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Using Emotional Freedom Technique to clear emotional blocks before the Law of Attraction can work.
How to Solve the Root Cause of Your Money Story
Would you be interested in solving the root cause of your money story, so that you can start to manifest the life of abundance that you are dreaming of?
Your money story is the one you often tell to others. It is made up of the issues going on in your current financial situation, the persistent worry that you are experiencing or/and the complaints you have about the economy, property prices, cost of living and so on. It is a story that occupies your mind throughout the day.
As I have found, money stories often act as a smoke screen to deeper underlying issues. At first, it is easy to be mistaken into believing that your financial challenges are caused by a string of bad luck, the fault of the tax authorities, the constant unfair treatment by your employers, the failure of receiving payment on time, or the banks who are out to get you. This being the case, you try to remedy your challenges with band-aide or by rearranging certain aspects of your life.
However, should you step aside for a bit, you may be able to observe money patterns that keep repeating. What you observe are likely to be debilitating cycles of frustration, worry, panic, resentment and anger over finances. Over and over again, you have not been able to truly break free.
Where there is a repeating pattern in your external issues, a root cause could exist internally.
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4 Reasons on Why You Need to Heal Your Wounded Inner Teenager
Healing our inner teenager is sometimes overlooked as we often place emphasis on dealing with traumas or events arising from when we were below 7 years old. While the early years are considered to be most crucial for healthy development, doing inner teen work can be just as important. The teenage years are a pivotal period where emotional wounds can take root, shaping our adult lives in profound ways. The following are reasons why doing inner teen work is important…
How to Build Emotional Awareness: Feelings as Feedback
Building emotional awareness requires us to be in touch with our feelings, and not avoid them. When it comes to negative emotions, no one likes to be in pain and so there is a tendency to push our feelings down. Our avoidance could also be that we don’t like being seen as “emo” on the assumption that we need to appear strong. However, when we are in the habit of suppressing our emotions for too long, a host of problems can occur; ranging from depression and anxiety to substance abuse.
After realising about the importance of getting to know ourselves, we may encounter problems with accessing our emotions at first. It was certainly what happened to me. For a start at one stage, I was not able to distinguish and to identify what I was feeling. In fact, I had to ask for help.
How does EFT tapping help to increase vibration
“How does EFT tapping help to increase vibration?”
This was the exact question posed to me by a participant when I gave an introduction class on EFT to a group recently.
Great question!
Well, I’d like to share my answers with you here, in case you are wondering the same too.
EFT Tapping for Raising Vibrations
In case this is the first time you are hearing about EFT tapping, it is a therapeutic method where we use the fingertips to tap on specific meridian endpoints on the face and body. EFT tapping is a great tool for releasing emotional disruptions and restoring the body’s energy system. You can find out more about EFT tapping points here or simply subscribe to my newsletter to get a downloadable book on EFT tapping.
Emotions, just like anything else in the Universe, are energy.
How You Could Be in Self-Sabotage Due to Past Trauma and a Protective Nervous System
Self-sabotage happens when you are in your own way of your overall happiness and success. You are either doing or not doing something that blocks achieving your goals. For example, despite wanting to have a loving relationship with your partner, you undertake actions that block connection or intimacy.
So here’s what I discovered about how we could be sabotaging our present due to the past…
Even though the past traumatic experience is now over, our nervous system continues to use the encoded information that is from the distressing memory to disrupt us today.
How Your Nervous System Impacts Goal Setting and Your Ability to Hit Higher Targets
You are all ready to start the new year with a new set of goals.
Perhaps you are thinking that this year is going to be different.
It will be the year where you manage to break new ground, step up or scale your business.
You are more determined than ever to meet your goals.
Well, to increase your chances of success, an understanding about your nervous system is going to help.
In fact, if you have not made much headway in previous years, this could be the ONE thing that you are missing in that explains your lack of success.
It’s not just about your mindset.
Or about changing your beliefs.
Rather, it’s about how your nervous system works.
How the “Poor Me” Syndrome Is Synonymous with Poverty Consciousness
For your awareness, to constantly think “poor me” is to operate in poverty consciousness.
Do you go over “poor me”, “poor me” and “poor me” in your mind?
You could also be repeating the same thing to the people that you meet too.
“Poor me” is akin to having a victim mentality. You are in self-pity. A “poor me” syndrome arises especially when you are constantly pointing blame outwards. It could be the fault of your grandmother, father, the government, the economy and so on. It is always the fault of someone or something else except yours.
[Side-note] This post is updated as the content is still relevant today.
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How Trauma is Not Just in Your Head or Mind
What I found out about trauma is this: Trauma isn’t something that is just in your head or mind. It’s not just a past memory.
In fact, it is stored in the habitual reflexive state of your nervous system. It is in your heart, head, your stomach, arms, legs..all the sensory information that got coded. They manifest in an overreactive response to stress today: racing heart, shallow breathing, nausea, indigestion, trembling hands, blurred vision, etc.
For trauma recovery, it helps to remember: not just your head or mind, every part of your body was there in the past.
What Are Glimmers and How You Can Find Them
Glimmers are the opposite of triggers.
Glimmers are moments that act as cues for self-regulation and for soothing our nervous system. They are tiny moments where we feel relaxed, safe, assured and connected. In contrast triggers cause us to feel threatened. When we are triggered badly, our fight-flight-freeze response can get excessively activated and our nervous system becomes deregulated.
The concept of glimmers first came from Polyvagal theory. The theory was introduced by Stephen Porges in 1995 where we learn about how our autonomic nervous system is constantly on the lookout for cues to determine if they are dangerous. “Glimmers” is coined by Deb Dana, a licensed clinical social worker who specialises in complex trauma and also the author of The Polyvagal Therory in Therapy, as a way to help us shift out of survival mode.
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How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds When You Can’t Turn Back the Clock
Some of us may be resistant to the idea of having to heal childhood wounds. That is because we don’t like having to revisit the past in our memory. We fear that we would relive the pain and that we would traumatise ourselves all over again.
Even more so, we wish that the past did not happen. For sure, if not for the past, we would have suffered less all these years and we wouldn’t have felt so lost, alone and confused. More importantly, we wouldn’t be unconsciously having an inner child that is bent on sabotaging our present.
Perhaps, just like how movies portray, we dearly wish that there can be a time machine that can take us back. We would like to have the power to change things right from the start, instead of having to do repair or healing work. If we can change history, a time machine would certainly help.