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EFT Tapping: Why Focus and Tap Through Your Negative Feelings

I’d like to address the very common concern about tapping through negative feelings while using EFT tapping.

Recently someone who has viewed my EFT tapping videos wrote to me and shared that she did not enjoy the experience of tapping her negative feelings. If she has a choice, she would prefer to tap and just use positive affirmations. In fact, she reported how nice she felt while tapping through the positive statements along with my video.

(For those who don’t already know, EFT tapping is a method whereby we use our finger tips to lightly tap on specific meridian points on our face and body for emotional release. It is otherwise also known as the emotional form of acupuncture but without the needles, since we are using our fingertips.)

Well, she wouldn’t need to tap through any negative feelings if it is indeed true that she had none. Hopefully she is not in denial of any actual negative feelings. May I concede that many of us are not comfortable with bring attention to our negative emotions. In fact, I used to have the same resistance myself.

When I was first introduced to EFT tapping, I was afraid that I would be reinforcing the negatives. I was concerned that I would start to feel worse with bringing attention to my negative feelings. It felt like a counter-intuitive thing to do when I was desperately trying to feel better.

Emotional Reasons Behind Your Physical Illness: An Introduction

“There is no illness of the body apart from the mind.” Socrates, philosopher

Negative emotions such as anger, pain, fear, sadness, anxiety and so on are electrical charges that cause blockages along your meridian pathways. Your body’s natural energy flow gets disrupted as a result. Luckily there are ways to restore your body back into balance. (This article is republished to update graphics and links – Sep 2021).

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[Client Story] How Felicia Addressed Her Fear of Abandonment

Felicia (not her real name) and I had worked together on releasing her fear of abandonment.

If we find ourselves getting angry, frustrated, anxious or upset easily, we may want to ask ourselves why we are triggered. Some of us would get badly triggered when we perceive that we have been abandoned or rejected even though in reality, it may not be necessarily true. However, this can hurt our relationships, work life and well-being. It was exactly what had happened to Felicia.

Introvert Guide: How to Build Authentic Self-Confidence

A big questions is: How can we build self-confidence, as an introvert, in a world that seems to favour the extroverts?

Some clients of mine who are introverts seem to believe that their quiet personality is some kind of death sentence and that they are already at a disadvantage.

Well, it is true that those who are extroverted or have an outgoing personality tend to attract friends easily. They are fun, bright and great to hang out with. Generally, they appear to be confident about themselves. Society is also inclined to believe that those who are extroverted make natural leaders. But does this mean that those who are introverted have no or less chance to be successful?

Well, I’d like to share from my perspective as someone with an introverted personality but still desiring to connect with others socially. Also, I’d like to correct some myths on introverts. I also like to believe that the world has enough space for introverts to thrive as much as the extroverts or anyone in between.

Most introverts are quiet. They can feel as if they “don’t belong”. Quietness can seem to be something out of place in a world that is noisy. In fact, introversion is often perceived as something undesirable or a sign of weakness. From not speaking up, our silence is interpreted as being shy, having a lack of confidence and as having nothing valuable to contribute.

As kids, we may be taught that there is something fundamentally wrong with having an introverted or quiet personality. We were not the popular ones in school for sure. I recall feeling rather hurt when I was labelled as a “quiet kid”, which caused me to retreat even more into silence.

Recently, while attending a dinner-cum-networking gathering, someone suddenly pointed out that I have been really quiet. For a moment, I could feel as if all eyes were on me. Till then, I was occupied with listening to what the more talkative ones had to share. Put in the spot, I felt as if I had to defend myself for being quiet.

Keanu Reeves has much to say about being a quiet person…

I hate when people ask me: “Why are you so quiet?” Because I am. That’s how I function. I don’t ask others, “Why do you talk so much?” It’s rude.

How to Overcome the Feeling that “I Don’t Belong”

Do you often feel unwanted and lonely because you believe that “I don’t belong”?

Do you often feel left out in social circles?

Over time, anyone who constantly feels unwanted and experiences “not belonging” can start to feel depressed and disconnected. The heart senses the separation. A belief of “not belonging” can impact our ability to form close friendships or relationships with our spouse and loved ones.

We experience “not belonging” because we can’t seem to fit in. It may be that we are not comfortable in our own skin, to begin with. Or that we are afraid of being hurt because we hold the fear of rejection. The conviction that we are not wanted arises when we find out that friends are leaving us out from their social circles or are not asking us out.

Many of my clients who are spiritual seekers confess to feeling the same way. They feel like an “alien” on this planet especially when their beliefs, ideas and values differ from commonly held ones. Holding on to disconnection, they question what their purpose in life is.

Then, there are the introverts and empaths. Introverts need plenty of “me” space and alone time whereas empaths find it necessary to protect themselves. Within this group, those who keep to themselves excessively can also develop the belief of “being unwanted” especially where they have decided not to engage. They go through the constant conflict of not knowing what they want.

All these can contribute to the perception of “not belonging”.

How Childhood Emotional Neglect Affects Our Mental Health

We tend to pay little regard to any form of emotional neglect that we’ve experienced as a child. After all, it is not as if that we had faced a real survival threat. Nor were we physically abandoned or abused either. So it would seem unthinkable to even imagine that there can be any sort of trauma related to emotional neglect.

Therein lies where the problem is.

Because it did not cross our minds that a lack of self-esteem or our struggles with anxiety and mental health could be contributed by the emotional neglect that we had experienced when we were young, we don’t seek help or therapy for our issues. In fact, we usually perceive that seeking help from professionals as only warranted for major traumas. Sure, problems caused by emotional neglect may be less serious than say, a case of torture or abuse. However, emotional neglect can also cause problematic wounds when we bury them deep in our psyche.

So, here’s what I eventually discovered…

Emotional neglect can inflict invisible wounds, even in the absence of any physical signs of abuse.

What is Money Scarcity REALLY Teaching You

If you are experiencing the struggle over financial lack, it can be challenging to see the lessons money scarcity offers. You are in emotional struggle when you feel worry, frustration and stressed out. Many of us do find it hard to have clarity when we experience emotional overwhelm. Through this article, I hope to shed some insights that have personally helped me create a shift in my relationship with money.

For a start, it may seem impossible to will away the perception of scarcity. After all, limits are very much a natural part of our physical life. Just think about it, there is 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in one minute. You have got to finish the work that needs to be done within a certain time frame.

Then, there is also ageing and the cycle of life and death. The physical world has some kind of built-in mechanism where conditions and limits are already preset.

It was also where my confusion came in as well.

Improve Your Relationship with Money: From Dating to Developing Intimacy

How to improve your relationship with money

How do you begin to improve your relationship with money?

In this updated post, I’d like to share a way that is easy to understand and relate to. This update also covers one of the topics that I am teaching in my Relationship with Money Course.

What can be helpful is to think of a romantic relationship. And in every romantic relationship, there are stages. So, consider the different phases that a romantic relationship will go through; that is from dating to developing love and true intimacy. Next, draw on the understanding to apply it in the context of your relationship with money.

Why Money Manifestation Does Not Work Until You Do This

Money Manifestation Does Not Work OvernightWorking

Have you ever come across Law of Attraction posts on money manifestation that ask you to type in a “yes” or “claim it” in the comments in order to receive $1mil or $10mil into your bank account within 24 hours?

You see….I did these a dozen times.

I eagerly responded with a “yes”, “claim” and even a “thank you”!

To my dismay, manifestation did not happen in the amounts that were stated.

Not even a tiny 1% of the $8,200,000 (refer to image below) in a week.

Or ever, as a result of responding to such posts.

Why Money Manifestation Not Working

Is this the same for you too?

Spoon Bending Exercise: It is the Mind that Bends

In a workshop I attended more than 10 years ago, there was a spoon bending exercise that I can still recall today. I’m updating this post with photos of the spoons that I have kept on my desk.

During the exercise, we were handed some metal spoons and asked to bend them – not by using the hands but by the power of our minds.

Nancy, the facilitator, offered this advice, “Be One with The Spoon”.

“Sounds like mambo jumbo,” I could hear my skeptic saying.

How do you BE One with a Spoon, for crying out loud???

The weekend had culminated with an exercise that required us to bend a metal spoon, not by brute force but by the mental focus of thought. Nancy shared that we, be it spoon or human, are made up of energy. Therefore, instead of viewing ourselves as separate from another matter, we are One. Through the awareness that we are One, it was suggested that we could alter the appearance of the metal spoon.

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