How to Handle the Serial Drama Queen In Your Life

“I teach people that no matter what the situation is, no matter how chaotic, no matter how much drama is around you, you can heal by your presence if you just stay within your center.” – Deepak Chopra

Drama queens are those with the regular habit of blowing things out of proportion. Drama queens angst over the tiniest of details, makes a big deal and strives to get the attention of people around. Note that the tendency to create a scene is not limited to females alone. There can be drama queens, there can also be drama kings. Know of a friend or colleague who is one?

Using tears as her weapon, the drama queen is great with wrenching your heartstring. She has an insatiable hunger for attention. Not a day goes by without her trying to draw you in with some imaginary near-death experience.
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Self-Love Interview Story: Gift of Presence

“Show your body that you are aware of yourself even in the moment that you are serving another.” Joy Holland during the interview call

Over a week ago, I invited Joy Holland to have a chat with me on “vesting presence as a self-love gift”. Joy Holland blogs about the gift of presence in order that we can shine our inner brilliance. She is a heart healer, clarity facilitator and practitioner of presence. She also works a lot with women who are abused.

In particular, I wanted to find out from Joy how she – as a mother to two children – brings presence into her everyday life. As a mother myself, I can understand how difficult it is to stay focused in the moment, especially when there is something go on with the children. Many mothers I know tend to be in a state of worry (please read 25 coping tips for stressed-out mothers here).
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I Believe: When What You Believe Matters – Book Review

“The power of belief, the absolutely awesome incredible power of belief, is the genie in your life. Let me say that again: The absolutely awesome and incredible power of your belief is the genie in your life.” — Eldon TAylor

I have had the pleasure of receiving a copy on I Believe: When What You Believe Matters!, the latest book written by Eldon Taylor, a Hay House Author, for review. It was published a week ago. To be honest, having read many books of the same genre, I was not very excited to get to it initially. However, after picking it up, I have to acknowledge that I found it rather good. I share my thoughts below.

We already know that our beliefs largely create or influence our reality. If we expect to succeed, we are more likely to experience success. Conversely, if we believe that we are going to fail, we are likely to meet with failure. Yet, do we take the trouble to truly examine some of the beliefs that we hold on to? Are these beliefs serving or sabotaging us?
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How to Build Healthy Self-Esteem By Balancing the Ego

Building healthy self esteem is a popular topic area with many personal development experts. After all, it is considered to be the foundation for individual success. Obviously, if you have low self esteem, it can become hard to achieve much in life. As the experts say, you need to believe that you are worthy of success in order to attract success. Mostly, everyone likes to do business with you if you have a winning attitude, one that reeks of success.

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”- Malcolm S. Forbes

According to Freud, an important part of humanity is the ego. The traditional formula for success is to build the ego so that you increase your sense of self-worth. The danger is that a strong ego can eventually lead to an inflated sense of self. You experience the constant need to prove yourself as superior to others. It is a false sense of self-esteem that you are building, if you ask me.
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How to Eliminate Negative Self-Talk with Self-Love Meditation

“Relentless, repetitive self-talk is what changes our self-image.” Denis Waitley

Reportedly, we can have as many as 70,000 thoughts in a day. If we minus off 8 hours of sleep, it will work out to having a thought every 1.2 seconds. In the constant stream of thoughts, we are interpreting situations through our filters. There is a conversation going on in our minds. Psychologists call the conversation “self-talk”.
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A Confession About My Self-Love Healing Journey

“A confession has to be part of your new life.” – Ludwig Wittgenstein

If you had read my book, Self-Love Secrets or been a subscriber to my posts, then you already know that I have had blocks with self-love for several years in my life. However, what I may not have told my story quite so clearly previously is this……

Right after becoming a certified life coach a few years ago, I thought I had finally learned what the magic bullets are for personal transformation. And so, armed with the desire to “contribute to humanity”, it seemed easy to dish wonderful tips out to others and especially through a website.

Yet, things were not the same on the personal front. Time and time again, due to some situational triggers, I would fall back into the same old negative self-talk patterns of criticism, rejection and judgment. I was unhappy and impatient with myself.
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News Alert: Launch of Self-Love Healing Program

“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

I am excited to share that I will be launching my Self-Love Healing Program in slightly more than a week’s time. It is almost ready for publication. For this Program, I have been working on writing and recording some guided meditation audios that would help take anyone into deeper self-love.

Self-Love Healing Program is the follow-up to my book, Self-Love Secrets. Working on this Program just seems like the next natural step, as I have been receiving “messages” to continue assisting others in the area of self-love. Externally, I have also been getting a number of clients who show up with “anger spears” that they have been directing at themselves.

It was only in November last year that I could get cracking after sitting on the idea over several months. November came and proved to be perfect timing as it was prior to the ascension date of December 21, 2012. I was already planning to allocate more time for inner healing and meditation. As a result, the scripts were written during a time when I was in greater solitude and experiencing greater soul-level awareness.

A new launch always feels like birthing a new child. The launch has been slated to be on March 20. To celebrate the occasion, I will be offering a promotional discount over a limited time period. So if you are interested, do keep a look out for more news on the promotion.

I am still in the midst of finishing up the recordings. I will be back with more details about the program later in the week. Stay tuned!

Love and abundance always,

Author. Adventurer. Life Coach. More About Me.

P.S. Listen to a guided meditation sampling at the end of my recent free teleclass – download here.

Self-Love: Heal Yourself in Body-Mind-Spirit

“To love yourself fully is to heal in the body, mind and spirit.” – Self-Love Secrets: How to Love Yourself Unconditionally

Self-love involves a body, mind and spirit approach. In my book Self-Love Secrets, I shared that loving yourself requires a holistic perspective. The three levels of body, mind and spirit are interrelated. When you make a change in one, there is a rippling effect in your entire being. You will find yourself unveiling new layers of transformation at different levels.

The Body-Mind-Spirit Connection

It is easy to understand why you need to nurture yourself holistically. For example, if you are not feeling well (body), you won’t be able to feel well and think clearly (mind). Also, you will find it hard to sit down to meditate (spirit) for a closer connection with higher consciousness. It also goes to show that you need to have a sufficient level of well-being, before you can even start meditation or even function properly at all.
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Free Teleclass: Heal Yourself with Self-Love

“Learning to love yourself; It is the greatest love of all.” – Lyrics from the song, “The Greatest Love of All”.

On Valentine’s Day, let’s not just celebrate romantic love but love for yourself. Thus, whether or not you have got someone to share a candlelight dinner with, don’t forget to celebrate the person that you are. After all, as the lyrics to the song popularized by Whitney Houston goes, “the greatest love of all” is unconditional love for the self.

To practice unconditional self-love, you must first overcome your psychological challenges. You may have the habit of criticizing yourself. Or you may have the habit of putting your own needs last. Or, you already know that your low self-confidence stems from believing that you are not lovable. In order to experience more love, success and abundance in life, you will need to shift from feeling depressed, miserable and horrible about yourself.
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Release Fear To Reawaken Into Love

“Release the fear in your mind and reawaken to the love inside your heart.” – Self-Love Secrets: How to Love Yourself Unconditionally

Release the Fear in Your Mind

Fear corrupts the mind like a virus. It lays siege on your thought patterns. It infiltrates insidiously into some of your worst nightmares, causing you to wake up in terror in the middle of the night.

Many people use the words “mind” and “brain” to mean the same thing. Well, they are not. The mind is not the same as your brain.

Just as well, I was helping my children with some science over the weekend. My children learned this from their textbooks: The brain is a biochemical organ in the human body. As I was writing this post, I realized that what I have forgotten to point out to them is the truth that I have discovered outside their books. And so, I hope to share the rest of what I have written in this article later with them.
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