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Abundance and the Law of Attraction
How to Harness the Power of the Mind for Manifesting Success
We may have come across the idea about harnessing the power of the mind. Yet, not many of us utilise it fully for manifesting what we want. More often than not, we use the mind for cognitive tasks like problem-solving and decision-making, relegating its extraordinary potential to the background.
It’s important to recognise that we are constantly in the process of manifesting. Our thoughts play a significant role in shaping the world we live in. If we focus our mind on negative thoughts, it is more likely that we bring about a negative outcome. On the contrary, if we think more positively about ourselves, our life and about the world, we are more likely to manifest a positive set of results.
Continue readingHow Trauma is Not Just in Your Head or Mind
What I found out about trauma is this: Trauma isn’t something that is just in your head or mind. It’s not just a past memory.
In fact, it is stored in the habitual reflexive state of your nervous system. It is in your heart, head, your stomach, arms, legs..all the sensory information that got coded. They manifest in an overreactive response to stress today: racing heart, shallow breathing, nausea, indigestion, trembling hands, blurred vision, etc.
For trauma recovery, it helps to remember: not just your head or mind, every part of your body was there in the past.
What Are Glimmers and How You Can Find Them
Glimmers are the opposite of triggers.
Glimmers are moments that act as cues for self-regulation and for soothing our nervous system. They are tiny moments where we feel relaxed, safe, assured and connected. In contrast triggers cause us to feel threatened. When we are triggered badly, our fight-flight-freeze response can get excessively activated and our nervous system becomes deregulated.
The concept of glimmers first came from Polyvagal theory. The theory was introduced by Stephen Porges in 1995 where we learn about how our autonomic nervous system is constantly on the lookout for cues to determine if they are dangerous. “Glimmers” is coined by Deb Dana, a licensed clinical social worker who specialises in complex trauma and also the author of The Polyvagal Therory in Therapy, as a way to help us shift out of survival mode.
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Stop Shaming Your Body For Gaining Self-Acceptance
If you are in the habit of shaming your own body, stop.
Shaming your own body because of your physical imperfections can cause you to feel lousy about yourself.
Perhaps you don’t like the way your nose looks, the slant of your eyes, the shape of your face, your freckles, boob size, etc…and the list goes on.
While it may be true that they are not perfect according to some beauty standards, shaming yourself over them is not going to be helpful for your confidence. Continue reading
What Are The Emotions Connected to The Digestive System
The digestive system is often linked to emotional stress. When you are stressed, the disruptions affect your gut. You can get anything from nausea, heartburn, constipation or irritable bowel syndrome.
I’d like to share a client case that I have worked on about how emotions are connected to the digestive system.
Valarie (not her real name) had been experiencing stomach and digestive issues for years. Even though she had seen doctors, taken medication and changed her diet, her symptoms still remained. From feeling depleted, Valerie was aware that her energy system needed some rebalancing work. It was when she approached me for help.
How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds When You Can’t Turn Back the Clock
Some of us may be resistant to the idea of having to heal childhood wounds. That is because we don’t like having to revisit the past in our memory. We fear that we would relive the pain and that we would traumatise ourselves all over again.
Even more so, we wish that the past did not happen. For sure, if not for the past, we would have suffered less all these years and we wouldn’t have felt so lost, alone and confused. More importantly, we wouldn’t be unconsciously having an inner child that is bent on sabotaging our present.
Perhaps, just like how movies portray, we dearly wish that there can be a time machine that can take us back. We would like to have the power to change things right from the start, instead of having to do repair or healing work. If we can change history, a time machine would certainly help.
Self-Love Practice eBook is Now Live
I’m happy to announce that my new ebook, Self-Love Practice, is finally “live” on Amazon…yayyyy!!
As I figure, it is time for an update with new insights and client stories. Although it has been at least 9 years ago since I published my first book on self-love, I’ve been suspecting that there is still a lot of people out there with no or little clue on what it means to love themselves. Much of my suspicion arose from my sessions with clients. They could have presented a problem in say, performance anxiety, relationship conflicts or having imposter syndrome. Regardless of the presenting problem, we would be led to the same place: the need to be and feel loved.
What really got to me is how timeless the message of self-love is. Thus, the idea of a new book was born about a year ago. Titled Self-Love Practice, the book is a reaffirmation and a deepening of what it means to love ourselves. It’s now available on Amazon.
How to Reduce Relationship Conflicts: Make Observations, Not Evaluations
“Observations are the windows to empathy, while evaluations are the doors to conflict.” Marshall Rosenberg
Are you tired of encountering misunderstandings and conflicts in your conversations?
Well, a good book to read is this: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg.
The author offers a ton of valuable tips for us.
One such tip: separate observations from evaluation.
Observations focus on factual information without judgment, while evaluations involve personal interpretations and assessments.
Why You May Want to Reconsider the Business Advice of “Charge What You Are Worth”
Many business coaches often have the advice of “charge what you are worth” when it comes to pricing your coaching services. Even though you could be in the midst of getting your business off the ground, they may still recommend that you charge high prices for your time. They assure you that you are worthy and deserving and that at the soul level, you are also of infinite worth. Hence, you are justified to raise your prices since you are “more than enough”.
Admittedly, such advice can stoke anyone’s ego. And since they are your business coaches, you may decide to take their advice by charging a high hourly rate. Yet, in reality, this advice may not be helpful especially if you are not backed by adequate coaching experience or have not been able to generate enough business.
Let’s examine what it means to “charge what you are worth”, so that we can make better sense of the advice.
The Secret to Manifestation that No One Tells You About
When you are trying to decide whether or not to pursue a goal or dream, don’t expect to have absolute guarantee or proof that things will work before you are willing to put in “trust”.
You may be praying for some signs from heaven but you’ve barely heard a squawk. Perhaps you’ve secretly been hoping for some iron-clad assurance that will allay your fears of making a mistake or going down the wrong path but that would be wishful thinking!
Alas, it doesn’t work that way. I’ve been in the same shoes and what I’ve discovered is this: you can wait for assurance but so long as you don’t trust or believe, the dream that you want to see happen will not take place. Nothing would have moved or changed very much.
Instead, the Universe is saying, trust first with aligned actions and the manifestation will follow.