How to Overcome the Need for a Success Guarantee
“If we get our self-esteem from superficial places, from our popularity, appearance, business success, financial situation, health, any of these, we will be disappointed, because no one can guarantee that we’ll have them tomorrow.” Kathy Ireland
Stuck at a crossroad? One reason why you may feel stuck because you would like to have the guarantee of a successful outcome before you make a change. Having the guarantee of success gives you the perception that it is safe to give up what you already have. Without the guarantee, you prefer not to run any perceived risk.
One classic example of a crossroad: trying to decide whether to staying in your current job (which you hate) or starting a business (something more aligned with your passion but of which you have had little experience in). Before making any drastic move, you prefer to have the guarantee that the latter choice will be a good one. You want the certainty that things will turn out successful with the change.
Conflict Between the True Heart and Fear-Driven Mind
An inner conflict between the heart and mind arises.
Your heart whispers, “Go for it!”
But your mind warns that you could be giving up certainty for uncertainty. It is far too risky! There are far too many considerations at stake!
Fear also tells you that it is far safer to be in your current job. Your money gremlin dangles the ultimate carrot that keeps you frozen: staying put guarantees you the certainty of receiving a fixed salary every month. It is the false sense of security that fear creates.
Unraveling the Unconscious Money Myth
It took me some time to realize this: true security can only start when you are financially free. Having an employee job may offer the assurance of a regular income. However, depending on it alone does not guarantee financial freedom. Nor does it guarantee you fulfillment especially when you lack the passion for the work that you do. Hence, the belief that ultimate security can be found in an employee job is clearly a myth that you need to bust.
(Sadly, from decades of conditioning, many of us have bought into a wage-slave mentality. Including myself. I had to work through the embedded layers in the subconscious. Luckily, I have found that where conditioning runs deep, energy healing work can help.)
Being caught in yo-yo land can prove discomforting. You cannot decide what to do. At some point, you may even decide to see a fortune teller for a predictive reading. You figure that someone else may be able to help you make a decision. However, do note that no fortune teller can predict with 100 percent accuracy what is to happen. Not unless he or she is God. Besides, you will be putting your future in the hands of a fortune teller. This is clearly dangerous. Are you going to blame him or her if things did not turn out as predicted?
Overcome the Need for a Success Guarantee
Understand the mind’s need to attach. Fear drives you to cling on to what appears to be secure. However, it is merely the illusory story of safety that your mind tries to hang on to. Because it is an illusion, you are likely to tune into a sense of emptiness since the heart does not feel fulfilled.
Ask yourself if the mind is having power over your heart with the following questions:
– Do you hate what you are doing but have longings to pursue the dream of pursing what you love?
– Are you making the decision to be in the status quo due to fear?
– Are you in the fallacy of believing that there is absolute security found in an employee job?
Note that in no way am I suggesting that you be financially irresponsible. If you have immediate family obligations to fulfill, you need to take these into consideration before venturing into something new. However, don’t sacrifice your own dreams either. Instead, create a concrete plan to make a transition.
“A lot of people resist transition and therefore never allow themselves to enjoy who they are. Embrace the change, no matter what it is; once you do, you can learn about the new world you’re in and take advantage of it.” Nikki Giovanni
Most importantly, should you have an inner money gremlin to contend with, bust the beliefs and myths that it has. Pluck up the courage to meet your money gremlin in its playground. It usually resides in your subconscious mind. Ignore it and I can guarantee you that your chances of true success will diminish!
Love and abundance always,
Abundance Alchemy Coach | Work with Me
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