How to Clear Unfinished Business and Reset Your Energy System

When we clear unfinished business, we are better able to reset our energy system or even rebooting it – so that we can invite in new possibilities.

What does it mean to clear unfinished business?

Clearing unfinished business involves letting go of old attachments, meeting unfulfilled promises, and honouring what we said that we would do. We work on clearing unfinished business because these outstanding items can create a drag in our energy system and can potentially be a stopper for starting things on a clean slate.

In terms of agreements, these could be contractual ones that we have made with an external body; such as getting into a housing loan agreement. Or they could be simply promises that we have made to our loved ones and even ourselves. Examples include

• making a commitment for fidelity
• saying “yes” to accompanying our partners for an engagement (even though we are not that interested and prefer to stay home)
• offering to help out a friend
• returning a small debt owed to our parents or relatives
• agreeing to pay our share for a split restaurant bill
• doing our share of household chores etc

It’s easy to forget the “smaller” promises that we have made but over time, these could add up and weigh on us. We repel abundance when we consistently don’t honour what we said we would do. Our promises don’t count if we have no intention of following through. 

Unfinished business also can include grievances, hurts and conflicts that have been left unresolved. These create emotional debris. Even though we may not be conscious of them all the time, they take up space in our energetic system.

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Positive Outcomes from Clearing Unfinished Business

There are benefits to clearing up unfinished business as quickly as possible. We wouldn’t want to wait till we are on our deathbed to recall the promises that we’ve not yet kept. It certainly doesn’t serve us to hold on to any outstanding item year after year. 

• We even up any score that is left hanging at the back of our subconscious minds when we work on meeting our obligations. At the  same time, we also prevent self-sabotage from taking place. In the physical dimension, we follow through with clear intent and action. We are in congruence – body, mind and spirit. 
  
  
• Our relationship with money improves. Not forgetting, many contracts and agreements involve money. When we keep to the terms of our agreement, we are in integrity. As a result we raise our energetic frequency that brings about more expansiveness, which also supports our ability to attract abundance. 
  
  
• Relationships with our partners also improve where we honour the promises that we make. Trust increases. We feel more grounded and secure in relationships where both parties keep to their word.
  
  
• By releasing old attachments to the past, we create space for new relationships or to rejuvenate existing ones. Clearing unfinished business may require us to cut cords with negative or toxic people in our lives, let go of old grievances, practice forgiveness and move on to creating new and more fulfilling relationships.

What To Do Next: Create a List of Outstanding Items for Unfinished Business

Here are some reflection questions for you…

• What are the promises that you have made to yourself or others that you haven’t quite met?
• Are there any contracts or agreements that you have said “yes” to but there are remaining terms that you have not quite followed through on?
• Any outstanding debts or loans to attend to? How is your plan to meet your obligations like?
• Any old relationship ties that you need to say good-bye to?
• Any grievances or grudges to resolve?
• What past emotional baggage does it serve your highest interest to let go of?

Once you’ve created a list, prioritise the items according to how much lighter and freer you are going to feel as a result of clearing it. Create an action plan for working through the list and also specifying dates and timelines. Check off your list as you complete the items. 

Clearing unfinished business is one of the modules in my course on Changing Your Relationship with Money. Alternatively, apply for a discovery call if you need personal help to work on clearing unfinished business.

Create more energetic space to invite in the new!

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn 
Abundance Coach for Women Solopreneurs 

How to Connect with Your Inner Child: Words for Healing

When connecting with our inner child for the first time, we may feel at a loss about what to say or what to do. It’s possible that we feel weird because it is as if we are talking to ourselves. After all, our inner child exists in the mind and no one else can see her (or him) but us. Also, what words can we use to support healing?

According to psychologists, our inner child is described as the hidden part of our personality that is characterised by playfulness, spontaneity, and creativity usually accompanied by anger, hurt, and fear attributable to childhood experiences.

Through our mind’s eye, we connect with our inner self from tracing back to our earliest memory on when we felt the same (negative) way. We get a sense of how old our younger self was and the situation she was in. She may be our 3-year old, 6 year-old or whatever age and she is holding on to hurt, anger, helplessness or any unresolved need. It is when we (our adult self) enter the memory to meet her. 

Next, we may encounter the situation of not knowing what to say to her. We have grown in chronological age but we could have left her behind. In fact, I’ve observed how emotional it can be when we do inner child work for the first time. It was that way for me too. The great news is that once we start healing, we gain a sense of well-being like never before. 

How Nellie Released Limiting Money Blocks to Client Attraction and Authentic Selling

I was helping a client (let’s call her Nellie, not her real name) clarify the ideal client that she’d like to work with, when we discovered that she was having some limiting money blocks about people who are wealthy.

Nellie’s line of work requires her to service the needs of wealthy individuals or at least people with excess funds.  If she releases her subconscious blocks, client attraction can potentially happen with greater ease. It will certainly help Nellie to have more clients as the extra income that she gets can go a long way to supporting her family with two young kids. Since her beliefs could be in the way for client attraction and business sales, we proceeded to work on releasing the limiting money blocks.

Childhood Situation that Created Limiting Money Blocks

When I asked Nellie what some of her discomfort was reminding her of, she recalled two childhood incidents when she was 11 years old that had left her feeling lousy, disgusted and ashamed. 

3 Mindful Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

Is imposter syndrome in the way for you with putting yourself out there?

Perhaps you have been hoping to step up as a coach, leader or to move to the next level. 

But somehow you believe that you are some kind of a “fraud” even though you already have the experience or expertise in your field of work. 

You just don’t feel “good enough”. 

It is also possible that you are afraid of being exposed at any moment. 

Well, in case you think that you are the only one facing imposter syndrome, what I’d like to share with you is: you are not alone!

6 Daily Gratitude Prompts for Shifting into an Abundance Mindset

I’d like to invite you to adopt a practice of daily gratitude, if you are interested to shift into an abundance mindset. 

Gratitude IS the gateway to abundance.

When we are thankful, our attention is on the blessings that we have in our life. In that moment of expressing our gratitude, we are not focused on any worry, blame, frustration etc.

By virtue of the Law of Attraction, the sustained joy that we feel from reminding ourselves about our blessings sends out a positive vibe to the Universe that helps us to draw more of the same.

Here’s a graphical representation on how a practice of gratitude compounds and brings you dividends in terms of financial well-being. Obviously, while we can start with a 10-day or a 21-day challenge, it is best that we can make the practice very much a part of our life going forward. 

3 Powerful Steps to Manifesting from the Inside-Out

EFT Tapping: Why Focus and Tap Through Your Negative Feelings

I’d like to address the very common concern about tapping through negative feelings while using EFT tapping. 

Recently someone who has viewed my EFT tapping videos wrote to me and shared that she did not enjoy the experience of tapping her negative feelings. If she has a choice, she would prefer to tap and just use positive affirmations. In fact, she reported how nice she felt while tapping through the positive statements along with my video. 

(For those who don’t already know, EFT tapping is a method whereby we use our finger tips to lightly tap on specific meridian points on our face and body for emotional release. It is otherwise also known as the emotional form of acupuncture but without the needles, since we are using our fingertips.)

Well, she wouldn’t need to tap through any negative feelings if it is indeed true that she had none. Hopefully she is not in denial of any actual negative feelings. May I concede that many of us are not comfortable with bring attention to our negative emotions. In fact, I used to have the same resistance myself. 

When I was first introduced to EFT tapping, I was afraid that I would be reinforcing the negatives.  I was concerned that I would start to feel worse with bringing attention to my negative feelings. It felt like a counter-intuitive thing to do when I was desperately trying to feel better. 

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What is Money Scarcity REALLY Teaching You

If you are experiencing the struggle over financial lack, it can be challenging to see the lessons money scarcity offers. You are in emotional struggle when you feel worry, frustration and stressed out. Many of us do find it hard to have clarity when we experience emotional overwhelm. Through this article, I hope to shed some insights that have personally helped me create a shift in my relationship with money. 

For a start, it may seem impossible to will away the perception of scarcity. After all, limits are very much a natural part of our physical life. Just think about it, there is 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in one minute. You have got to finish the work that needs to be done within a certain time frame.

Then, there is also ageing and the cycle of life and death. The physical world has some kind of built-in mechanism where conditions and limits are already preset.

It was also where my confusion came in as well.

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Spoon Bending Exercise: It is the Mind that Bends

In a workshop I attended more than 10 years ago, there was a spoon bending exercise that I can still recall today. I’m updating this post with photos of the spoons that I have kept on my desk. 

During the exercise, we were handed some metal spoons and asked to bend them – not by using the hands but by the power of our minds.

Nancy, the facilitator, offered this advice, “Be One with The Spoon”. 

“Sounds like mambo jumbo,” I could hear my skeptic saying. 

How do you BE One with a Spoon, for crying out loud???

The weekend had culminated with an exercise that required us to bend a metal spoon, not by brute force but by the mental focus of thought. Nancy shared that we, be it spoon or human, are made up of energy.  Therefore, instead of viewing ourselves as separate from another matter, we are One. Through the awareness that we are One, it was suggested that we could alter the appearance of the metal spoon.

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[Client Story] Breaking Free from High Anxiety During Covid Lockdown

Charmain Tan approached me for help when her anxiety started to spike during the lockdown in 2020. 

She kindly sent me a letter of gratitude and recounted what happened to her…Continue reading