Category Archives for "Self Help"
Tools and techniques for self help
3 Limiting Beliefs That Create Self-Doubt
Have you ever been told messages that caused you tremendous self-doubt? I certainly have received my fair share. At various points in my life, I have been told by naysayers, skeptics and even those with outdated ideas that I am not suitable or cut out to do something.
I have internalized some of the messages. A number of them became my beliefs. Shrouded in fear because of these beliefs, I stopped myself from living freely. It took me quite some time to break free.
If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. – Vincent Van Gogh
(Painting of a pair of birds by my daughter, Hui)
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How to Overcome Self Doubt
Self doubt happens when you have little belief in yourself. There is an inner lack of faith and confidence. You are not able to claim your own accomplishments, even when due. You feel like an imposter, a fraud and a cheat. You deem yourself as unworthy of any kind of praise, accolades or validation; although you are deserving.
When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.
It does not matter that others may think highly of you. What counts is the perception and evaluation of your own capability. You very much doubt in your own ability or power to garner required resources or support.
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10 Inspiring Facebook Banner Quotes
In my personal growth journey, I have found that what helps are positive affirmations, quotes and sayings. The more I repeat these, the greater is my ability to make a positive shift. Thus, I am reminded about loving and accepting myself unconditionally. I am reminded about believing in my dreams. I am reminded not to listen to the debilitating stories that I have been telling myself.
Having experienced benefits, I intend to now share affirmations, sayings and quotes from my Abundance Tapestry Facebook Page. Well, I had been having a blast with creating banners with inspired sayings and posting them on my FB Wall in conjunction with my online launch of Self-Love Secrets. Many of the background photos come from my personal archives.
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Self-Love Secrets eBook Is Finally Here
Self-Love Secrets Book is finally Here! It’s been a long wait after months of writing….at least from my perspective 🙂 Well, let me give you a brief introduction….
Do You Love Yourself Unconditionally?
What keeps you awake at night?
– Is it the incessant worry that plagues you?
– Is it the fear that you will never be rich, successful or powerful?
– Is it the thing about the past that you cannot forgive yourself on?
– Is it the fear that you will lose face in front of others?
– Is it repeated blame, shame or frustration?
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Key to Self-Love Affirmations
If you are in the habit of saying negative things to yourself, then you will need to change your self-talk. Obviously, if you love yourself enough, you would not be constantly criticizing yourself. Instead, you will be encouraging and supportive of the self. And using affirmations is a great way to start rewiring your habitual talk-patterns.
Negative and Limiting Self-Talk
Through studies, it has already been found that we make 300-400 evaluations per day. About 70-85% of these evaluations are negative. When we dissect the content of the things we say, it can be easy to observe that we make a lot of negative comments about others or external things.
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How to Practice Non-Attachment in 7 Ways
Admittedly, non-attachment can be difficult to apply. Some people such as monks dedicate their whole lives to making it a practice. However, this does not mean that renunciation in order to release your “suffering” is necessary for you to practice non-attachment.
In fact, if you continue to use religious disciplines to hold on to your identity, then you are yet on the path of genuine spiritual growth. So long as you are holding on to something such that it causes you grief and pain, you are having an attachment. Your ego is interested in clinging on to some form of identification.
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Detect Daily Anxiety Symptoms To Avoid Energy Leakage
Anxiety symptoms are pretty common, considering that we live in a fast-paced environment. Anxiety-ridden, we find it hard to cope with the stresses of life. We become anxious when we fear that we cannot catch up, feel overwhelmed by the amount of incoming information, do not know how to make a decision and perceive a looming threat to our security.
Then again, anxiety symptoms are also known to be pretty normal, as they are part of the natural “fight or flight” reaction to stress or danger. Hence, there cannot be any human who has not felt anxiety at all. ‘
I certainly have experienced anxiety enough times myself. In particular, with what is going on in the world today, anxiety reportedly is at heightened levels once again. Many people are experiencing mental health stress.
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Body Image: Take A Look In the Mirror
Body image is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror.
Fat. Thin. Big. Small. Wide. Narrow. Tall. Short. Flat. Sharp. Curvy. Flabby. Nose. Feet. Eyes. Arms. Tummy. Chin. Butt. Thighs. Acne. Stretch marks. Blemish. Mole. Skin. Birthmark.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Are you focused on the best parts of the reflection of your body or does your mind zoom in on the parts that are imperfect? Do you see the reflection of someone smiling or frowning back at you? Are you happy with the way you look? (For a list of related questions, you may want to consider taking a Self-Love Quiz, if you have not already done so.)
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How to Overcome the Fear of Success
It sounds ridiculous that anyone can have the fear of success. However, the fear of success is as psychologically valid as the fear of failure. In fact, the fear of success is often not as easily detectable because it lies in your subconscious. It is through recognizing repeated self-sabotaging behavior that you can possibly deduce that you may just be having this fear.
There is a difference between the fear of success and the fear of failure. The fear of failure is the fear of making mistakes, fear of falling short and fear of not reaching your intended goal. Conversely, the fear of success is the deliberate (although rooted in the subconscious) subversion to success that you already know is reachable.
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5 Life Areas of Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage is an unconscious subversion, disruption or obstruction to hinder your own cause or endeavour. You consciously have a desired outcome but you work against yourself unconsciously. And hence, you have been putting obstacles in your own path to success.
“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”
– Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
Through words, actions or behaviour, you make things worse instead of better. Instead of becoming the best you can be or having the best that you can have, you eventually find yourself having to settle for less. It is certainly not desirable if you are hoping to live life fully.