Category Archives for "Conscious Living"
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How to Overcome the Need for a Success Guarantee
“If we get our self-esteem from superficial places, from our popularity, appearance, business success, financial situation, health, any of these, we will be disappointed, because no one can guarantee that we’ll have them tomorrow.” Kathy Ireland
Stuck at a crossroad? One reason why you may feel stuck because you would like to have the guarantee of a successful outcome before you make a change. Having the guarantee of success gives you the perception that it is safe to give up what you already have. Without the guarantee, you prefer not to run any perceived risk.
One classic example of a crossroad: trying to decide whether to staying in your current job (which you hate) or starting a business (something more aligned with your passion but of which you have had little experience in). Before making any drastic move, you prefer to have the guarantee that the latter choice will be a good one. You want the certainty that things will turn out successful with the change.
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How Digging Deep Enhances Your Creativity
“Way down deep, you know what you like. You know what you’re drawn to. You know what will work for you. If you doubt this, or like a good majority of the people, feel totally lost when it comes to envisioning what you want, what is missing isn’t some superhuman insight; what’s missing is very simply trust in yourself.” Fran Sorin, Digging Deep
I was introduced to Fran Sorin’s Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening
As Digging Deep
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7 Ways to Resolve Money Conflicts For Saving Your Marriage
“Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.” Anthony J D Angelo
You may perceive two hundred dollars as small change, but your partner kicks up a big fuss.
You may deem the purchase of an item as a necessary expense, but your partner thinks otherwise.
You may place a cap for spending on a vacation at one thousand dollars, but your partner has a different quantum in mind.
Then, there is the question of fairness. Who is entitled to spend the excess money in the joint account first?
With the end of the honeymoon phase in your marriage, you could find that money is the constant thing that you had been bickering about with your spouse.
Well, you are not alone.
It is common for couples to fight over money matters. As I wrote last week, money has been cited as a major factor leading to a marriage breakdown.
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How Money Triggers Impact Your Relationship
“When two people love each other and can’t make it work, that’s the real tragedy.” Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
Watching the movie – Gone Girl – over the weekend prompted me to finish this article, which I had begun writing a while back. In the movie, Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike, both of who acted as a couple, put up stellar performances. The film, based on a best-selling novel by Gillian Flynn, was engaging, riveting, suspenseful, and disturbing. It made me reflect on how money issues can trigger off reactions that cause a relationship to deteriorate so badly.
As much as a relationship breakdown can bring about financial issues, the reverse is also true. Reportedly, one of the major factors leading to a divorce is brought about by money problems. Differences in money management styles and financial attitudes can bring about conflict in a couple. You are likely to build frustration if you experience constant worries about not having enough money to meet expenses or to build savings and then blaming the other partner for not doing his or her part.
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How to Handle Financial Woes After a Relationship Break Up
“Never let a past relationship tear your heart apart and rob you of joy from living in the present.” Evelyn Lim
You long for a fairy tale ending.
You want things to turn out perfect.
In your dreams, you see yourself living happily and abundantly ever after.
However, should your relationship not turn out the way you hope it would, you feel utterly disappointed.
Your heart sinks.
The blue skies turn grey.
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She Wasted Her Money Hiring The Wrong Coach
“Testimonials are thank-you gifts from the heart of someone who has been touched by our love, passion and commitment.” Evelyn Lim
I was surprised to receive an email recently from an ex-client of mine. She had been wanting to write a testimonial for me since last year but had forgotten about it. Well, she finally got to it.
In her email, Angeline Tang shared her story about hiring a coach who, unfortunately, was not able to assist her in a better way forward. Here is what she wrote….
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How I manifested a Dream Home with a $700,000 Price Reduction
“Play the picture in your mind – focus on the end result.” The Secret movie
I am so excited! I finally bought a new home. Not only is my new place located centrally, just minutes away from the shopping belt – but I also purchased it at S$700,000 (US$560,000) below its asking price.
It is like a miracle come true for a number of reasons. We have been looking for a new place periodically for some years. Many weekends were spent looking at places up for sale. Until three months ago, the arduous search that spanned a huge radius did not yield results.
Then, unexpectedly, we found one exactly where we would like it to be. Located near the hustle and bustle of city life but tucked in an exclusive corner, my new home is rather convenient. Most importantly, it is within walking distance of my daughter’s school.
The best part of it all is securing the deal at a price that was below the seller’s asking price and also below bank valuation. The difference of S$700,000 (US$560,000) made it possible for us to own a place in our desired location.
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Video Testimonial For Money Success Breakthrough
“A breakthrough happens when you finally make the decision not to settle for anything less than what you deserve. It is when the impossible becomes possible. It is when you become free of what has held you back from becoming your highest potential.” Abundance Alchemy Program
Julie Cumming, my client from Australia, graciously agreed to provide a video testimonial for having worked together for money breakthroughs in my Abundance Alchemy Program. While listening to her during the recording, I was bowled over what she had to say. View the video below….
Self-Care Healing: Give Yourself Permission
“Self-care is not self-indulgence. It is essential for your well-being. With self-care, you give yourself the sacred permission to be well.”
I had a bad fall last week. It resulted in multiple visits to the clinic for X-rays, reviews and check up. It was not the physical injury that shook me most, but the emotional trauma. For a while, I was also angry with myself for being so careless.
To begin with, I was frustrated over having to spend unnecessary money, time and attention. I did not like the idea of having to reschedule all my appointments and having to delay my work plans. I started off by lying in bed, caught in self-pity. My inner critic went: so much for being advocate of self-care and an author of a Self-Love book!
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A Real Story of Money No Enough
“I find so many people struggling, often working harder, simply because they cling to old ideas. They want things to be the way they were; they resist change.” Robert Kiyosaki
Many of us are driven by the fear of not having enough money. We are afraid that we do not have enough for our needs such as old age, a bigger home or university fees for our children. Even as we have some savings, we have an underlying fear that our money will get eroded by inflation. And so, we figure that the only solution is to work a lot harder.
What transpires is that if we are mostly driven by fear in the way we approach things, the consequences can be negative.
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