Evelyn
Evelyn
How to Overcome the Fear of Success
It sounds ridiculous that anyone can have the fear of success. However, the fear of success is as psychologically valid as the fear of failure. In fact, the fear of success is often not as easily detectable because it lies in your subconscious. It is through recognizing repeated self-sabotaging behavior that you can possibly deduce that you may just be having this fear.
There is a difference between the fear of success and the fear of failure. The fear of failure is the fear of making mistakes, fear of falling short and fear of not reaching your intended goal. Conversely, the fear of success is the deliberate (although rooted in the subconscious) subversion to success that you already know is reachable.
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5 Life Areas of Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage is an unconscious subversion, disruption or obstruction to hinder your own cause or endeavour. You consciously have a desired outcome but you work against yourself unconsciously. And hence, you have been putting obstacles in your own path to success.
“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”
– Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
Through words, actions or behaviour, you make things worse instead of better. Instead of becoming the best you can be or having the best that you can have, you eventually find yourself having to settle for less. It is certainly not desirable if you are hoping to live life fully.
Practice The Hugging Meditation To Express Love
I came across The Hugging Meditation by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh recently and was blown away by its simplicity, beauty and grace. I believe that anyone can practice it. It does not require one to sit in an attempt to still the mind, an activity which can be frustrating for someone new to meditation. The Hugging Meditation is found in the his Plum Village Chanting and Recitation Book.
(My kids experienced great joy from Hugging Meditation.)
Thich Nhah Hanh is a Vietnamese Buddhist monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist who now lives in France. His graceful and simple way of conveying his teachings has helped made Buddhism and meditation appealing throughout the world. I had the privilege of attending his talk when he came to Singapore.
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Get The Free Self-Love Story Bloggers eBook
Self-Love Story Bloggers eBook is compilation of articles by 17 personal development bloggers on their journey into self-love and the lessons that they have learned. It comprises of 60 pages of heart-felt content. You can download your free copy by clicking here. If you are already a subscriber to my newsletter, you will already be receiving it in your inbox – you don’t have to opt-in again.
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21 Makeover Tips To Lift Your Energy
You are hoping for a makeover. You would like to change your vibes. Life has been quite a drag for some time. So it only makes sense that if you are hoping to have different results, you cannot keep doing the same things.
A true makeover goes beyond revamping your wardrobe. It is more than fixing a bad hair day. A true makeover is holistic, incorporating the mind-body-spirit. Your energy shifts as a result. It activates the Law of Attraction in your favor, where you are more likely to attract positive outcomes.
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The Practice of Self-Compassion
Practising self compassion may be something that you are not used to.
After all, you could be having h the habit of beating yourself up all your life. In your experience, you have found harsh criticisms extremely useful as a motivator for actions. It is how you have made yourself get out of bed every morning.
You may perceive self compassion as being indulgent. You would not dream of giving excuses for your wretched state. You see self-compassion as disempowering. Hence, taking a tough stance towards the self is important.
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Call My Dial-A-Life-Coach Hotline
In case you have been trying to contact me by telephone, please know that I do not usually take calls when I am busy writing. So if you should try calling me, you are going to hear a voice that tells you I am not available. In fact, my latest recorded auto attendant message to my Dial-A-Life-Coach hotline goes like this….
“I am sorry that I am not here to take your call. Should you have an urgent matter, here is what you can do to help yourself –
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Life Tip: Challenge Your Assumptions
Are your windows on the world clear or clouded? Now, unless you are enlightened, they are probably clouded. Your windows are clouded because of your preconceived judgments. You develop judgments or frames of assumptions as a result of past experiences, conditionings and beliefs. Events in the past may be neutral but it is the meaning that you ascribe to them that determines your judgments or frames of assumptions.
“A peach is not its fuzz. A toad is not its warts. A person is not his or her crankiness. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off once in a while or the light won’t come in.”
– Alan Ada
21 Role Models for Success
Do you have a role model for success that you look up to ? An important key foundation in Neuro-linguistic Programming is modelling. To model, you emulate those who have already achieved success. You observe, analyse and then replicate the factors that contributed to the outstanding performance.
While there is no 100% guarantee that you can garner the same results, modelling helps you shorten your learning curve. You learn to avoid common mistakes and apply the essential steps and strategies that have helped your role model succeed. The idea is that it is much easier to follow a previously proven path to success.
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Self Love Series: Installing Love on the Human Computer
A customer ran into some computer problems and called the help desk for assistance. Here was how the conversation went….
Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
(Picture of my daughter, Hui)
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?
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