How Money Triggers Impact Your Relationship

“When two people love each other and can’t make it work, that’s the real tragedy.” Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

Watching the movie – Gone Girl – over the weekend prompted me to finish this article, which I had begun writing a while back. In the movie, Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike, both of who acted as a couple, put up stellar performances. The film, based on a best-selling novel by Gillian Flynn, was engaging, riveting, suspenseful, and disturbing. It made me reflect on how money issues can trigger off reactions that cause a relationship to deteriorate so badly.

As much as a relationship breakdown can bring about financial issues, the reverse is also true. Reportedly, one of the major factors leading to a divorce is brought about by money problems. Differences in money management styles and financial attitudes can bring about conflict in a couple. You are likely to build frustration if you experience constant worries about not having enough money to meet expenses or to build savings and then blaming the other partner for not doing his or her part.
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How to Handle Financial Woes After a Relationship Break Up

“Never let a past relationship tear your heart apart and rob you of joy from living in the present.” Evelyn Lim

You long for a fairy tale ending.

You want things to turn out perfect.

In your dreams, you see yourself living happily and abundantly ever after.

However, should your relationship not turn out the way you hope it would, you feel utterly disappointed.

Your heart sinks.

The blue skies turn grey.
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She Wasted Her Money Hiring The Wrong Coach

“Testimonials are thank-you gifts from the heart of someone who has been touched by our love, passion and commitment.” Evelyn Lim

I was surprised to receive an email recently from an ex-client of mine. She had been wanting to write a testimonial for me since last year but had forgotten about it. Well, she finally got to it.

In her email, Angeline Tang shared her story about hiring a coach who, unfortunately, was not able to assist her in a better way forward. Here is what she wrote….
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Video Testimonial For Money Success Breakthrough

“A breakthrough happens when you finally make the decision not to settle for anything less than what you deserve. It is when the impossible becomes possible. It is when you become free of what has held you back from becoming your highest potential.” Abundance Alchemy Program

Julie Cumming, my client from Australia, graciously agreed to provide a video testimonial for having worked together for money breakthroughs in my Abundance Alchemy Program. While listening to her during the recording, I was bowled over what she had to say. View the video below….

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Self-Care Healing: Give Yourself Permission

“Self-care is not self-indulgence. It is essential for your well-being. With self-care, you give yourself the sacred permission to be well.”

I had a bad fall last week. It resulted in multiple visits to the clinic for X-rays, reviews and check up. It was not the physical injury that shook me most, but the emotional trauma. For a while, I was also angry with myself for being so careless.

To begin with, I was frustrated over having to spend unnecessary money, time and attention. I did not like the idea of having to reschedule all my appointments and having to delay my work plans. I started off by lying in bed, caught in self-pity. My inner critic went: so much for being advocate of self-care and an author of a Self-Love book!
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How to Find the Nirvana of Life Balance

Do you find it hard to achieve life balance?

Balance can be a challenging thing to attain if your work schedule is hectic and demanding.

“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” Thomas Merton

Perhaps, you have been striving hard for the money; climbing up the corporate ladder or running your business. You could also be a mompreneur working hard to balance babies and business at the same time.

And so, up till now, there could have been aspects of your life that you have ignored or set aside.
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How Your Body Reacts to Stress from Money Struggles

“Stress is basically a disconnection from the earth, a forgetting of the breath. Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important. Just lie down.” Natalie Goldberg

We already know this: chronic stress brings down overall wellness. Yet, like the vast majority of people, we may find it hard to eliminate anxiety. Unfortunately, if we don’t address any heightened stress levels, physical health can be compromised. Thus, we become more vulnerable to illnesses from a lowered immune system.

One of the main sources of chronic stress is worrying over “not enough money”. Indeed, money stress is one of the main – if not the top – concerns on the minds of the people that I speak with – including friends, clients and relatives. It’s the reason for sleepless nights and tension headaches for these people.

To a large extent, our body is equipped to cope with stress. We have a coping mechanism that protects us from perceived threats. In caveman days, the threats mainly come from physical predators. In today’s world, our perceived threats usually come from needing to meet the demands of modern living. We have to face the issues of balancing work and family life, making ends meet, earning enough to afford a minimum standard of living and so on. If we constantly perceive that we can’t cope, it is when we get into chronic stress.

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How to Overcome Feelings of Financial Insecurity in an Uncertain World

“But you cannot understand life and its mysteries as long as you try to grasp it. Indeed, you cannot grasp it, just as you cannot walk off with a river in a bucket. If you try to capture running water in a bucket, it is clear that you do not understand it and that you will always be disappointed, for in the bucket the water does not run. To ‘have’ running water you must let go of it and let it run.” Alan Wilson Watts, Wisdom of Insecurity

Are you finding it hard to combat the feelings of insecurity in a world that does not appear to be safe, stable and supportive?

If so, you could be feeling a lack of control. You perceive that there are many uncertain external factors that can potentially disrupt your well-being. It has been one of the main reasons why you are in a heightened state of stress.

You are not alone if you are feeling this way. Insecurity afflicts even famous personalities like politicians, movie stars or models. As American actor, Christian Slater, once said, “I thought I’d get over being insecure if I became famous, but it hasn’t happened. It just gets worse, really. You get more and more on edge, more nervous. These are all the things I’m dealing with. You think if you get famous, fear will go away and problems will go away. But they don’t.”

In particular, as the cost of living rises, you can experience a lot of worry in the area of finance. For instance, you could have the following financial fears: that you will run out of money, cannot keep up with the rising cost of living, unable to service your loan, cannot put food on the table, do not have enough for retirement, do not have enough to set up a fund for emergencies and so on.
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How to Practice the Art of Dreaming to Attract Abundance

“All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination. Imagination is the workshop of your mind, capable of turning mind energy into accomplishment and wealth.” Napoleon Hill

It can be hard to believe yourself as a powerful creative being, with the ability to change your current reality simply by directing your thoughts. I have had tremendous difficulty with this myself as well, especially in the beginning when I started trying to practice deliberate thinking. Most of us invariably find ourselves slipping back into a world of victimhood. Any notion about being powerful co-creators gets instantly thrown out of the window when we are faced with stress.

Yet, the Law of Deliberate Creation is a law. In addition, there is already scientific evidence to support how our reality is influenced by what we believe in. Quantum physics has shown that just by the act of observation, a person can alter reality.
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How Decisive Action Overcomes Paralysis in a Stuck Situation

“Being stuck is a position few of us like. We want something new but cannot let go of the old – old ideas, beliefs, habits, even thoughts. We are out of contact with our own genius. Sometimes we know we are stuck; sometimes we don’t. In both cases we have to DO something.” Rush Limbaugh

I have noticed that a lot of us make decisions from where we currently are – which happens to be the “stuck” position. In which case, we are making the decision from a place of fear. So we end up saying “no” or procrastinating on the one decision that can help us unstuck ourselves.

Even more so when it comes to a decision on investing in inner or healing work. We are reluctant to commit to working internally. We feel paralysed with fear. Even though we realise that it could be helpful, we are averse to the idea of bringing our repressed emotions into the open. Not surprisingly, we usually view spending in any form of inner healing/transformation as unnecessary expense.

Unfortunately, this way of thinking qualifies as poverty consciousness. If we are feeling the lack, we will continue to stay in limitation because we are not willing to take the action that can potentially bring us to the next level of growth. Paralysis imprisons and prevents us from being great!
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