How Nellie Released Limiting Money Blocks to Client Attraction and Authentic Selling

I was helping a client (let’s call her Nellie, not her real name) clarify the ideal client that she’d like to work with, when we discovered that she was having some limiting money blocks about people who are wealthy.

Nellie’s line of work requires her to service the needs of wealthy individuals or at least people with excess funds.  If she releases her subconscious blocks, client attraction can potentially happen with greater ease. It will certainly help Nellie to have more clients as the extra income that she gets can go a long way to supporting her family with two young kids. Since her beliefs could be in the way for client attraction and business sales, we proceeded to work on releasing the limiting money blocks.

Childhood Situation that Created Limiting Money Blocks

When I asked Nellie what some of her discomfort was reminding her of, she recalled two childhood incidents when she was 11 years old that had left her feeling lousy, disgusted and ashamed. 

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3 Mindful Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

Is imposter syndrome in the way for you with putting yourself out there?

Perhaps you have been hoping to step up as a coach, leader or to move to the next level. 

But somehow you believe that you are some kind of a “fraud” even though you already have the experience or expertise in your field of work. 

You just don’t feel “good enough”. 

It is also possible that you are afraid of being exposed at any moment. 

Well, in case you think that you are the only one facing imposter syndrome, what I’d like to share with you is: you are not alone!

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6 Daily Gratitude Prompts for Shifting into an Abundance Mindset

I’d like to invite you to adopt a practice of daily gratitude, if you are interested to shift into an abundance mindset. 

Gratitude IS the gateway to abundance.

When we are thankful, our attention is on the blessings that we have in our life. In that moment of expressing our gratitude, we are not focused on any worry, blame, frustration etc.

By virtue of the Law of Attraction, the sustained joy that we feel from reminding ourselves about our blessings sends out a positive vibe to the Universe that helps us to draw more of the same.

Here’s a graphical representation on how a practice of gratitude compounds and brings you dividends in terms of financial well-being. Obviously, while we can start with a 10-day or a 21-day challenge, it is best that we can make the practice very much a part of our life going forward. 

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How to Overcome the Feeling that “I Don’t Belong”

Do you often feel unwanted and lonely because you believe that “I don’t belong”? 

Do you often feel left out in social circles? 

Over time, anyone who constantly feels unwanted and experiences “not belonging” can start to feel depressed and disconnected. The heart senses the separation. A belief of “not belonging” can impact our ability to form close friendships or relationships with our spouse and loved ones. 

We experience “not belonging” because we can’t seem to fit in. It may be that we are not comfortable in our own skin, to begin with. Or that we are afraid of being hurt because we hold the fear of rejection. The conviction that we are not wanted arises when we find out that friends are leaving us out from their social circles or are not asking us out. 

Many of my clients who are spiritual seekers confess to feeling the same way. They feel like an “alien” on this planet especially when their beliefs, ideas and values differ from commonly held ones. Holding on to disconnection, they question what their purpose in life is. 

Then, there are the introverts and empaths. Introverts need plenty of “me” space and alone time whereas empaths find it necessary to protect themselves. Within this group, those who keep to themselves excessively can also develop the belief of “being unwanted” especially where they have decided not to engage. They go through the constant conflict of not knowing what they want. 

All these can contribute to the perception of “not belonging”. 

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Spoon Bending Exercise: It is the Mind that Bends

In a workshop I attended more than 10 years ago, there was a spoon bending exercise that I can still recall today. I’m updating this post with photos of the spoons that I have kept on my desk. 

During the exercise, we were handed some metal spoons and asked to bend them – not by using the hands but by the power of our minds.

Nancy, the facilitator, offered this advice, “Be One with The Spoon”. 

“Sounds like mambo jumbo,” I could hear my skeptic saying. 

How do you BE One with a Spoon, for crying out loud???

The weekend had culminated with an exercise that required us to bend a metal spoon, not by brute force but by the mental focus of thought. Nancy shared that we, be it spoon or human, are made up of energy.  Therefore, instead of viewing ourselves as separate from another matter, we are One. Through the awareness that we are One, it was suggested that we could alter the appearance of the metal spoon.

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[Client Story] Breaking Free from High Anxiety During Covid Lockdown

Charmain Tan approached me for help when her anxiety started to spike during the lockdown in 2020. 

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How to Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online

Struggling with the fear of being visible online? 

If you run a coaching, energy healing or solopreneur business, you cannot neglect or ignore being visible online. 

And if you are an introvert and have the tendency to hide, this post is meant specially for you!

Specifically, the fear of being visible can be about

• the fear of being seen online,
• the fear of feeling exposed,
• feeling vulnerable,
• imposter syndrome or feeling like a “fraud”,
• fear of success,
• fear of being ridiculed in public,
• fear of not being accepted for your views, 
  and so on.

If you have the fear of being visible online, it can impact you on the business front in the following ways….

• can’t show up on videos,
• can’t confidently market your products and services,
• can’t network and build a group of business associates and friends online,
• avoid giving interviews,
• stops you from achieving better success in your marketing activities,
• can’t conduct online classes or webinar trainings,
• can’t ask to be paid for your services,
• set low prices for your products and services etc.

Overall, the fear of being visible online stops you from being more successful in your business. This has an impact on your bottom line! 

Here’s a fact that you can’t run away from:

If you want 24/7 consistent free traffic and for your marketing activities to be effective, you will need to do video marketing.

Which just means that you need to be visible online.

Why You Need to Do Video Marketing

Showing up on video allows you to create and share valuable content with your audience in a way that plain text will never match.

Here are some stats that you need to be aware of….

Get the picture after having an idea about what being visible can do for you?

If you don’t do video marketing, you are at a severe disadvantage.

Indeed, people buy based on emotional connection.

By showing up on video, you are better able to create trust and connection with your audience. Video marketing simply helps you create visibility that will assist you with generating leads and gaining clients.

My Story of the Fear of Being Visible Online

As an introvert, I used to struggle with showing my face online. I felt self-conscious and vulnerable, as if everyone will get to finally see the real me and not like what they see. And so, I used being “an introvert” and that it is not my personality, as the perfect excuse for not showing up. 

I recall the times when I almost threw up, felt faint and going through severe nervous tension just at the thought of needing to be visible. It was that bad for me. I was totally resistant to being visible online!

Later, I discovered that my excuses were not helping me to reach out to more people. In fact, I found out that becoming visible was more a matter of boosting confidence than anything else. It’s still possible to be an introvert and show up on videos, in other words! Fast forward till today, I have been able to show up with more ease and confidence! 

3 Tips on How You Can Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online

If you are held back from achieving your goals by your fear of being visible, I’d like to share with you 3 tips that you can apply…

(1) Start small by being visible online to a small audience.

You can change your settings on your FB profile, youtube or instagram to just private or a small group of friends. Or you can also set up a small facebook group and post your videos there. Alternatively, you can find facebook groups where you can feel safe to create posts. Gradually work up your confidence to showing up and being more visible online!

(2) Repeat some positive affirmations.

Give yourself a positive boost with using affirmations that are going to support you. For example, you can use the following…
– I am open to being seen and heard online.
– I am a powerful communicator.
– I choose to feel safe to be visible online.

(3) Boost Your Confidence.

Let’s face it. Without confidence, it is going to hamper your ability to be more productive and effective in your social media activities. Hence, you need to start with working on yourself. It’s about transforming from the inside-out.

Very importantly, you don’t just want confidence to be based on external factors but I recommend that you want to build Authentic Confidence, showing up as your true self, without any false pretences. Authentic Confidence boosts your ability to generate Cash Flow!

Take Action Right Away with Beating The Fear of Being Visible Online

My course, Authentic Confidence Mastery, is designed to help you create self awareness, align with what you want and to release your fears that are in the way.

It is an invitation to give yourself the permission to shine!

Gain access and start to boost your confidence here>>>

See you on the inside,

Mindset, Marketing & Manifesting Abundance Coach

How You Can Bust this Belief: I Am Not Good Enough

Do you often say to yourself, “I am not good enough?”

Maybe your self-talk goes like this…”I am not good enough to be this”, “I am not good enough to do this” or “I am not good enough to have this”?

Well, if you are a coach, energy healer and solopreneur – like myself – then it is imperative that you address the belief.

As I have discovered, “I’m not good enough” or self-esteem issues can hold us back from putting ourselves out there, be the leader that we want to be, generate better income, connect with clients, improve relationships, enhance physical health and so on.
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7 Mindset Shifts on Wealth Attraction That You Can Make For Your Solopreneur Business

What if there are mindset shifts that you can make to raise wealth attraction for your solopreneur business?

As a life coach, energy healer or solopreneur, your desire is find fulfilment through doing what you love, creating an impact, and making  money from offering your service. Very importantly, you would like to have the ability to generate an income that is more than your expenses, thus making your business profitable. Also,  you want to have high energy levels, so that you can best serve your clients.

However, especially where you are just starting out, doing a business can be challenging. It can get overwhelming when you are managing every task on your own, anything from doing sales to admin support. You also need to keep a watch on your expenses, so that you can account for every dollar that you spend. Where you are not able to cope due to insufficient resources, stress can set in.

Well, what would help is applying the right mindset with an understanding about how the Law of Attraction works.

Allow me to explain.

Law of Attraction: Flow or In Resistance?

Why you’d be interested to leverage on the Law of Attraction is this: you want to take the struggle out of doing your business.

When you are feeling frustrated, anxious or stressed out, you are in resistance. Struggle happens when you are feeling negative about yourself, your business or life. Your ability to attract financial abundance decreases as a result. It is when you find yourself unable to attract ideal clients, doing a lot but getting very little in return and facing the uphill task of getting your business from survival to thriving.

On the other hand, when you are in the flow, feeling positive and at ease, you are in better alignment with the universal law. Since nothing is in your way, you are in wellness and able to show up fully in your business. As a result, you manifest the outcomes that you want a lot more easily…yayyy!!

Mindset Shifts for Alignment with the Law of Attraction

According to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. Hence, you’d want your business to vibrate at a frequency level that matches abundance. The energy of abundance is one that feels expansive, full and of unlimited potential.

Your wealth attraction ability rises.

What’s more, since you are offering a service, it is imperative that you serve your customers from a positive space than one that resonates in lack and limitation.

Lifting your state of being or vibrational frequency starts with aligning your thoughts and feelings with abundance. When you are in lack, you are thinking thoughts like “I don’t have enough”, “there is not enough to go round” or “life is hard”. With thoughts like these, you invariably feel low, frustrated, and disappointed.

However, if you have thoughts like “I am enough”, “life is happening for me” and choose to see the miracles in your life, you would feel a sense of fullness, anticipation and joy. Thus, raising your vibrational state. It not only benefits you but also, your business.

What are specific ways of aligning your thoughts and feelings, so that you can lift the vibrational state of your business?

Let me share some great mindset shifts that you can make. They were ones that I had personally applied to grow my coaching business. I have been very happy since 🙂

7 Specific Mindset Shifts To Attract Wealth and Consistent Cash Flow

 

Mindset Shift #1 for Wealth Attraction

When you make a purchase that supports another small business today, don’t see it as an “expense”, “cost” or “wasted” item. You are helping them pay for their kids’ university fees, rent or electricity. Bless them instead of thinking them as “draining” you of your money. Have the perspective that money is a blessing for their dreams, as much as it is for you.

Mindset Shift #2 for Wealth Attraction

Whether you are the client or the service provider, always be thankful for the relationship. Let them know how thankful you are and how much you value the connection. Send them a note of thanks, “hey there, it’s my privilege to work with you”. Give thanks and you’d receive thanks.

Mindset Shift #3 for Wealth Attraction

Be open and willing to bless others with kind positive feedback online. If you’d like others to say nice things about you and to recommend your services, be willing to do the same for others too.

 

Mindset Shift #4 for Wealth Attraction

When making a business payment that is making you feel nervous, think of it as an “investment” rather than a “cost” or “expense”. By viewing it as an investment, you are expecting that the returns will be multi-fold.

Mindset Shift #5 for Wealth Attraction

Make a donation to a charity or someone in need from your business account, no matter how little sales you are making. What matters more is not how much you give but the thought and intention that goes behind your gift. When you are generous, you are saying that there is always more from where it came from and that you are not in lack.

Mindset Shift #6 for Wealth Attraction

For whatever outflow, imagine your business bank account being filled again easily and more. Believe that you are worthy and visualise abundant flow from the Bank of the Universe into your business.

Mindset Shift #7 for Wealth Attraction

Thank ALL the people who has supported you in order for you to do this business. Even the cleaners, trash collectors, virtual assistants and so on. “Thank you for supporting me. May abundance and blessings come back to you in return.”

Mindset Shifts To Raise Wealth Attraction Ability

Begin with making mindset shifts to one that is of gratitude, blessings and generosity.

Start believing and feeling you are abundant and worthy of it.

If you have problems in believing and feeling abundant or that you are deserving of abundance, contact me for assistance.

Let’s work on lifting your state, so that you can manifest twice as much with working less and in half the time!

Say yes to attracting wealth into the business that you love! 

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim
Women Empowerment Coach for Coaches, Healers and Solopreneurs

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How You Can Let Go of Past Trauma and Claim Your Power Back

Have you ever wondered how you can let go of past trauma, so that it no longer holds you back from creating the life that you want in the future?

Living with past trauma as if it is still present, can keep you in repetitive patterns.

Your body remembers the past trauma too and it is likely the reason why you find yourself having the same emotional reactions as if the past is happening now.

The same state of paralysis, anxiety and fear.

The same chills in your body, heart racing and churning in your stomach.

By being caught in the past, you can find life a struggle in the present.

You’ve got dreams and goals that you wish to fulfil. Maybe it is to align with your highest potential, to have the best relationship with your spouse ever, to run a thriving business or to manifest the most amazing life ever. Whatever it is, holding on past trauma can limit your chances of success. As a result, you could be feeling bitter, disappointed and helpless, You have the belief that there is nothing you can do to erase the past and to change your destiny.

I’d like to qualify. The traumas you’ve encountered might not have been big major events to begin with. Note that what feels traumatic for one person may not be the same for another. It might have been an incident such as being ostracised by your friends when you were in play school or being criticised for being “not good enough”. Notwithstanding, they were certainly instances that had left an indelible imprint on your subconscious.

Well, in case you consider your future ruined due to an unhappy past, there is hope. I’d like to share how it is very possible to let go of past trauma and to rewrite the story of an unhappy childhood. When you do so, it opens up new possibilities for you in manifesting a more empowering set of outcomes.
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