Would you be interested in solving the root cause of your money story, so that you can start to manifest the life of abundance that you are dreaming of?
Your money story is the one you often tell to others. It is made up of the issues going on in your current financial situation, the persistent worry that you are experiencing or/and the complaints you have about the economy, property prices, cost of living and so on. It is a story that occupies your mind throughout the day.
As I have found, money stories often act as a smoke screen to deeper underlying issues. At first, it is easy to be mistaken into believing that your financial challenges are caused by a string of bad luck, the fault of the tax authorities, the constant unfair treatment by your employers, the failure of receiving payment on time, or the banks who are out to get you. This being the case, you try to remedy your challenges with band-aide or by rearranging certain aspects of your life.
However, should you step aside for a bit, you may be able to observe money patterns that keep repeating. What you observe are likely to be debilitating cycles of frustration, worry, panic, resentment and anger over finances. Over and over again, you have not been able to truly break free.
Where there is a repeating pattern in your external issues, a root cause could exist internally.
Many business coaches often have the advice of “charge what you are worth” when it comes to pricing your coaching services. Even though you could be in the midst of getting your business off the ground, they may still recommend that you charge high prices for your time. They assure you that you are worthy and deserving and that at the soul level, you are also of infinite worth. Hence, you are justified to raise your prices since you are “more than enough”.
Admittedly, such advice can stoke anyone’s ego. And since they are your business coaches, you may decide to take their advice by charging a high hourly rate. Yet, in reality, this advice may not be helpful especially if you are not backed by adequate coaching experience or have not been able to generate enough business.
Let’s examine what it means to “charge what you are worth”, so that we can make better sense of the advice.
Would you like to be inspired by money healing stories?
Well, I’d like to share some that belonged to my clients. I have had the privilege of helping them attain a mindset breakthrough that resulted in a change in their finances. For a long time, they were struggling with limiting beliefs that blocked the flow of money and their ability to generate better income. Most carried emotional money wounds that stemmed from the past.
Their money healing stories are transformative. They had to confront their fears and release their attachment to beliefs formed since young. I’m thankful to my clients for giving me a firsthand chance to learn about how it is possible to rewrite our stories for healing and greater empowerment. To protect their privacy, I have used pen names for them.
Money Healing Story #1: Breaking Free of Glass Income Ceiling
No matter how much effort she put in, Annie couldn’t seem to break through her glass income ceiling for her business. She’s constantly having money worries and that she’d never have enough. While we were working together, Annie experienced an “aha” moment. She suddenly realised how her unconscious limit in earnings came about.
Her dad had struggled to make a living when she was young. Unfortunately, Annie internalised some of the messages he had shared with her about his money troubles. During our session, she “saw” the amount that was written on the cheques he had been banking in from his job. To her surprise, it was the same amount that she has been earning for a long time from her business.
Annie worked on letting go of her glass ceiling. She gave herself the permission to make more than her dad. Annie no longer limits herself on what she can earn. As a result of her inner work, she has been generating income breakthroughs ever since. Annie found herself attracting bigger and bigger deals for her business.
Do you often wish that you had received adequate love, guidance, support from your mum or dad when you were young?
It could be that you’re now realising that part of the challenging issues you have today are related to your childhood. Perhaps you have experienced emotional neglect in the past. You find yourself still longing for love and assurance even today.
This is not to blame any of your parents. After all, they parented you in the only way they knew how. They could have been brought up in the same or similar ways themselves. Yet, what remains is that your younger self or inner child still feels the need to have that love and acceptance.
Well, it is not too late. You can help yourself by addressing these needs in the now. Addressing unresolved needs helps you to build emotional resilience, strengthen self-confidence and esteem, and to undertake personal responsibility. With all that you know now, with the higher consciousness that you are, you can offer parenting love, warmth and guidance to your inner child. Continue reading
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In order to build the best relationship with it, learning to “communicate” with it can be helpful. Ultimately, we are able to receive a better response from our partner. Conversely, when we are not in sync, our ability to relate to each other goes down.
After reviewing what I had learned from my 20 years of marriage, I came up with 5 ways on how best to cultivate communication in a couple relationship. When I put the 5 ways together, I found out that it fitted nicely with a SPARK acronym 🙂
On a wave of inspiration, I extended its application to working with our relationship with money.
Are you hoping to attract more clients but feel as if you need to use marketing methods that are based on high-pressure, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and manipulation, and you are feeling disconnected because of this?
Recently, I came across this post by someone who shared what was it like for her…
“I have to behave, talk and present in a specific way to attract paying clients. My business coach taught me how to do this in her way and that is pretty much based on using fear and pressure. But I am feeling disconnected because of this. It’s not me. A part of me just wants to be who I am. But what if showing up in my own ways is going to hurt my business?”
If this is similar to what is going on for you too, let’s work on releasing any sense of disconnection or stress. Tap along with me with the video below.
How do you begin to improve your relationship with money?
In this updated post, I’d like to share a way that is easy to understand and relate to. This update also covers one of the topics that I am teaching in my Relationship with Money Course.
What can be helpful is to think of a romantic relationship. And in every romantic relationship, there are stages. So, consider the different phases that a romantic relationship will go through; that is from dating to developing love and true intimacy. Next, draw on the understanding to apply it in the context of your relationship with money.
2020 has been a difficult year for most. Against the backdrop of confusion, chaos and challenges, I reviewed the happenings that took place, in order to redesign plans for a new year ahead.
As 2020 comes to an end, I’d like to invite you to do the following too… What’s your review for 2020 like? What were your 3 most important lessons learnt? How can you pivot your life and business for a stronger 2021 ahead?
May 2021 be a better year for you.
To your success, health and happiness! Love and abundance always, Evelyn Lim
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If you run a coaching, energy healing or solopreneur business, you cannot neglect or ignore being visible online.
And if you are an introvert and have the tendency to hide, this post is meant specially for you!
Specifically, the fear of being visible can be about
the fear of being seen online,
the fear of feeling exposed,
feeling vulnerable,
imposter syndrome or feeling like a “fraud”,
fear of success,
fear of being ridiculed in public,
fear of not being accepted for your views, and so on.
If you have the fear of being visible online, it can impact you on the business front in the following ways….
can’t show up on videos,
can’t confidently market your products and services,
can’t network and build a group of business associates and friends online,
avoid giving interviews,
stops you from achieving better success in your marketing activities,
can’t conduct online classes or webinar trainings,
can’t ask to be paid for your services,
set low prices for your products and services etc.
Overall, the fear of being visible online stops you from being more successful in your business. This has an impact on your bottom line!
Here’s a fact that you can’t run away from:
If you want 24/7 consistent free traffic and for your marketing activities to be effective, you will need to do video marketing.
Which just means that you need to be visible online.
Why You Need to Do Video Marketing
Showing up on video allows you to create and share valuable content with your audience in a way that plain text will never match.
Here are some stats that you need to be aware of….
Get the picture after having an idea about what being visible can do for you?
If you don’t do video marketing, you are at a severe disadvantage.
Indeed, people buy based on emotional connection.
By showing up on video, you are better able to create trust and connection with your audience. Video marketing simply helps you create visibility that will assist you with generating leads and gaining clients.
My Story of the Fear of Being Visible Online
As an introvert, I used to struggle with showing my face online. I felt self-conscious and vulnerable, as if everyone will get to finally see the real me and not like what they see. And so, I used being “an introvert” and that it is not my personality, as the perfect excuse for not showing up.
I recall the times when I almost threw up, felt faint and going through severe nervous tension just at the thought of needing to be visible. It was that bad for me. I was totally resistant to being visible online!
Later, I discovered that my excuses were not helping me to reach out to more people. In fact, I found out that becoming visible was more a matter of boosting confidence than anything else. It’s still possible to be an introvert and show up on videos, in other words! Fast forward till today, I have been able to show up with more ease and confidence!
3 Tips on How You Can Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online
If you are held back from achieving your goals by your fear of being visible, I’d like to share with you 3 tips that you can apply…
(1) Start small by being visible online to a small audience.
You can change your settings on your FB profile, youtube or instagram to just private or a small group of friends. Or you can also set up a small facebook group and post your videos there. Alternatively, you can find facebook groups where you can feel safe to create posts. Gradually work up your confidence to showing up and being more visible online!
(2) Repeat some positive affirmations.
Give yourself a positive boost with using affirmations that are going to support you. For example, you can use the following… – I am open to being seen and heard online. – I am a powerful communicator. – I choose to feel safe to be visible online.
(3) Boost Your Confidence.
Let’s face it. Without confidence, it is going to hamper your ability to be more productive and effective in your social media activities. Hence, you need to start with working on yourself. It’s about transforming from the inside-out.
Very importantly, you don’t just want confidence to be based on external factors but I recommend that you want to build Authentic Confidence, showing up as your true self, without any false pretences. Authentic Confidence boosts your ability to generate Cash Flow!
Take Action Right Away with Beating The Fear of Being Visible Online
My course, Authentic Confidence Mastery, is designed to help you create self awareness, align with what you want and to release your fears that are in the way.
It is an invitation to give yourself the permission to shine!
What happens if you don’t even know you have mindset blocks?
What are the signs?
To begin with, why is even important to identify whether you have mindset blocks or not?
Well, for a start, mindset blocks can keep you stuck or struggling more than you need to. It obstructs your success. A mindset block arises when you have the story of “I want to achieve this goal or dream but (the reason)”. You may even have more than one “but” on why you can’t achieve what you want.
Invariably, the reason behind the “but” stems from a limiting belief. Your “but this” or “but that” are actually excuses. Excuses are a form of self-sabotage.
