Evelyn
Evelyn
4 Money Healing Stories: Letting Go of the Past
Would you like to be inspired by money healing stories?
Well, I’d like to share some that belonged to my clients. I have had the privilege of helping them attain a mindset breakthrough that resulted in a change in their finances. For a long time, they were struggling with limiting beliefs that blocked the flow of money and their ability to generate better income. Most carried emotional money wounds that stemmed from the past.
Their money healing stories are transformative. They had to confront their fears and release their attachment to beliefs formed since young. I’m thankful to my clients for giving me a firsthand chance to learn about how it is possible to rewrite our stories for healing and greater empowerment. To protect their privacy, I have used pen names for them.
No matter how much effort she put in, Annie couldn’t seem to break through her glass income ceiling for her business. She’s constantly having money worries and that she’d never have enough. While we were working together, Annie experienced an “aha” moment. She suddenly realised how her unconscious limit in earnings came about.
Her dad had struggled to make a living when she was young. Unfortunately, Annie internalised some of the messages he had shared with her about his money troubles. During our session, she “saw” the amount that was written on the cheques he had been banking in from his job. To her surprise, it was the same amount that she has been earning for a long time from her business.
Annie worked on letting go of her glass ceiling. She gave herself the permission to make more than her dad. Annie no longer limits herself on what she can earn. As a result of her inner work, she has been generating income breakthroughs ever since. Annie found herself attracting bigger and bigger deals for her business.
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How to Heal Your Emotional Money Wounds
When it comes to healing money wounds, there are two important considerations:
1. Healing needs to involve the emotional layer.
2. Healing of money wounds is best resolved at root cause.
Let me explain more.
1. Healing Emotionally
The money behaviour or situation that you are in is influenced by what’s going on internally – your thoughts and feelings.
For some people, any talk about money tends to conjure plenty of negative feelings.
Feelings such as worry, frustration, sadness, anger and so on.
However, when emotions run high, they create a block or disrupt our energy system.
Our clarity and ability to process thoughts get reduced and we also find ourselves less able to take the necessary action that will help us improve our financial position.
Unfortunately, a block in our ability to manifest financial abundance can also impact our business or to get a job with a pay that we deserve.
How to Deep Dive into the Root Cause of Anger
You may get all fiery, red and hot when feeling angry.
It may also be that you lash out at others when you start to feel mad.
However, anger may not just be about getting triggered and exploding in an outward behaviour.
While you may feel justified about feeling angry, excessive anger can create an impact on your health and also hurt your relationships.
Hence, to alleviate intense emotional levels such as anger, an inner deep dive is warranted.
In fact, if you choose to investigate, you may just find out that there are deeper “onion” layers (emotionally and cognitively).
Refer to the image below for some examples on what you may discover.
What is the Fight-Flight-Freeze-Fawn Stress Response
Most of us have heard about the fight, flight and flee response to stress. But what about the fawn response? Well, let’s put them altogether so that we can understand the different responses in the face of stress.
Fight, flight or freeze is a set of stress response arising in natural body reactions to perceived threats. It’s a survival response that has been programmed since the days of our ancestors when there was real danger posed by dangerous animals. These days, the threats that we face are largely psychological. However, the body continues to respond in the same manner as if there is a tiger standing right in front of us.
In a nutshell, when faced with stress, your sympathetic nervous system is being activated. Hormones are released in your body after being stimulated by your adrenal glands; from a signal that was first transmitted to the hypothalamus by your amygdala, the emotional part of your brain. As a result, you are prompted to stay and fight, run and flee danger or stay frozen and stuck.
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Stop Gaslighting Yourself: Learn to Spot the 10 Signs
Could you be gaslighting yourself and not know it?
Apparently, the concept of gaslighting came from an old movie. In the show, the wife gradually feels disoriented after her husband turns the gaslights down slightly lower each night. When she notices the shift in lights, he would negate her observations by saying that it is all in her head. He’d also do things, such as hiding items and insisting that she lost them. His tactics are aimed at causing her to lose sanity.
While gaslighting appears to be an external psychological tactic, what’s troubling is that we can also be doing this to ourselves unconsciously. Self-gaslighting happens when we undermine ourselves so much such that we lose complete confidence. It can also happen if we are the subject of gaslighting by an external party and gradually over time, we start to internalise what was said to us.
Build Emotional Mastery: What is Emotional Labeling and Differentiation
Would like to build emotional mastery?
Interested to boost your emotional well-being, so that you can be a lot more resilient in the face of difficulties?
For a start, find out how emotional mastery can be attained through emotional labeling and differentiation of feelings.
For those of us who have repressed our feelings for a long time, emotional labeling and differentiation can be a difficult thing to do. Emotional labeling refers to identifying our emotions and emotional differentiation refers to naming our emotions with specificity and granularity. Both can be difficult to do because we’ve rarely had the chance to process our feelings. Since building emotional mastery or resilience has never been quite emphasised when we were young, it is no wonder that we have had little idea why it matters.
To understand why emotional labelling and differentiation helps, refer to the following scenario: Husband comes back from work, looking drained. Wife notices and asks him about his day. He responds by saying that he is feeling stressed. Wife simply accepts that her husband has had a difficult day, without realising that “stress” can mean a lot of things.
10 Tips for Conscious Reparenting of Your Inner Child
Do you often wish that you had received adequate love, guidance, support from your mum or dad when you were young?
It could be that you’re now realising that part of the challenging issues you have today are related to your childhood. Perhaps you have experienced emotional neglect in the past. You find yourself still longing for love and assurance even today.
This is not to blame any of your parents. After all, they parented you in the only way they knew how. They could have been brought up in the same or similar ways themselves. Yet, what remains is that your younger self or inner child still feels the need to have that love and acceptance.
Well, it is not too late. You can help yourself by addressing these needs in the now. Addressing unresolved needs helps you to build emotional resilience, strengthen self-confidence and esteem, and to undertake personal responsibility.
With all that you know now, with the higher consciousness that you are, you can offer parenting love, warmth and guidance to your inner child. Continue reading
10 Signs of Emotional Bullying: How to Spot Them
Emotional bullying is when a person tries to get what he or she wants by making another feel afraid, small and helpless.
It can happen in a children’s playground. Or it can happen in adult relationships. These days, emotional bullying can also take place online.
Emotional bullying brings about negative effects. If it is made repeatedly, the victim’s mental health can decline. Victims end up with depression, anxiety, shame, guilt and fear, and have difficulties showing up fully at work or in their business. Emotional wounds can create leaks in attracting money and abundance too.
Fortunately, it is possible for anyone to work on healing emotional wounds. In some situations, victims are not able to recognise that they have been bullied. Well, it is important for anyone to learn how to identify the signs so that you can tell if there has been bullying.
10 Automatic Negative Thoughts that You Need to Let Go of
Do you find yourself having negative thoughts that seem to pop in automatically?
Our minds are often programmed to think more negatively that positively. Automatic negative thoughts are often cognitive distortions. The American Psychological Association defines cognitive distortions as “faulty or inaccurate thinking, perception or belief.” For some people, cognitive distortions are a pattern of thinking that can lead to chronic anxiety, depression, and behavioural problems such as substance abuse.
Most of us have not been trained to observe our thoughts. It’s possible to be more aware about what our behaviour is like or even how we are feeling. Yet, what is driving our behaviour are our feelings that are also influenced by our thoughts.
Cognitive distortions formed the subject of study by Dr Aaron Beck. He proposed that we challenge our irrational and faulty thinking. Once we can break free from them, we are in a better position to change our behaviour.
EFT Tapping: Raise Your Energy Levels in the Morning
Do you sometimes wake up feeling tired but you’d really like to feel more energised and be in a better state of mind than yesterday?
Well, I’d like to share with you a morning routine that you can do. Tapping in the mornings have helped me to ground myself, become more energised and ready to go. In fact, many of my private clients got inspired to tap in the mornings as part of their daily routine.
So if you feel like you are needing a positive boost, I’d like to invite you to join me in this EFT tapping session…Continue reading