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What is Emotional Bypassing and Why It Matters

What is Emotional Bypassing

Emotional bypassing happens when we don’t allow ourselves to fully process our negative feelings. Instead, we sweep them under the carpet or we gloss over them by “willing” the mind to think positively. Say, something traumatic happens to us. We don’t face it because we fear feeling worse off. Thus, instead of grieving or upset, we simply put on a brave front and pretend that all is fine. 

In another instance, we guilt-trip ourselves for feeling negative when we ought to be grateful. We believe that we have no right to complain about feeling poorly where someone else is at a more disadvantaged situation. And so we stuff our feelings inside. 

Emotional bypassing is often referred to as spiritually bypassing. It was the late psychologist John Welwood who coined the term spiritual bypassing to describe what he saw in a Buddhist community. He describes it as the “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks.” In the practice of non-attachment, many Buddhists deny what they truly feel.

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How to Release Chronic Worry and Anxiety from the Stomach Meridian (EFT Tapping)

EFT Tapping to Release Anxiety from Stomach Under the Eye

When you are caught in anxiety, do you observe an unsettling or discomforting feeling in the stomach?

Well, anxiety and the stomach are said to be connected. According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, anxiety gets stored in the spleen/stomach/pancreas network. In this article, I’d like to bring focus to the link between anxiety and stomach issues.

First of all, while I sometimes use the words anxiety and worry interchangeably, let’s also understand that there is a difference according to psychologists.
 

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Tapping for Your Business: From Disconnection to Authentic Marketing with Ease (Video)

EFT Tapping for Business on Authentic Marketing

Dear Solopreneur, 

Are you hoping to attract more clients but feel as if you need to use marketing methods that are based on high-pressure, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and manipulation, and you are feeling disconnected because of this? 

Recently, I came across this post by someone who shared what was it like for her…

“I have to behave, talk and present in a specific way to attract paying clients. My business coach taught me how to do this in her way and that is pretty much based on using fear and pressure. But I am feeling disconnected because of this. It’s not me. A part of me just wants to be who I am. But what if showing up in my own ways is going to hurt my business?”

If this is similar to what is going on for you too, let’s work on releasing any sense of disconnection or stress. Tap along with me with the video below.

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Tapping to Boost Mental and Spiritual Health (Top of the Head Meridian Point)

EFT Tapping Top of the Head

Would like to boost mental and spiritual health?

One way for boosting mental and spiritual health is the Top of the Head or the “Bai-hui” meridian point. The point sits on the crown of our head. The literal Chinese-to-English translation of “Bai-hui” means
“the meeting place of the hundreds”. Aptly, it is where all the energies of our body converge and meet.

In TCM, it is often said that “heaven, earth and man are the three powers”. The top of our head is where our human body connects with heaven. It is where the gateway to spirituality resides and and where a lotus flower blossoms in the wake of rising consciousness ((visualise a slow-motion video with the petals unfolding).

The “Bai-hui” meridian point is also the meeting point of all the Yang energy in the body. TCM practitioners use this acupoint in cases of neurological and psychological diseases. By activating this point, it promotes relaxation and mental focus.

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3 Mindful Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

Is imposter syndrome in the way for you with putting yourself out there?

Perhaps you have been hoping to step up as a coach, leader or to move to the next level. 

But somehow you believe that you are some kind of a “fraud” even though you already have the experience or expertise in your field of work. 

You just don’t feel “good enough”. 

It is also possible that you are afraid of being exposed at any moment. 

Well, in case you think that you are the only one facing imposter syndrome, what I’d like to share with you is: you are not alone!

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How to Release Anger Safely by Tapping on the Gallbladder Meridian Point

Tap to Release Anger

Would like to release anger, so that you can safely let go of the red-hot impulse that you are feeling? 

When anger or rage takes over, we stand to lose clarity and we are unable to act rationally or make wise decisions. Sometimes, we may hold on to justified anger. It happens when we have reasons to believe that it is someone else’s fault and we are feeling angst about it.

However, by reacting in anger, we can end up hurting our relationships. After which, we have to spend time and attention to repairing the damage caused by our outbursts. Anger wears down our energy system. 

Well, let’s be aware that there are better ways of responding when we are being triggered. What if we are able to respond with a lot more calm, acceptance and courage to tell the truth with compassion? Wouldn’t it be great to achieve our desired outcomes with much less anger? 

It is healthy to release seething anger without burying it. Suppressing anger and rage results in blockages that affect our health in the long run. The great news is that it is possible to release anger safely, effectively and quickly via tapping on the body using our finger tips. 

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, the liver and gallbladder meridian point is linked to anger and fear. In this post, I’d like to bring attention to the gallbladder meridian point which can be accessed by tapping on the side of the eye (refer to the featured image), using the finger tips. 

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How to Align with Your Authentic Self for Boosting True Confidence

Align with Authentic Self

Would like to align with your authentic self?

This article is written for you if you are feeling tired of showing up with a false image of who you really are. Perhaps you are trying to project a picture of success that is far from reality on social media. Or that you are more of an introvert and trying to appear more extroverted in order to gain friends and be popular. Whatever it is, you are feeling a sense of disconnection on the inside.

Well, I have been delighted to discover that there are many studies (one such research study on authenticity is found here) showing how authenticity can lead to numerous benefits such as…

  • higher self-esteem,
  • greater well-being,
  • better romantic relationships
  • enhanced work performance.

A few years ago, I recommitted to upholding authenticity. It happened right after I experienced a sick and nauseating feeling from an overdose of marketing hype that is so prevalent in my industry. I was both being sold to, and at the same, being taught by business coaches to apply cooker-cutter strategies that were, unfortunately, based on plenty of big promises, Fake it till You Make It and FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) ideas.

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Do What You Love is for Amateurs (vs Love What You Do is for Professionals)

Doing What You Love is for Amateurs

“Do what you love” is for amateurs but “love what you do” is the mantra for professionals.” – Seth Godin

I was most intrigued when I came across this quote by Seth Godin. Seth Godin is an entrepreneur, thought leader, best-selling author and speaker whose mission is to inspire people to level up. 

Well, I decided to record a video where I discuss the difference between Doing What You Love vs Loving What You Do and about reconciling them. 

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6 Daily Gratitude Prompts for Shifting into an Abundance Mindset

Daily Gratitude Attraction for Abundance Mindset

I’d like to invite you to adopt a practice of daily gratitude, if you are interested to shift into an abundance mindset. 

Gratitude IS the gateway to abundance.

When we are thankful, our attention is on the blessings that we have in our life. In that moment of expressing our gratitude, we are not focused on any worry, blame, frustration etc.

By virtue of the Law of Attraction, the sustained joy that we feel from reminding ourselves about our blessings sends out a positive vibe to the Universe that helps us to draw more of the same.

Here’s a graphical representation on how a practice of gratitude compounds and brings you dividends in terms of financial well-being. Obviously, while we can start with a 10-day or a 21-day challenge, it is best that we can make the practice very much a part of our life going forward. 

Daily Gratitude Attraction Multiplier

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3 Powerful Steps to Manifesting from the Inside-Out

How to Manifest from Inside Out

What “manifesting from the inside-out” means is to create the physical reality that we want by using the power of the mind.  Most of us think of manifesting in a positive light, even though it is also possible to manifest a negative set of outcomes. When perceiving things positively, we hope to manifest our ideal or dream life, or even a breakthrough. 

With an inside-out approach, we manifest the results we want in the external world by taking charge of what goes on internally;  namely our thoughts and feelings. We don’t have 100% control of external factors but we can certainly begin by taking charge of our mind. However, as we are likely to discover, what is often in the way for successful manifestation are our limiting beliefs and negative emotions. 

When I coach my clients on manifesting from the inside-out, I like to keep things simple with a 3-step system. The 3 steps form the backbone of my coaching-and-healing sessions with them. They are as follows…
1) Reset Your Intentions
2) Release Your Limitations
3) Rewrite Your Story

3 Key Steps for Manifesting from Inside Out

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