10 Steps to a Debt-Free Life

“Rather go to bed without dinner than to rise in debt.” – Benjamin Franklin

10 Steps to a Debt Free Life
by Roman Soluk

If you don’t live in a deep forest, every day you see lots of information about a release of a new gadget, a new collection of clothes, a new makeup and … the opportunity to take a credit to buy all this. Sometimes it turns out that you take a loan and become dependent on the credit institution.

Perhaps some types of loan or debt are almost inevitable (such as mortgage), but some are really unnecessary. Will you enjoy the purchases you’ve made when you can’t get out of debts? No, for sure! So, let’s find out how to be free of unnecessary obligations.
Continue reading

How to Handle the Serial Drama Queen In Your Life

“I teach people that no matter what the situation is, no matter how chaotic, no matter how much drama is around you, you can heal by your presence if you just stay within your center.” – Deepak Chopra

Drama queens are those with the regular habit of blowing things out of proportion. Drama queens angst over the tiniest of details, makes a big deal and strives to get the attention of people around. Note that the tendency to create a scene is not limited to females alone. There can be drama queens, there can also be drama kings. Know of a friend or colleague who is one?

Using tears as her weapon, the drama queen is great with wrenching your heartstring. She has an insatiable hunger for attention. Not a day goes by without her trying to draw you in with some imaginary near-death experience.
Continue reading

Self-Love Interview Story: Gift of Presence

“Show your body that you are aware of yourself even in the moment that you are serving another.” Joy Holland during the interview call

Over a week ago, I invited Joy Holland to have a chat with me on “vesting presence as a self-love gift”. Joy Holland blogs about the gift of presence in order that we can shine our inner brilliance. She is a heart healer, clarity facilitator and practitioner of presence. She also works a lot with women who are abused.

In particular, I wanted to find out from Joy how she – as a mother to two children – brings presence into her everyday life. As a mother myself, I can understand how difficult it is to stay focused in the moment, especially when there is something go on with the children. Many mothers I know tend to be in a state of worry (please read 25 coping tips for stressed-out mothers here).
Continue reading

I Believe: When What You Believe Matters – Book Review

“The power of belief, the absolutely awesome incredible power of belief, is the genie in your life. Let me say that again: The absolutely awesome and incredible power of your belief is the genie in your life.” — Eldon TAylor

I have had the pleasure of receiving a copy on I Believe: When What You Believe Matters!, the latest book written by Eldon Taylor, a Hay House Author, for review. It was published a week ago. To be honest, having read many books of the same genre, I was not very excited to get to it initially. However, after picking it up, I have to acknowledge that I found it rather good. I share my thoughts below.

We already know that our beliefs largely create or influence our reality. If we expect to succeed, we are more likely to experience success. Conversely, if we believe that we are going to fail, we are likely to meet with failure. Yet, do we take the trouble to truly examine some of the beliefs that we hold on to? Are these beliefs serving or sabotaging us?
Continue reading

Celebrating Your Divine Love on Mother’s Day

“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” – Barbara Kingsolver

(The photo is a cheesecake that my daughter, Hui, baked last year. Needless to say, it was Yummy!!)

Mother’s day is an occasion to celebrate you (assuming you are one) being a mother.

Don’t undermine your role.

As the nurturing caregiver, you are not only the one who makes sure that your children’s basic needs are met but also the one who is the cheerleader to your children’s dreams. You help shape the lives of tomorrow’s leaders.
Continue reading

How to Spot 10 Warning Signs of Narcissism in Your Partner

Someone with signs of narcissism is described as extremely self-centered. The narcissist is predominantly preoccupied with thoughts of “I, me, myself or mine”. Egoistical, he (or she) strives to be in a superior position. What differentiates narcissism from other forms of behaviour is sadism. The narcissist tends to disparage and belittle others.

Like many other conditions, narcissism occurs in a spectrum. At its most extreme, it is known as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This article covers content that pertains to individuals with narcissistic tendencies. For an accurate diagnosis, please consult with a trained mental health professional.

“Unconscious people – and many remain unconscious, trapped in their egos throughout their lives – will quickly tell you who they are: their name, their occupation, their personal history, the shape or state of their body, and whatever else they identify with.” – Eckhart Tolle

I was speaking to a client the other day. Michelle (pseudonym) has been feeling rather battered by her husband. From her descriptions, it appears that her husband is someone who has narcissistic traits. Of course, her sense of self-worth and self-love were not high to begin with.
Continue reading

Interview Story: Heal Cancer with Self-Love

“Befriend, don’t battle, cancer.”

“We cannot take a spiritual bypass, especially when we are faced with a challenge of this magnitude.”

“Make more room for the light.”

– Rev Denise DeSimone during the interview call

I would like to introduce to you, Rev Denise DeSimone, author to the book From Stage IV to Center Stage, in today’s post. An interfaith minister, Reiki Master and a sound healer, Denise has had a remarkable journey in that she survived Stage IV throat and neck cancer. She first wrote to me about 2-3 weeks ago as she had come across my posts on self-love.
Continue reading

How to Build Healthy Self-Esteem By Balancing the Ego

Building healthy self esteem is a popular topic area with many personal development experts. After all, it is considered to be the foundation for individual success. Obviously, if you have low self esteem, it can become hard to achieve much in life. As the experts say, you need to believe that you are worthy of success in order to attract success. Mostly, everyone likes to do business with you if you have a winning attitude, one that reeks of success.

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”- Malcolm S. Forbes

According to Freud, an important part of humanity is the ego. The traditional formula for success is to build the ego so that you increase your sense of self-worth. The danger is that a strong ego can eventually lead to an inflated sense of self. You experience the constant need to prove yourself as superior to others. It is a false sense of self-esteem that you are building, if you ask me.
Continue reading

Self-Love Story by A Reader: Tess Vergara

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves work miracles in our lives.” – Louis Hay

Today, I would like to introduce you to Tess Vergara, a reader to this site. She bought my Self-Love Secrets: How to Love Yourself Unconditionally some time ago. Here are some of the things she wrote in various comments and emails…..

“I was actually looking at it today and smiling at the notes I made along the margin. Thank God that difficult part of my life is over and life is good again.”

“Thanks Evelyn! You are my baby step to my quest for peace and happiness. I just want to thank you for the inspiration, guidance and knowledge you have given me in the past year or so. You kept my wheels turning, tha’ts for sure! Thanks for being in my life at just the right time. More power to you!”
Continue reading

How to Eliminate Negative Self-Talk with Self-Love Meditation

“Relentless, repetitive self-talk is what changes our self-image.” Denis Waitley

Reportedly, we can have as many as 70,000 thoughts in a day. If we minus off 8 hours of sleep, it will work out to having a thought every 1.2 seconds. In the constant stream of thoughts, we are interpreting situations through our filters. There is a conversation going on in our minds. Psychologists call the conversation “self-talk”.
Continue reading