully. The teachings are poignant and persuasive: “to love without knowing how to love, wounds the ones we love.” We are invited to open our hearts in a meditative way.
How to Love is in 4 essentials: you can only love another when you feel true love for yourself; love is understanding; understanding brings compassion; and deep listening and loving speech are key ways of showing your love.
I had felt drawn to reading How to Love as learning to love is the fundamental of all relationships. Whether it is the relationship we have with ourselves, with our partners, success or even money, it rests on love. If we want to find greater meaning or improve on the quality of our living, learning How to Love is essential.
Here are 7 quotes in How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh….
“Every one of us is trying to find our true home. Some of us are still searching. Our true home is inside, but it’s also in our loved ones around us. When you’re in a loving relationship, you and the other person can be a true home for each other.”
“Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person. Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love.”
“The essence of loving kindness is being able to offer happiness. You can be the sunshine for another person. You can’t offer happiness until you have it for yourself. So build a home inside by accepting yourself and learning to love and heal yourself.”
“In a deep relationship, there’s no longer a boundary between you and the other person. You are her and she is you. Your suffering is her suffering. Your understanding of your own suffering helps your loved one to suffer less.”
“You are part of the universe; you are made of stars. When you look at your loved one, you see that he is also made of stars and carries eternity inside. Looking in this way, we naturally feel reverence. True love cannot be without trust and respect for oneself and for the other person.”
“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen.”
“Love is a living, breathing thing. There is no need to force it to grow in a particular direction. If we start by being easy and gentle with ourselves, we will find it is just there inside of us, solid and healing.”
How to Love: Go on a Journey
How to love has turned out to be quite a journey for me.
I learned it with self-love, from writing a book on Self-Love, creating a self-love healing meditation program, improving my relationship with my husband and children, making the choice to do what I love and loving what I do and also, transforming the relationship I have with money.
My lessons have been in many forms and ways and I am still learning How to Love more every single day. The moment I woke up to true love was the moment I began to know who I am.
This post is sent with love from my heart to yours.
Love always,
Evelyn Lim
P.S. Recommended Resources:
1. How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh
2. Self-Love Secrets
P.S.S. Share Your Thoughts and Comments on How to Love below.
How to Let Go of the Past and Move On
You may be wondering how you can let go of the past and move on fter realizing that you are stuck in it. Letting go to move forward can seem challenging when you have little idea on how to deal with the multitude of emotions that arise. At the same time, you do not feel equipped to move on.
Letting go of the past is certainly something that has not been taught as a life skill back in school. Yet, it is incredibly important. I wish someone had taught me how when I was young. It would also have been nice to receive some wise advice on how I could have let go of the past and move on.
How to Let Go of Resistance to Change
Learning to let go of resistance to change is incredibly important if we are hoping to grow, evolve or improve ourselves. A resistance to change can happen when we are caught in the habit of doing things in a certain way. We become rigid even when the landscape has changed. We lose flexibility. We ask ourselves: why rock the boat when the old ways have worked?
This message became clear to me early last year. A new train station had opened near my home. It now takes 4 minutes for me to walk out of my front door to the train stop. With the newly opened tracks, I have more options in routes to many destinations.
Anyone would have excited about the improved convenience. Except that it took weeks for me to process my increased options. I continued taking old routes and ways to reach where I wanted to go.
Until one day, while at a bus stop, I found myself thinking about how much time I was wasting waiting for a bus that was taking a long time to show up. This was also when I had an “aha” moment (where dark clouds start to part and light finally came in)!
Recipe for Success: Help Me to Cook
I am updating the recipe for success after receiving great feedback from many friends. The original recipe was great but after experimenting, I found out that we can also take fewer steps. The end result is just as delicious if not more!
According to a rumor that appears to originate from one of the Le Cordon Bleu schools, the recipe for success has already been cooked to perfection by various renowned chefs. It seems that there can be different ingredients and ways of cooking for the same dish. Consequently, the results can be as varied and flavorful; producing unique palate experiences.
Don’t laugh but here is the secret that I found out from inside sources of award-winning culinary chefs: the ones that win rave reviews are those that strangely create in their consumers……the miraculous effect of balancing their chakras and sending them on an instantaneous flight to heaven, with just a single bite.
How to Find that Pot of Gold at the End of the Rainbow
“Don’t miss the beautiful colours of the rainbow while searching for that pot of gold.” Anonymous
In the pursuit for our dreams, we can become so occupied with our tasks or to-do items that we miss out on the colors, sensations and experiences that the present moment brings. We forget to “smell the roses”. Over time, we wonder why life seems to be such a drag, robbed of joy and void of delight in the simplest of things.
Many of us chase after our dreams, hoping to find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The rainbow represents our hope for a bolder and more brilliant future. It forms a beautiful arch across the sky. Yet, it also appears to be beyond reach.
Well, going for our dreams is great! I support the idea very much. It’s important to have dreams, to eventually manifest our heart’s desires. However, the road to success may be paved with major difficulties….or even everyday challenges and times when life seems just like all work.
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Tapping Script for Self-Love: Overcome Self-Rejection
“The greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity or power but self-rejection.” Henri Nouwen, Catholic priest, professor, writer and theologian.
Are there parts about yourself that you reject?
When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you find it hard to get past your imperfection or flaw?
Is this imperfection or flaw the reason why it is difficult to love and embrace yourself fully?
You may be hoping to be better, smarter, richer, taller or more successful. Whatever it is, there could be something about yourself that you are not happy with yourself. On the extreme, it can be a case of self-rejection.
How You Do Money Is How You Do Everything
How you do money is how you do everything. How you do everything is how you do money.
How you do money is your financial behavior. Your financial behavior is a function of how you have been responding in the world. Your response is found in your emotions and thoughts. From your external actions, you are likely to find a common pattern or a set of beliefs that underlie every aspect of your life.
Everything is inter-related. Thus, how you do anything is how you do everything. Your external world mirrors your internal one. Your inner world influences how you are showing up in the world. A process of self-inquiry will lead you to uncover what perceptions you have about the world and about yourself. You can dive in to find out what your core beliefs are, whether through a money situation, relationship situation or any other life situation.
Why Love Yourself Unconditionally: In A Note
“One Big Reason Why many women have challenges leading a balanced, fulfilled and radiant existence is a lack of self-love.” #evelynlimcoach
While rummaging through my journal notebooks, I came upon what I had written two years ago. And so, I decided to post it…..
Can’t help but feel empty, wounded and discontented?
At some level, you have the awareness that there is something inherently missing; although you may not consciously know what your core issue is or where your real problem lies.
Even as you occupy your life with an endlessstream of activities, the hole inside remains.
The hole could be affecting every aspect of your life; from family, work, relationships, play etc.
And so it is that you have never been fully present.
You are there for everyone else…..EXCEPT YOURSELF.
Over time, the gaping hole manifests into deepresentment…and ultimately, a pervasive sense of unrealized potential and disempowerment.