How Money Triggers Impact Your Relationship

“When two people love each other and can’t make it work, that’s the real tragedy.” Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

Watching the movie – Gone Girl – over the weekend prompted me to finish this article, which I had begun writing a while back. In the movie, Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike, both of who acted as a couple, put up stellar performances. The film, based on a best-selling novel by Gillian Flynn, was engaging, riveting, suspenseful, and disturbing. It made me reflect on how money issues can trigger off reactions that cause a relationship to deteriorate so badly.

As much as a relationship breakdown can bring about financial issues, the reverse is also true. Reportedly, one of the major factors leading to a divorce is brought about by money problems. Differences in money management styles and financial attitudes can bring about conflict in a couple. You are likely to build frustration if you experience constant worries about not having enough money to meet expenses or to build savings and then blaming the other partner for not doing his or her part.
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How to Handle Financial Woes After a Relationship Break Up

“Never let a past relationship tear your heart apart and rob you of joy from living in the present.” Evelyn Lim

You long for a fairy tale ending.

You want things to turn out perfect.

In your dreams, you see yourself living happily and abundantly ever after.

However, should your relationship not turn out the way you hope it would, you feel utterly disappointed.

Your heart sinks.

The blue skies turn grey.
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She Wasted Her Money Hiring The Wrong Coach

“Testimonials are thank-you gifts from the heart of someone who has been touched by our love, passion and commitment.” Evelyn Lim

I was surprised to receive an email recently from an ex-client of mine. She had been wanting to write a testimonial for me since last year but had forgotten about it. Well, she finally got to it.

In her email, Angeline Tang shared her story about hiring a coach who, unfortunately, was not able to assist her in a better way forward. Here is what she wrote….
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How I manifested a Dream Home with a $700,000 Price Reduction

“Play the picture in your mind – focus on the end result.” The Secret movie

I am so excited! I finally bought a new home. Not only is my new place located centrally, just minutes away from the shopping belt – but I also purchased it at S$700,000 (US$560,000) below its asking price.

It is like a miracle come true for a number of reasons. We have been looking for a new place periodically for some years. Many weekends were spent looking at places up for sale. Until three months ago, the arduous search that spanned a huge radius did not yield results.

Then, unexpectedly, we found one exactly where we would like it to be. Located near the hustle and bustle of city life but tucked in an exclusive corner, my new home is rather convenient. Most importantly, it is within walking distance of my daughter’s school.

The best part of it all is securing the deal at a price that was below the seller’s asking price and also below bank valuation. The difference of S$700,000 (US$560,000) made it possible for us to own a place in our desired location.
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Video Testimonial For Money Success Breakthrough

“A breakthrough happens when you finally make the decision not to settle for anything less than what you deserve. It is when the impossible becomes possible. It is when you become free of what has held you back from becoming your highest potential.” Abundance Alchemy Program

Julie Cumming, my client from Australia, graciously agreed to provide a video testimonial for having worked together for money breakthroughs in my Abundance Alchemy Program. While listening to her during the recording, I was bowled over what she had to say. View the video below….

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Self-Care Healing: Give Yourself Permission

“Self-care is not self-indulgence. It is essential for your well-being. With self-care, you give yourself the sacred permission to be well.”

I had a bad fall last week. It resulted in multiple visits to the clinic for X-rays, reviews and check up. It was not the physical injury that shook me most, but the emotional trauma. For a while, I was also angry with myself for being so careless.

To begin with, I was frustrated over having to spend unnecessary money, time and attention. I did not like the idea of having to reschedule all my appointments and having to delay my work plans. I started off by lying in bed, caught in self-pity. My inner critic went: so much for being advocate of self-care and an author of a Self-Love book!
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A Real Story of Money No Enough

“I find so many people struggling, often working harder, simply because they cling to old ideas. They want things to be the way they were; they resist change.” Robert Kiyosaki

Many of us are driven by the fear of not having enough money. We are afraid that we do not have enough for our needs such as old age, a bigger home or university fees for our children. Even as we have some savings, we have an underlying fear that our money will get eroded by inflation. And so, we figure that the only solution is to work a lot harder.

What transpires is that if we are mostly driven by fear in the way we approach things, the consequences can be negative.
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How to Find the Nirvana of Life Balance

Do you find it hard to achieve life balance?

Balance can be a challenging thing to attain if your work schedule is hectic and demanding.

“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” Thomas Merton

Perhaps, you have been striving hard for the money; climbing up the corporate ladder or running your business. You could also be a mompreneur working hard to balance babies and business at the same time.

And so, up till now, there could have been aspects of your life that you have ignored or set aside.
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7 Ways to Remove Distractions for Better Energy Focus

Remove distractions to create better energy focus. Distractions divide your attention. You lose momentum. According to Gloria Mark, a leader in interruption science, the average knowledge worker switches tasks every three minutes, and, once distracted, a worker takes nearly a half-hour to resume the original task.

You may not want to remove distractions for all situations. For instance, distractions can be helpful for temporarily removing anxiety. For example, a doctor may engage in small talk with a toddler while he administers an injection on her arm. He draws her attention away from any pain that she may feel. She feels a prick but her attention is placed on the conversation with the doctor. For her “good” behaviour, she also gets a lollipop at the end of the session with her doctor.

However, in the situation where you are hoping to manifest a dream or goal, becoming distracted and losing focus is not helpful. It is best to remove distractions to get them out of the way. When you are distracted, you put attention on ideas, activities and paths that are not aligned with your original intent. You waste time. You can end up going in circles. Consequently, you take a longer time to attain success…if at all.
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10 Fears Related to Leaving the Security of a Job

“Fear can be good when you’re walking past an alley at night or when you need to check the locks on your doors before you go to bed, but it’s not good when you have a goal and you’re fearful of obstacles. We often get trapped by our fears, but anyone who has had success has failed before.” Queen Latifah

Through my conversations with others, I find that most people share the similar dream of being able to leave the security of a regular paycheck, so that they can build a business or do work that they love. Yet, the thought of going into something that seemed unstable look scary. Even as fear keeps them stuck, they experience a lack of fulfillment in their job increasingly.

If the above scenario is what you are going through, read on.

It will be far too easy to paint the picture of running an online marketing business as a bed of roses. However, I will not be telling the truth. Far too many people are sold the dream of a beach lifestyle while running an online business by internet marketers hoping to push their “get-rich-quick” schemes.
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