What is Holding You Back From Living Your Passion

The few days of public holidays of Chinese New Year are finally over. After days of waking up late, I initially found it a drag to have to get up early this morning to send Min, my younger daughter to preschool. However, any feeling of exhaustion soon dissipated as my car picked up speed from the dark underground car park and into the open. Outside, the day was promising to look glorious, with the sun already up.

I thought how lucky I was. After dropping her off, I could get back to bed. Afterall, my husband was finally sleeping, from battling migraine the entire night. But as it is, I did not choose sleep. Instead I am here now at my PC checking my emails and typing my thoughts.

I realize that often times, no matter how tired I feel, I will be at my desk, publishing content for my readers or looking for ways to generate more awareness about my sites. My work attitude has not always been this way. I was seldom that motivated when I was working in the bank. While I liked my previous job, I was not burning with passion over it.

Most people by now will have gone to work right now, spending the next 8 to 10 hours in the office. But I truly wonder how many are going to a job that they are passionate about. I know for a fact that many of my friends, in their various professions, are not happy in their jobs. A couple of them could not stop complaining about their bosses, their high sales target that they are supposed to achieve or the constant business trips they have to make. Despite their complaints, they continue to put in a good many hours working late and not having enough time with their kids. What perhaps is deterring them from resigning is the huge paycheck that they are receiving. Their designer handbags, shiny cars and big homes say it all!

I guess the absolute best thing that I can wish for them is that they say “I love my job”. Then, work is no longer merely just a job but something that is fun, engaging and challenging.

Admittedly, many people prefer to delay their dreams. They choose to pursue them only in the later part of their life. However, having made such a choice, they wonder in their old age where have all the good years gone to.

What’s Holding You Back?

Are you in the same boat “in a job that you absolutely have no love for” and are not daring to make a change? If you don’t love what you do, what’s holding you back? What is stopping you from moving to something that you will love doing?

Your reason is probably not uncommon: too old to make a change, need to make more money before feeling ready to make a change, find it hard to give up current lifestyle to start a new business, prefer to get promoted in this lousy career than to start from scratch, etc.

If you find that you continually have pangs of indecision, even though you have thought it through for the umpteenth time and decided to stay in a job that you do not love, this can only mean that you have not fully “accepted” your decision. You continue to feel miserable. There is no passion. Your customers irk you. And you swear that your boss has a hidden agenda by making things difficult for you.

Then, it is time to ask yourself if you want to remain in a job that provides no meaning to you.

Or make it Right from now.

Start living.

Here is a quote by Alan Cohen I would like to leave you with, for your consideration.

It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.

Healing Cancer With The Silva Method

It was meant to be a time of connecting with old friends during Chinese New Year but nothing quite prepare me yesterday for the sight of a friend whom I have not seen in about two years. Kay was actually an ex-colleague of my husband. Previously in remission, his cancer is now in full force again.

He looked gaunt and did not bother to get up from the bed in his bedroom. Definitely not the person I remembered him to be – a pretty big guy with a slight tummy. He spotted a bald top yesterday; his hair must have fallen with all the chemotherapy that he was going through.

I have not known him well and was admittedly at a loss of words, because I had not expected to see him in this state. We were visiting a relative who stays in his neighbourhood and although it was not planned, we had decided to drop by Kay’s home.

Kay was finding the pain on his nerves unbearable and had to take morphine every 4 hours. I could see that he was in mental torture as the pain was intense moment to moment while we were there.

My husband tried to distract him from his pain with stories from work. (We have learnt previously that when we visit someone who is sick, it is far better to tell jokes or entertaining stories. The last you want is for your sick friend or relative to be focusing on his suffering when you ask him one too many question about how he is feeling. In answering you, it is likely he will be talking about his depression or how sick he is. But what you want for him is not to be thinking negative thoughts or to exude negative vibrations. )

Although I have hardly spoken to Kay previously, as he was more like an acquaintance, I decided to help him from afar. There was no opportunity to tell him yesterday about self healing as he was in too much pain to be interested in anything new.

So before I went to bed last night, I recalled what I knew about healing using the Silva Method. One of the techniques taught was how to perform healing for anyone in pain, whether physically or mentally. The technique involved a mental screen procedure.

In the alpha meditative state, I brought an image of Kay into my mind. I acknowledged that he was in great pain and proceeded to send him an energy of love throughout his body. For his pain, I “massaged” his lower back and spine. I did this for a long time. In the final screen, I visualized Kay as his old self, with his tummy back, smiling and free from pain. The organs in his body are whole and perfect.

Whether healing can happen or not will also depend on Kay’s desire and determination to fight his cancer. Nevertheless , I will do what I can by continuing to send him positive energy everyday. Hopefully, he can be free of his pain and suffering soon.

My guess is that all his previously well thought-out plans for his career are no longer as important to him as the battle that he has now. I’ve been thoughtful ever since visiting him yesterday. To be in good health is also to be in abundance. Let’s not forget that by taking it for granted!

The Power Of Now Book Review

Are you a habitual waiter? Eckhart Tolle poses this question to you in his book, The Power of Now. How much of your life do you spend waiting? Tolle makes a distinction between “small scale waiting” and “large scale waiting”. “Small scale waiting” is waiting in line, in the post office, in a traffic jam, etc. On the other hand, “large scale waiting” is waiting for a better job, to make money, to become enlightened.

I can certainly identify with”large scale waiting”. I have spent quite a number of years waiting to start living that I pretty much qualify as the mother of all “waiters”. Top off my list is that I have decided that I will not be at peace until I know I have accumulated enough to afford an overseas education for my kids. Another one of my favorite was also to live for the next holiday vacation. My mind is always on the future. Very often, it is always on what’s next. Occasionally, it dwells on the past too. But seldom in the present.

My husband was “guilty” of the same thing. He wanted to push for financial freedom. He felt that he would be happy only when he can reach his goals. He chided me for not living in the present but failed to see that he was in the same mind trap.

The Power Of Now is a book that suggests that you can be far happier when you focus on the Now. Tolle says that “Waiting is a state of the mind.” When your attention is on the Now, you feel peace and stillness. You no longer depend on the future for fufilment and satisfaction. You no longer look to the future for salvation. Neither do you become attached to the results. Failure and success has no power over you henceforth.

What I like about this book, is that answers are laid out to the practical questions that are typically asked by the layperson. For instance, one important question is whether there is a still need to pursue external goals, if focusing on the now is the most important. The answer? It is. There is still a need to pursue external goals.

But here is what is key: when you focus on the Now, you no longer have the illusions that anything or anybody in the future will save you or make you happy. You experience gain or loss in the physical world. Yet at the deeper level, you are already complete because the Now is already joyous.

Being free from the reins of the future, there is no longer a need to pursue goals driven by fear, anger, discontent or the need to become someone. You do not seek permanancy in the physical world either, because there is none. You do not demand that external events make you happy and then suffer needlessly when they do not go according to your expectations.

Tolle also talks about having an outer purpose and inner purpose in one’s life journey. The outer purpose is to arrive at your goal. It refers to the horizontal dimension of time and space. On the other hand, the inner purpose has nothing to do with the direction of your goals. It is about the quality of your consciousness at this moment. It is a deepening of your inner self in the vertical dimension of Now.

What usually happens is when your attention is so much on the future that you miss out on the importance of the one step you are in Now. When you become deeply aware of this one step, you realize that it already contains all the other steps as well as the destination. This one step therefore is all the meaning and purpose that you need to find – the journey of deep self discovery.

So how have I been applying this concept? Well, here are some real life examples of how I’ve been living in the Now recently…

– I linger just awhile more in the midst of lush greenery in the park downstairs.

– I take the time to examine the delicate petals of the flowers in the park.

– I take two mouthfuls of fresh air rather than one made in a hurry.

– I am fully present when I am with my kids.

– I listen more attentively to my husband.

– I dared myself to let go of past habits.

– I also dared myself to let go of my attachment to the future.

Yes, I still have my doubts or worries about the future every now and then. But I remind myself that I need to delve deep into the inner recesses of my mind – to examine its flawed thinking and to retrain it for greater stillness.

I have certainly discovered a life far more joyous than the one that I used to live in. And it gets better day by day! I highly recommend The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle.

Change The Words You Use To Reset A Negative Energy Vibration

Michael Losier, the Canadian National best selling author of “Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t”, offers good advice on how to change a negative negative vibration in the video below. He suggests that if you are not getting the things you want, you are probably vibrating it. Hence, you need to reset your vibrations by resetting your thoughts. You reset your thoughts by changing the words that you use.

Words that tend to be negative include Don’t, Not and No. When you use these words, you bring more energectic force into them.

Words that I would like to add to this list are Can’t and Cannot. These words have been ingrained in my mental dictionary since young. “I can’t do this”, “It is too difficult for me”, “I can never be rich or successful” — sounds familiar? For the longest time, these words had immense power over me. I was almost always crippled by them.

Let’s put the past behind. It’s time to focus on what we want – peace, success, happiness, love, abundance, wealth, spritual well being – for the right words to change the stories in our heads. Notice how your world starts getting better, when you become more positive. Mine has already begun to change 🙂

Abundance Is More Than The 5Cs

Many of us think of abundance as having lots of money. In fact, I had also previously used financial income as the sole indicator of success. It is hard not to be in the same rat race as everyone else.

In Singapore, where I come from, the average person probably defines abundance in terms of having the “5 Cs”: Cash, Car, Condominium, Credit Card and Country club membership. The “5 Cs” arose as a popular joke based on certain truths attesting to the unstated Singaporean cultural ethos of materialistic obsession and aspiration. The “5 Cs” are so desired, because they are symbolisms denoting a higher social and economic status and used to impress others.

Cars, Condominiums and Country Club Memberships are expensive in land-scarce Singapore. So much so that most young adults would prefer to either give up or delay having the 6th “C” – child or children.

However, if you have been reading my blog and would know by now, having money alone does not equal to having abundance. Many wealthy people are cash-rich but poor in happiness and security.

If you look at the dictionary, abundance simply means an overflowing fullness; ample sufficiency; great plenty; profusion; copious supply; superfluity; wealth. It is also referred to as a lack of scarcity, and therefore, want.

Hence, going by this definition, abundance can also encompass better relationships, financial success, superior health or just about anything you desire to have in plentiful supply. Abundance is a state of overflowing with more than what is needed. It is also the state of aligning to our inner core.

With this in mind, I had recently decided to ditch the C that I had been dreaming of: a $1,200 Chanel clutch bag. To me, abundance is no longer so much a matter of the gaining the said Cs. It is also gaining in health, fulfillment, happiness and love.

EFT: Feelings Of Inadequacy

Ever felt inadequate as a parent? I know I have. Even after some 7 years of parenting, I still get pangs of insecurity or not knowing how best to deal with a trying situation with my kids.

In fact, I decided to address these negative emotions during my therapy sesson with my EFT practitioner, today. Things have been pretty stressful for a few days in a row when my kids took turns to make unreasonable demands. The negative emotions were easily neutralized using EFT tappingin seconds. (Emotional healing work has been less of a strain and more of a breeze these days, now that I have cleared many of my negative blocks.)

My stress had also brought back a flood of memories. I have always wanted to have kids but nothing quite prepared me for the vast responsibility that comes with being a parent.

When I became a mother for the first time, I was extremely stressed. I did not know what to do or how to take care of a newborn. My husband was constantly away on business trips and I was left pretty much on my own. My mother dropped by often, when she noted that I needed help with Hui. But her babysitting skills were limited. When I was a child, I was taken care of by a helper. She had little prior experience with Hui being her first grandchild.

At that point in time, I had also decided to leave a full time career. On reflection, I must have suffered from post natal blues. I was depressed for a good many months after the birth of my daugther.

I got smarter as the years went by. I drew up schedules for my kids, so that they knew when is reading time and when is playtime. We set up certain guidelines so that my kids knew what is expected of them. Still, there will be situations that will come up unexpectedly with my kids and that require some ingenuity in dealing with them.

I recognise that I may get this wave of inadequacy every now and then. But the technique I can apply, when faced with two unyielding kids, is EFT tapping. I also make it a point to set aside time daily in quiet meditation and reflection. If things do get overwhelming and I cannot deal with the stress on my own, I make a note to deal with the specific negative emotions for my next therapy session. Parenting may still be one of the toughest job on earth, but it has gotten a whole lot easier!

How To Use The Law Of Attraction

Listen to this audio that I’ve recorded for you….

Gain Ideas And Inspiration From Your Creative Mind

Do you find that your best ideas always come from “out of nowhere”?

Well, the good news is that it need not be a case of mere coincidence that you get struck by a bright idea.

Napoleon Hill, the best-selling author of “Think and Grow Rich” believed that the human mind was capable of tapping into universal fields of intelligence to access ideas and inspiration.

Napoleon Hill observed that….

The great artists, writers, musicians and poets became great because they acquire the habit of relying upon the still, small voice that speaks from within, through the faculty of creative imagination. It is a fact well known to people who have keen imaginations that their best ideas come through so-called “hunches”.

Napolean Hill shared about how one inventor from Maryland, the late Dr. Elmer R. Gates, came up with over 200 patents. Gates would sit in his soundproof laboratory holding a pad of writing paper and shut off the lights. In the dark, he would ponder on the known factors of the invention on which he was working for hours. He remained in the same position until ideas began to “flash” into his mind.

On one occasion, ideas came so fast to Gates that he was forced to write for almost three hours. When the thoughts stopped flowing, he proceeded to examine what he has written. He realised that they contained a minute description of principles, with no parallel among the known data of the scientific world. What was amazing was that the answer to his problem was intelligently presented in those notes.

Naaaaahhh? Don’t believe? Think that he is an exception?

Let me quote you another two examples.

The greatest inventor of our time, Thomas Alva Edison, used a similar technique and he apparantly did it through sleeping. Edison was awarded 1368 distinct patents and invented, the incandescent light bulb, the phonograph, the film projector, and the first motion picture. Edison had a secret – he would always take frequent naps in the middle of the day. Edison was known to have said, “Ideas come from space. Well, it is likely that he came up with several ideas while at the alpha state.

Then, there is Richard Bach, the author to the best selling book, Jonathan Livingston Seagull. He revealed in an interview in 1972, that he wrote two-thirds of the book in a dream-like state.

And there are plenty more testimonials provided by graduates from The Silva Method. In the Silva Method program, you are also taught how to use dreams to get answers to the problem that you are seeking for. At the alpha and theta level, you are tapping into sources of knowledge not available at the waking level. Ideas won’t just be coming to you by mere coincidences but because you programmed for them.

Knowing that the answers can possibly come from within has been a helpful insight to me. Previously, I have always tried to analyse problems logically. However, there have been times when I got frustrated because I could not come up with something viable. I would then try my best to force out a solution and hope for the best.

I am no genius yet – unlike Thomas Edison, Dr Gates or Richard Bach. However, through their examples, I have learnt that there is another way of getting ideas and inspiration and definitely a far better one. I learnt now that it is best not to hold on too tightly to a problem. The best ideas come from the creative or subconscious mind, which I am learning to tap more from.

I’m also hoping to teach these concepts to my kids. Min, in particular, has been producing beautiful art work. It is highly apparent that she is creative. I hope to be able to teach her to access her creative mind not just for doing art but for a whole range of practical life issues.

Inspirational Quotes For Today

Inspirational quotes can help give us the uplift that we need when we feel challenged, facing some difficulties or simply to feel good.

Here is a video of inspirational quotes that is guaranteed to give you more positive energy today…

The Silva Method: Mind Is A Faculty Of Human Intelligence

Watch this video by Jose Silva, the founder, on the basis of his research in developing The Silva Method.

The video is pretty short and I feel that more can be elaborated. Unfortunately, it is perhaps one of the rare footage of Jose, since he has already passed away.

Here is a summary of what he said in his video…

The mind is a faculty of human intelligence. Human intelligence is what others call soul (the form and shape of science) or spirit (energy of the matter).

We cannot seperate mind and human intelligence, as they form a unit. Mind focuses or tunes itself through the brain. Whenever the mind focuses or tunes itself, brain develops a frequency, vibration, which can be measured in EEG. Hence, we know at what frequency the mind is operating from.

We go through different levels from awake to sleep state. Brain is the biological computer, which can be programmed with our thoughts. Programming can alter state or condition in matter. You can, and it is very possible to, program your brain to act towards your desires.