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Using Emotional Freedom Technique to clear emotional blocks before the Law of Attraction can work.
3 Mindful Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
Is imposter syndrome in the way for you with putting yourself out there?
Perhaps you have been hoping to step up as a coach, leader or to move to the next level.
But somehow you believe that you are some kind of a “fraud” even though you already have the experience or expertise in your field of work.
You just don’t feel “good enough”.
It is also possible that you are afraid of being exposed at any moment.
Well, in case you think that you are the only one facing imposter syndrome, what I’d like to share with you is: you are not alone!
Continue readingHow to Release Anger Safely by Tapping on the Gallbladder Meridian Point
Would like to release anger, so that you can safely let go of the red-hot impulse that you are feeling?
When anger or rage takes over, we stand to lose clarity and we are unable to act rationally or make wise decisions. Sometimes, we may hold on to justified anger. It happens when we have reasons to believe that it is someone else’s fault and we are feeling angst about it.
However, by reacting in anger, we can end up hurting our relationships. After which, we have to spend time and attention to repairing the damage caused by our outbursts. Anger wears down our energy system.
Well, let’s be aware that there are better ways of responding when we are being triggered. What if we are able to respond with a lot more calm, acceptance and courage to tell the truth with compassion? Wouldn’t it be great to achieve our desired outcomes with much less anger?
It is healthy to release seething anger without burying it. Suppressing anger and rage results in blockages that affect our health in the long run. The great news is that it is possible to release anger safely, effectively and quickly via tapping on the body using our finger tips.
According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, the liver and gallbladder meridian point is linked to anger and fear. In this post, I’d like to bring attention to the gallbladder meridian point which can be accessed by tapping on the side of the eye (refer to the featured image), using the finger tips.
Continue readingEFT Tapping: Why Focus and Tap Through Your Negative Feelings
I’d like to address the very common concern about tapping through negative feelings while using EFT tapping.
Recently someone who has viewed my EFT tapping videos wrote to me and shared that she did not enjoy the experience of tapping her negative feelings. If she has a choice, she would prefer to tap and just use positive affirmations. In fact, she reported how nice she felt while tapping through the positive statements along with my video.
(For those who don’t already know, EFT tapping is a method whereby we use our finger tips to lightly tap on specific meridian points on our face and body for emotional release. It is otherwise also known as the emotional form of acupuncture but without the needles, since we are using our fingertips.)
Well, she wouldn’t need to tap through any negative feelings if it is indeed true that she had none. Hopefully she is not in denial of any actual negative feelings. May I concede that many of us are not comfortable with bring attention to our negative emotions. In fact, I used to have the same resistance myself.
When I was first introduced to EFT tapping, I was afraid that I would be reinforcing the negatives. I was concerned that I would start to feel worse with bringing attention to my negative feelings. It felt like a counter-intuitive thing to do when I was desperately trying to feel better.
[Client Story] How Felicia Addressed Her Fear of Abandonment
Felicia (not her real name) and I had worked together on releasing her fear of abandonment.
If we find ourselves getting angry, frustrated, anxious or upset easily, we may want to ask ourselves why we are triggered. Some of us would get badly triggered when we perceive that we have been abandoned or rejected even though in reality, it may not be necessarily true. However, this can hurt our relationships, work life and well-being. It was exactly what had happened to Felicia.
Introvert Guide: How to Build Authentic Self-Confidence
A big questions is: How can we build self-confidence, as an introvert, in a world that seems to favour the extroverts?
Some clients of mine who are introverts seem to believe that their quiet personality is some kind of death sentence and that they are already at a disadvantage.
Well, it is true that those who are extroverted or have an outgoing personality tend to attract friends easily. They are fun, bright and great to hang out with. Generally, they appear to be confident about themselves. Society is also inclined to believe that those who are extroverted make natural leaders. But does this mean that those who are introverted have no or less chance to be successful?
Well, I’d like to share from my perspective as someone with an introverted personality but still desiring to connect with others socially. Also, I’d like to correct some myths on introverts. I also like to believe that the world has enough space for introverts to thrive as much as the extroverts or anyone in between.
Most introverts are quiet. They can feel as if they “don’t belong”. Quietness can seem to be something out of place in a world that is noisy. In fact, introversion is often perceived as something undesirable or a sign of weakness. From not speaking up, our silence is interpreted as being shy, having a lack of confidence and as having nothing valuable to contribute.
As kids, we may be taught that there is something fundamentally wrong with having an introverted or quiet personality. We were not the popular ones in school for sure. I recall feeling rather hurt when I was labelled as a “quiet kid”, which caused me to retreat even more into silence.
Recently, while attending a dinner-cum-networking gathering, someone suddenly pointed out that I have been really quiet. For a moment, I could feel as if all eyes were on me. Till then, I was occupied with listening to what the more talkative ones had to share. Put in the spot, I felt as if I had to defend myself for being quiet.
Keanu Reeves has much to say about being a quiet person…
I hate when people ask me: “Why are you so quiet?” Because I am. That’s how I function. I don’t ask others, “Why do you talk so much?” It’s rude.
How to Overcome the Feeling that “I Don’t Belong”
Do you often feel unwanted and lonely because you believe that “I don’t belong”?
Do you often feel left out in social circles?
Over time, anyone who constantly feels unwanted and experiences “not belonging” can start to feel depressed and disconnected. The heart senses the separation. A belief of “not belonging” can impact our ability to form close friendships or relationships with our spouse and loved ones.
We experience “not belonging” because we can’t seem to fit in. It may be that we are not comfortable in our own skin, to begin with. Or that we are afraid of being hurt because we hold the fear of rejection. The conviction that we are not wanted arises when we find out that friends are leaving us out from their social circles or are not asking us out.
Many of my clients who are spiritual seekers confess to feeling the same way. They feel like an “alien” on this planet especially when their beliefs, ideas and values differ from commonly held ones. Holding on to disconnection, they question what their purpose in life is.
Then, there are the introverts and empaths. Introverts need plenty of “me” space and alone time whereas empaths find it necessary to protect themselves. Within this group, those who keep to themselves excessively can also develop the belief of “being unwanted” especially where they have decided not to engage. They go through the constant conflict of not knowing what they want.
All these can contribute to the perception of “not belonging”.
How Childhood Emotional Neglect Affects Our Mental Health
We tend to pay little regard to any form of emotional neglect that we’ve experienced as a child. After all, it is not as if that we had faced a real survival threat. Nor were we physically abandoned or abused either. So it would seem unthinkable to even imagine that there can be any sort of trauma related to emotional neglect.
Therein lies where the problem is.
Because it did not cross our minds that a lack of self-esteem or our struggles with anxiety and mental health could be contributed by the emotional neglect that we had experienced when we were young, we don’t seek help or therapy for our issues. In fact, we usually perceive that seeking help from professionals as only warranted for major traumas. Sure, problems caused by emotional neglect may be less serious than say, a case of torture or abuse. However, emotional neglect can also cause problematic wounds when we bury them deep in our psyche.
So, here’s what I eventually discovered…
Emotional neglect can inflict invisible wounds, even in the absence of any physical signs of abuse.
Self-Love Healing: 7 Signs that Your Inner Child Needs Help
How to recognise that you need self-love healing to address the needs of your inner child?
Or if your current struggles are connected to a wounded inner child?
According to psychologists, every adult has an inner child.
Your wounded inner child is that part of you that never grew up, even though you are now an adult. She may be your younger self as a newborn or a 6 year old. If she is wounded, it means that she has been holding on to hurt, disappointment, pain or any negative emotions, and her needs have not been met.
If the needs of your inner child remain unresolved, it can potentially affect your mental well-being and relationships. Thus, inner child healing is a crucial part to deep psychological work. It involves the spiritual process of reconnecting to the wounded elements of your inner child.
Here are 7 indicative signs that you need self-love healing which involves “meeting” your inner child…
How to Let Go of Wanting to Let Go Of Emotions Fast
You’ve just been advised by your therapist, coach or counsellor to let go of your negative emotions.
Which you know you “should”.
In fact, you would like to let go of your emotions FAST!
After all, whatever negativity you’ve been holding on to doesn’t serve you.
Your mind already knows this.
Every self-help book or guide out there says to release the anger, blame or resentment and move on.
It all sounds so easy.
And it also makes sense, doesn’t it?
And it also makes sense, doesn’t it?
The problem is that even though you have done as best as you could, you are not feeling that this is it.
You are unable to let your emotions go COMPLETELY.
Your heart is not willing to – not just yet.
[Client Story] Breaking Free from High Anxiety During Covid Lockdown
Charmain Tan approached me for help when her anxiety started to spike during the lockdown in 2020.
She kindly sent me a letter of gratitude and recounted what happened to her…Continue reading